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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Women’s privacy and dignity

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Mrspenguinsschoolforfreaks · 07/09/2025 13:43

I’ve just been to my local leisure centre swimming pool and while I was in the changing rooms a woman walked in from the showers, fully naked. I averted my eyes, and she walked quite close past me in a way which to me (and I fully accept I may well have imagined it) felt a bit pointed. I felt vaguely uncomfortable and embarrassed in the same way I would have if a man had walked in naked.

My impression is that the vast majority of people on this forum believe that it is a fundamental breach of women’s privacy and dignity if people with male biology (whether cisgender men or trans women) share changing facilities with women. Yet they do not consider that it undermines a woman’s privacy or dignity to have to get changed in front of other women, or to see other women naked.

I understand that many women have had experiences with men’s exhibitionist or voyeuristic behaviour which makes them specifically uncomfortable being undressed around men, or being around men who are undressed. But I’ve often seen the argument on here that it equally undermines men’s privacy and dignity to have to share changing facilities with women.

So my question is, do you think privacy and dignity are not infringed by having to get changed in front of people of the same sex? If not, why not?

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LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 11/09/2025 07:03

Howseitgoin · 11/09/2025 06:44

Um, male toilets aren't fully self contained. Any one needing to use one would still need to access the shared bathroom space. Given trans people are significantly more at risk in the company of males from violent hate crimes than of women & there's no evidence of increased risk from trans people to women, it's a logical conclusion for them to use the women's bathroom.

It’s still no.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/09/2025 07:04

How does it depend what country you are in? Which country routinely accepts that all vulnerable men use women’s spaces?

ArabellaSaurus · 11/09/2025 07:04

while 96% of the cisgender prison population is male and 4% female, the trans prison population is 84% trans women and 16% trans men.

Oh look, sex matters when the people at Translucent want it to. Why even disaggregate by sex if they want everything based on 'gender identity'? And why are they so cruelly erasing the nonbinaries? the humanity.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/09/2025 07:06

Of course it does @ArabellaSaurus- cutted up pear.

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 11/09/2025 07:06

Howseitgoin · 11/09/2025 06:59

All sub groups of people have differing offending rates including male bodied men. See young v old, black v white, poor v rich etc.

"Transgender People, Crime and Prisons – Prevalence
While there is a consistent stream of media attention concerning trans people involved in crime, statistics show cisgender people commit crimes more regularly than trans people. The makeup of the England & Wales (E&W) prison population shows this:
The E & W cisgender population is 59.6 million – the cisgender prison population is 87,900 = 0.15% of people in E & W are in prison.
The E & W trans population is 262,000 – the trans prison population is 268 = 0.1% of trans people in E & W are in prison.
From this statistic, we learn that cisgender people commit crimes at a 50% higher rate than trans people.
Evidence from the research conducted by Olga Suhomlinova and Saoirse Caitlin O’Shea using official statistics dating from 2021 revealed that while 0.5% of the population identify as transgender or non-binary, they represented just 0.2% of the prison population.
Transgender People, Crime and Prisons – Trans Women & Trans Men
Another anomaly in the statistics is that while 96% of the cisgender prison population is male and 4% female, the trans prison population is 84% trans women and 16% trans men. The reasons likely include trans men suffering depression, anxiety, discrimination, unemployment issues, and, consequently, poverty. For safety reasons, trans men nearly always elect to be housed in the female estate. Likewise, as long as not convicted of any violent or threatening act against natal females, trans women should be housed according to the safety risk they face.

https://translucent.org.uk/transgender-people-crime-and-prisons/

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Translucent, an organisation set up and run by men pretending to be women, in order to dismantle women’s rights. It’s still no.

ThatBlackCat · 11/09/2025 07:07

Howseitgoin · 11/09/2025 06:44

Um, male toilets aren't fully self contained. Any one needing to use one would still need to access the shared bathroom space. Given trans people are significantly more at risk in the company of males from violent hate crimes than of women & there's no evidence of increased risk from trans people to women, it's a logical conclusion for them to use the women's bathroom.

