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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Women's 'Private Spaces'

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Howseitgoin · 26/08/2025 03:45

Clearly private spaces for women are considered a necessity by many due to a propensity for male sexual violence. Given this threat is much greater by orders of magnitude in the work place as opposed to public bathrooms, isn't it inconsistent not to demand private spaces there as well?
Thoughts?

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myplace · 27/08/2025 07:54

I too was once trapped in the belief that persistence was a virtue. I wasted years of my life and blew my health trying to flog a dead horse.

Noticing when you are wrong, when something isn’t working, and making changes are far better qualities than dogged, persistent, endurance.

Flexibility is key.
typo

Ereshkigalangcleg · 27/08/2025 07:54

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 27/08/2025 04:00

The fact that your response to a ten year old girl being seriously sexually assaulted by a trans identifying man in a female only space is a facetious remark and an emoji tells us everything we need to know about you.

It really does.

Helleofabore · 27/08/2025 07:56

Howseitgoin · 27/08/2025 07:18

No, you were asked why you referred to KD as ‘he’, then claimed you didn’t know he was a TiM despite the fact that information was clearly presented to you in the thread. So, why did you?

Listen here bro, do you have any idea what its like to be laser focused on 500 odd comments much of which is irrelevant meandering nonsense? That I misspoke on an inane issue is all you have tells me you don't got nothin' else of substance.

Get over it.

By the way, I really don't think that any female people have to 'get over' a male person entering into a toilet to rape girls.

I mean, do tell us:

How many additional women and girls being attacked or harmed in anyway in female single sex spaces are acceptable to you before we can expect to exclude ALL male people above the age of 8 years old?

Helleofabore · 27/08/2025 07:59

myplace · 27/08/2025 07:52

Lots of projection from Howse. Lots.

It is enough to light up not just Melbourne's cinemas but also the Coburg and Dromana drive-in as well!

Ereshkigalangcleg · 27/08/2025 08:00

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 27/08/2025 05:22

I once listened to someone tell me, apparently in all seriousness, that a huge number of transphobia-motivated murders aren't captured in the statistics.

The conversation went like this:

Me: The number of trans people who are victims of murder is less than one per year on average in the UK.
Them: You can't trust the statistics, the data about trans people is unreliable.
Me: Why wouldn't the murders of trans people be captured in the statistics?
Them: Because they aren't being recorded or reported. Because the police are transphobic.
Me: The same police that bedeck themselves in rainbows every Pride month and tell the general public that misgendering is a hate crime? Those police?
Them: Yeah the police are super transphobic, everyone knows that. So when trans people are murdered they just cover it up.
Me: You think the police are involved in a large scale cover up of murdered trans people? Where are they hiding the bodies?
Them: They don't hide the bodies but the victims are just recorded as their birth sex. To be honest the police might not even know they were trans.
Me: Wouldn't their families think to tell the police they were trans?
Them: They might not be in touch with their families. Many trans people are estranged from their families after they come out, or their families would pretend they were cis and bury them under their dead name. Or their families might not even know they were trans, a lot of trans people aren't out.
Me: Wouldn't the police interview their friends, who would tell them that the victim was trans?
Them: No because the police don't listen to the trans community. Also the person might not have any friends. Or they might have friends but their friends don't know they are trans, because they're not out.
Me: OK, but the police are also going to look at their social media activist and internet history so I'm pretty sure the police will figure out that they were trans even if no one in their life was aware of it.
Them: Yeah but then they'd cover it up.
Me: Sorry but I don't believe that the police are just covering up the murders of trans people and that their families and friends aren't all over the media about it like Brianna Ghey's family. Or that the trans community wouldn't be raising awareness about the murder of one of their own.
Them: The trans community are oppressed and voiceless. And also the person might not have any friends, trans people are very isolated.
Me: The thing is, we know who a lot of trans people are and we know they're not being murdered at a higher rate than any other demographic. So I still don't understand where you think all these missing trans people are?
Them: Well, they're trans people who aren't out, obviously. Duh!
Me: Why do you think they're being murdered?
Them: Because they're trans!
Me: Even though they're not out?
Them: Yes, obviously. That can happen.
Me: Well yes, a trans person who is not out can be murdered. But it's not motivated by transphobia, is it?
Them: Any murder of a trans person is motivated by transphobia.
Me: But if their friends and family don't know they're trans, and the police investigating their murder don't know they're trans, how does the murderer know they're trans?
Them: The murderer doesn't know either.
Me: Well then it's not motivated by transphobia, is it?
Them: Stop minimising the murders of trans people!
Me: I'm not minimising the murders of trans people. I'm just not convinced there is much to minimise here. I simply don't believe that trans people are being murdered in large numbers without anyone being aware of it.
Them: Every murder of a trans person is a tragedy!
Me: Every murder is a tragedy. It's not more of a tragedy because the victim was trans.
Them: Don't "all lives matter" me!
Me: All lives do matter though...

I’ve had similar conversations!

Helleofabore · 27/08/2025 08:01

Come to think of it, the growing Materhorn will need its own beacon, so that projection will come in useful.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 27/08/2025 08:03

The plain fact of the matter is that risk of murder is less for trans identified males than other men of the same race. In every society you care to look at. Even “black trans women” in America.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 27/08/2025 08:06

Howseitgoin · 27/08/2025 07:38

No. I think you should do further research on the very numbers you have been relying on over two threads.
If you are relying on it, you should have confidence in your evidence. I posted a long post about those statistics, yet you keep dismissing other people's evidence as being unreliable. I don't even think that you read more than top lines or read the information that suits your obvious biased view. Perhaps it is time that you did your own work, rather than relying on others like Allsop.

I have researched the numbers & there's nothing that renders Allsop analysis flawed.

Apart from all the flaws in his analysis which have been pointed out to you?

Such as the fact that you can't take rates of incarceration for black people in America and extrapolate your findings to trans people in the UK, who are in fact treated more leniently by the court system?

And the fact that he says the prison stats are unreliable because they don't take into account prisoners with GRCs, but fails to realise that this in fact means the number of trans identifying male sex offenders recorded in the statistics is most likely an underestimate?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 27/08/2025 08:07

Howseitgoin · 27/08/2025 07:05

"How the fuck is anyone supposed to know whether he genuinely believes he identifies as a woman or not?
The fact that he molests children would suggest that he doesn't."

Um, you realise there's such a thing as female pedos right? Oh wait…

By the way, you didn't answer the question about how anyone is supposed to know whether he genuinely believes he identifies as a woman or not.

What's the test?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 27/08/2025 08:10

Howseitgoin · 27/08/2025 07:24

What are behaviour associations to women?

Already done that. Read the thread.

Would you become a penguin if you had ‘behaviour associations to penguins’?

Would I become a penguin if I acted like one? I guess you could say I had the personality of a penguin.

I think that the whole conflict with this issue is how its framed. If the slogan was 'trans women were more like women than men behaviourally' instead on 'trans women are women' would it be so upsetting?

Seems very unnecessarily nit picky to me…

I think that the whole conflict with this issue is how its framed. If the slogan was 'trans women were more like women than men behaviourally' instead on 'trans women are women' would it be so upsetting?

Yes, it would be equally upsetting and also equally untrue.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 27/08/2025 08:10

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 27/08/2025 08:06

Apart from all the flaws in his analysis which have been pointed out to you?

Such as the fact that you can't take rates of incarceration for black people in America and extrapolate your findings to trans people in the UK, who are in fact treated more leniently by the court system?

And the fact that he says the prison stats are unreliable because they don't take into account prisoners with GRCs, but fails to realise that this in fact means the number of trans identifying male sex offenders recorded in the statistics is most likely an underestimate?

I’ve seen figures from the Prison service which suggest a figure of GRCs in the early teens. Which in itself is quite striking when only a few thousand men have one. I think there’s a level of length of time in prison before that is recorded too. So we’re not talking about people in there for weeks, but in there for more serious crimes. No judge is going to send a trans identified male with a GRC to prison for shoplifting.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 27/08/2025 08:12

Ereshkigalangcleg · 27/08/2025 08:00

I’ve had similar conversations!

Think we might both have had that conversation back in the day with the cold chap and the chap who isn't fluent in French in the brightly coloured place.

juldan · 27/08/2025 08:12

Howseitgoin · 27/08/2025 06:12

"Are you now saying that tranwomen are women… except when they are in prison? Is that why you refer to Dolatowski as ‘he’? So, apparently being incarcerated male people with transgender identities are no longer to be considered women? Yet you have spoken about these males being part of womanhood (and by extension, girlhood). However, being a woman or girl is not something that can be ever taken away. Because it is an abiding category label for a human of the female sex.
Incarcerated female people are still women…

It is pretty clear that you never believed that a group of male people were female. Female people having single sex provisions seem to really agitate you though."

No. Trans women just like CIS women are capable of committing rape. Their individual criminality has no bearing on whether they qualify as women.

oh and no, Allslop didn’t debunk anything at all. And unsurprisingly, a court would consider those numbers published under FOI to be an accurate indication of numbers of male people with transgender identities in UK prison and would correctly compare those numbers to male and female prison statistics when needed.

Yeah where? In fact the high court did look at those numbers & found they were statistically insignificant.