Neither are females. And given the data proves transwomen sexually offend at 5 times greater than males, and there is no evidence of transwomen being at any risk at all, let alone an increased risk, it's a logical conclusion for males to use the MALE toilets. (We don't say 'bathroom' in Australia or the UK).

ArabellaSaurus · 11/09/2025 07:09

It is 'logical' for those concerned purely with the wellbeing and safety of men.

Its illogical for anyone concerned with the safety and wellbeing of women.

Its fucking unfair to anyone with basic moral sense that considers women are human beings with equal rights to men.

Only a male supremacist would claim a man's wellbeing and preference matters more than that of women's.

ThatBlackCat · 11/09/2025 07:10

Howseitgoin · 11/09/2025 06:59

All sub groups of people have differing offending rates including male bodied men. See young v old, black v white, poor v rich etc.

"Transgender People, Crime and Prisons – Prevalence
While there is a consistent stream of media attention concerning trans people involved in crime, statistics show cisgender people commit crimes more regularly than trans people. The makeup of the England & Wales (E&W) prison population shows this:
The E & W cisgender population is 59.6 million – the cisgender prison population is 87,900 = 0.15% of people in E & W are in prison.
The E & W trans population is 262,000 – the trans prison population is 268 = 0.1% of trans people in E & W are in prison.
From this statistic, we learn that cisgender people commit crimes at a 50% higher rate than trans people.
Evidence from the research conducted by Olga Suhomlinova and Saoirse Caitlin O’Shea using official statistics dating from 2021 revealed that while 0.5% of the population identify as transgender or non-binary, they represented just 0.2% of the prison population.
Transgender People, Crime and Prisons – Trans Women & Trans Men
Another anomaly in the statistics is that while 96% of the cisgender prison population is male and 4% female, the trans prison population is 84% trans women and 16% trans men. The reasons likely include trans men suffering depression, anxiety, discrimination, unemployment issues, and, consequently, poverty. For safety reasons, trans men nearly always elect to be housed in the female estate. Likewise, as long as not convicted of any violent or threatening act against natal females, trans women should be housed according to the safety risk they face.

https://translucent.org.uk/transgender-people-crime-and-prisons/

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'translucent' is not a valid source, it has a deliberate agenda to hide actual statistics that show the truth:

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Howseitgoin · 11/09/2025 07:10

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/09/2025 07:04

How does it depend what country you are in? Which country routinely accepts that all vulnerable men use women’s spaces?

Trans people have access to women's bathrooms in Ireland, Canada, Australia France, Norway Portugal, Spain, Japan, Hong Kong, & many states in the US just to name a few.

Howseitgoin · 11/09/2025 07:11

ThatBlackCat · 11/09/2025 07:10

'translucent' is not a valid source, it has a deliberate agenda to hide actual statistics that show the truth:

Translucent doesn't do data. The data is linked.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/09/2025 07:12

I quite clearly said all vulnerable men, not just the group of men who “identify” as women, @Howseitgoin do keep up.

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 11/09/2025 07:13

Mrspenguinsschoolforfreaks · 10/09/2025 23:57

Thank you for explaining that and for giving me the benefit of the doubt. I was posting in good faith, though I’m not going to pretend I’m new to this board, or that my views align with those of most people on here - I do feel differently about the inclusion of trans women in women’s single sex spaces and about the merits of unisex spaces. But I don’t pretend to have an answer in terms of how things should be set up in practise to reconcile the needs of all those affected. My encounter at the swimming pool got me thinking about how I feel about privacy and dignity and why it is different from those who firmly believe that privacy and dignity are dependent on single sex spaces.

i don’t think I’ve come across that other poster before. Some of the points they made seemed to me good ones, and I had sympathy with their frustrations with certain other posters, although I could see that the discussion quickly deteriorated into fairly pointless tit for tat on both sides

Magic No GIF by Morphin

‘I do feel differently about the inclusion of trans women in women’s single sex spaces and about the merits of unisex spaces.’

So you came here pretending to post in good faith, all wide eyed and reasonable, but what you actually want is to put men in SSS and remove the safety, dignity and privacy of women. You’re going to have to try a lot harder than that mate.