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2021/jul/02/trans-women-with-sex-offence-convictions-in-female-jails-lawful-rules-judge

😂

@Howseitgoin “No. Trans women just like CIS women are capable of committing rape. Their individual criminality has no bearing on whether they qualify as women.”
NO mate. Women CANNOT rape because they do not have penises. Please check the law “Legally, a person without a penis cannot commit rape”
So the only people who can rape are biological males. Women do commit sexual assaults including assisting with rape, but as no woman has a penis they can’t rape.

nutmeg7 · 27/08/2025 08:14

Howseitgoin · 27/08/2025 07:35

To be fair, penguins can’t say they are penguins. However we don’t need them to. They may have no behavioural associations with penguins, having been brought up by Geese, but they will still be penguins.

Their physiology would be penguin but not their personality. See where this is going?

"I’m interested in the idea that you think swathes of women are reading your words and realising that men can indeed be women. I find it unlikely, personally."

Not all women are closed thinkers. That you assume everyone is like you is very telling.

Of course there are those that will never be convinced regardless of cold hard facts but you can still penetrate their consciousness over time. Undermining indoctrination isn't an impossibility.

“Closed thinkers” 🤣🤣🤣

Because we don’t believe humans can change sex?

You’d believe anything. Or pretend you do.

nutmeg7 · 27/08/2025 08:16

Helleofabore · 27/08/2025 08:01

Come to think of it, the growing Materhorn will need its own beacon, so that projection will come in useful.

😂😂😂

Helleofabore · 27/08/2025 08:17

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 27/08/2025 08:06

Apart from all the flaws in his analysis which have been pointed out to you?

Such as the fact that you can't take rates of incarceration for black people in America and extrapolate your findings to trans people in the UK, who are in fact treated more leniently by the court system?

And the fact that he says the prison stats are unreliable because they don't take into account prisoners with GRCs, but fails to realise that this in fact means the number of trans identifying male sex offenders recorded in the statistics is most likely an underestimate?

My personal fave was the fact that long time prisoners would skew the data for those who are male with transgender identities.

I mean ... classic!!! Fancy making that statement while ignoring that the same effect will impact the data for male people without a transgender identity. But apparently, Allsop's work is commendable and debunks the statistics. You really cannot make this up!

Just to add, that UK prison data also includes those male people in the UK who may claim systemic racism.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 27/08/2025 08:17

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 27/08/2025 08:12

Think we might both have had that conversation back in the day with the cold chap and the chap who isn't fluent in French in the brightly coloured place.

Do you mean the one with the aggressive guy who lives with rabbits?

PinkStingray · 27/08/2025 08:18

Thank you OP.
It's treads like yours that allow us to hear more from some of the best brains here.
It's people like you that help many here, that have been lurking and listening to peak!

TheKeatingFive · 27/08/2025 08:20

It's great hearing from people like the OP. If anyone needed further confirmation that this movement is fundamentally a Male Rights Activist one, he has demonstrated that beautifully.

Helleofabore · 27/08/2025 08:20

See OP. You are doing an pearl of a job here.

Good work!

DrBlackbird · 27/08/2025 08:23

Merrymouse · 27/08/2025 07:40

Their physiology would be penguin but not their personality. See where this is going?

No idea. The penguin would still be a penguin.

Why not just explain the behaviours you think are common to women?

I read the OP and saw the direction of travel but applaud all the many efforts to engage this poster’s critical thinking. Such posters just never answer the hard questions and instead resort to and rely on illogical sarcasm as their rebuttals.

Hopefully other lurkers reading the thread will understand some of the key issues. This perspective, however, does tell us why Australian women have had rights removed and why they’re threatened so violently by TRAs. The image of the hysterical TW beating a drum under the nose of the police horse comes to mind.

Helleofabore · 27/08/2025 08:23

Anyone else like to answer

How many additional women and girls being attacked or harmed in anyway in female single sex spaces are acceptable to you before we can expect to exclude ALL male people above the age of 8 years old?

My answer is 0, nil, zero.

TheKeatingFive · 27/08/2025 08:24

I'd still like to know what a penguin personality is ...

Playful? Class clown type? Is that it?

borntobequiet · 27/08/2025 08:27

Gosh! Was out all of yesterday so never even spotted this. Haven’t RTFT but enough to see that the OP is displaying massive determination to promote the admission of men into women’s single sex spaces.

The fact that they misunderstand and misquote the actual law, are rude, entitled and dismissive and show not the slightest empathy towards women rather undermines their case.

TheKeatingFive · 27/08/2025 08:27

Helleofabore · 27/08/2025 08:23

Anyone else like to answer

How many additional women and girls being attacked or harmed in anyway in female single sex spaces are acceptable to you before we can expect to exclude ALL male people above the age of 8 years old?

My answer is 0, nil, zero.

Also 0.

I'd be disgusted by anyone who l's answer is higher. But clearly there are many of them around 🤬

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