It’s still no.

ThatBlackCat · 11/09/2025 07:14

Howseitgoin · 11/09/2025 07:10

Trans people have access to women's bathrooms in Ireland, Canada, Australia France, Norway Portugal, Spain, Japan, Hong Kong, & many states in the US just to name a few.

They are not 'bathrooms'.

And trans men, ie females, have access to womens toilets in those countries.

Needapadlockonmyfridge · 11/09/2025 07:14

Apples and pears.

I would not worry about a naked female in my changing room.
Totally different from a man being in there (whatever he thinks/says he is).

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/09/2025 07:14

You’re not aware of the problems with the UK census data on “trans” then Howz? Figures 😂

ThatBlackCat · 11/09/2025 07:16

Howseitgoin · 11/09/2025 07:11

Translucent doesn't do data. The data is linked.

Their data is false and does not tell the actual story that every other actual prison department does.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/09/2025 07:16

ArabellaSaurus · 11/09/2025 07:09

It is 'logical' for those concerned purely with the wellbeing and safety of men.

Its illogical for anyone concerned with the safety and wellbeing of women.

Its fucking unfair to anyone with basic moral sense that considers women are human beings with equal rights to men.

Only a male supremacist would claim a man's wellbeing and preference matters more than that of women's.

Yep. And I take all these people equally seriously. Which isn’t very much at all.

Howseitgoin · 11/09/2025 07:20

ThatBlackCat · 11/09/2025 07:07

Neither are females. And given the data proves transwomen sexually offend at 5 times greater than males, and there is no evidence of transwomen being at any risk at all, let alone an increased risk, it's a logical conclusion for males to use the MALE toilets. (We don't say 'bathroom' in Australia or the UK).

There's no data that confirms those figures. Even the Police admit as much.

ThatBlackCat · 11/09/2025 07:21

Howseitgoin · 11/09/2025 07:20

There's no data that confirms those figures. Even the Police admit as much.

Show me where the police say it or admit you are lying. That data IS from the police!

Which outs you as a liar.

Howseitgoin · 11/09/2025 07:22

ThatBlackCat · 11/09/2025 07:10

'translucent' is not a valid source, it has a deliberate agenda to hide actual statistics that show the truth:

Those charts have long been debunked & are not officially from the UK gov.
medium.com/@davidallsopp/bang-to-rights-d5eab85d9a2

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 11/09/2025 07:23

Howseitgoin · 11/09/2025 07:10

Trans people have access to women's bathrooms in Ireland, Canada, Australia France, Norway Portugal, Spain, Japan, Hong Kong, & many states in the US just to name a few.

Magic No GIF by Morphin

I see your geography hasn’t improved. Are any of those places here in the UK?

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 11/09/2025 07:24

ThatBlackCat · 11/09/2025 07:21

Show me where the police say it or admit you are lying. That data IS from the police!

Which outs you as a liar.

A liar you say? I am all astonishment.

ThatBlackCat · 11/09/2025 07:26

Howseitgoin · 11/09/2025 07:22

Those charts have long been debunked & are not officially from the UK gov.
medium.com/@davidallsopp/bang-to-rights-d5eab85d9a2

That is not an actual link, it is a trans propagandist and anti-womens rights activist blogger who doesn't understand 'per capita' and who says this:

"The graphic also maliciously misgenders trans women by calling them “men who identify as women”."

Right there, that makes your 'source' null and void in itself.

The fact that my images have stats from the UK, US and Canada and they all align statistically shows it is a uniform trajectory.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/09/2025 07:27

ThatBlackCat · 11/09/2025 07:26

That is not an actual link, it is a trans propagandist and anti-womens rights activist blogger who doesn't understand 'per capita' and who says this:

"The graphic also maliciously misgenders trans women by calling them “men who identify as women”."

Right there, that makes your 'source' null and void in itself.

The fact that my images have stats from the UK, US and Canada and they all align statistically shows it is a uniform trajectory.

Edited

Oh no, not a “malicious misgendering”! How dare we!

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