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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Women's 'Private Spaces'

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Howseitgoin · 26/08/2025 03:45

Clearly private spaces for women are considered a necessity by many due to a propensity for male sexual violence. Given this threat is much greater by orders of magnitude in the work place as opposed to public bathrooms, isn't it inconsistent not to demand private spaces there as well?
Thoughts?

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MissScarletInTheBallroom · 27/08/2025 03:05

Howseitgoin · 27/08/2025 03:04

"I'm asking YOU to tell us what YOU think those commonalities are. Surely as you seem to have a better capacity for understanding the intricacies of this than the rest of us you could spell it out for us."

I refer to data that I linked is what I 'think'.

You mean that risible Williams Institute link?

Howseitgoin · 27/08/2025 03:07

I am trying to understand what thing I have in common with trans women that means it's more appropriate for them to share showers and changing rooms with me than with members of their own sex.
I'd say it's pretty damn relevant.
Very telling that you can't name a single thing.

The justification for their inclusion is safety. Their more of a risk of them abused in male bathrooms & no risk to women in theirs.

That trans women share behavioural commonalities with women doesn't come into public risk assessment.

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MissScarletInTheBallroom · 27/08/2025 03:08

Howseitgoin · 27/08/2025 03:07

I am trying to understand what thing I have in common with trans women that means it's more appropriate for them to share showers and changing rooms with me than with members of their own sex.
I'd say it's pretty damn relevant.
Very telling that you can't name a single thing.

The justification for their inclusion is safety. Their more of a risk of them abused in male bathrooms & no risk to women in theirs.

That trans women share behavioural commonalities with women doesn't come into public risk assessment.

So your justification for their inclusion is that it benefits them (but doesn't benefit us).

And you still can't name a single one of these behavioural commonalities we allegedly share?

And you are still lying about there being no risk to women from having hulking great males in our single sex spaces, despite having been told I don't know how many times that the thing you say doesn't happen has actually happened.

Boiledbeetle · 27/08/2025 03:08

Howseitgoin · 27/08/2025 03:01

"Both groups are men."

Yeah that's the point. Reproductive males don't all behave the same way. FFS…

I don't care if it's a virulent horny rapist, the Pope, the really nice man who fixed my washing machine yesterday or the really shy quiet wouldn't hurt a fly neighbour of mine who used to be called John and is now called Jane. I know that statistically I'm more at risk from a man than I am a woman. And so I don't want any of them in a women only single sex space.

Boiledbeetle · 27/08/2025 03:10

Howseitgoin · 27/08/2025 03:04

"I'm asking YOU to tell us what YOU think those commonalities are. Surely as you seem to have a better capacity for understanding the intricacies of this than the rest of us you could spell it out for us."

I refer to data that I linked is what I 'think'.

So you've got nothing you can pull from your own head then? Good to know.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 27/08/2025 03:11

Boiledbeetle · 27/08/2025 03:10

So you've got nothing you can pull from your own head then? Good to know.

And nothing in the "data" he keeps wibbling on about either.

Boiledbeetle · 27/08/2025 03:12

Howseitgoin · 27/08/2025 03:07

I am trying to understand what thing I have in common with trans women that means it's more appropriate for them to share showers and changing rooms with me than with members of their own sex.
I'd say it's pretty damn relevant.
Very telling that you can't name a single thing.

The justification for their inclusion is safety. Their more of a risk of them abused in male bathrooms & no risk to women in theirs.

That trans women share behavioural commonalities with women doesn't come into public risk assessment.

The justification for their inclusion is safety. Their more of a risk of them abused in male bathrooms & no risk to women in theirs.

Well that's just bollocks.

Howseitgoin · 27/08/2025 03:24

"I know that statistically I'm more at risk from a man than I am a woman."

Yes we get it, nuance isn't your strong point.

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MissScarletInTheBallroom · 27/08/2025 03:25

Howseitgoin · 27/08/2025 03:24

"I know that statistically I'm more at risk from a man than I am a woman."

Yes we get it, nuance isn't your strong point.

Any news on those commonalities I allegedly share with Katie Dolatowski?

Howseitgoin · 27/08/2025 03:25

So your justification for their inclusion is that it benefits them (but doesn't benefit us).

Talk about delusional entitlement. Laws aren't required to 'benefit' you only to prevent harm.

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Boiledbeetle · 27/08/2025 03:26

Howseitgoin · 27/08/2025 03:24

"I know that statistically I'm more at risk from a man than I am a woman."

Yes we get it, nuance isn't your strong point.

Condescension appears to be yours though.

Heggettypeg · 27/08/2025 03:27

Howseitgoin · 27/08/2025 02:52

"What commonalities do they have with women that they do not also have with men?"
As I already explained upthread the sexes share personality traits which are 'sexed' IE more common to a particular sex. On an individual basis this can mean a 'reproductive' male may exhibit personality traits more common in females & vice versa that implicates their behavioural patterns overall having more in common with females as a group. IE Femininty, Agreeableness, Neuroticism etc.
pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3149680/

I used, naively, to believe that identifying as a woman would automatically mean that a trans woman would be someone who fits in in women's spaces. Unfortunately, a good many of the ones who are most hell bent on getting into woman's single sex spaces seem to have a far higher level of male chauvinist piggery than the average man (most of whom wouldn't dream of carrying on like they do).

Frankly, if I was a trans woman who wanted to convince some reluctant women that I was a woman just like them who "only wants to pee", I wouldn't try to advance the dialogue by telling them to "suck my girl dick". As a statement of feminist solidarity it lacks a certain something, don't you think? Yet it seems to be a popular TRA riposte.

And don't get me started on the rowdy women's-meeting-disrupters and the piss-protestors, and on the "this is me on the women's toilet" pictures, and on the delightful people whose contributions to the debate are catalogued on the website called "terfisaslur".

You will probably argue that they are "only a minority", but there seem to be quite a few of them and they certainly exist. They're not fit to be within a hundred miles of any women's single-sex spaces. And in most cases, except for high profile characters like Sarah Jane Baker, we don't know who they are.

Howseitgoin · 27/08/2025 03:27

"And nothing in the "data" he keeps wibbling on about either."

= Can't process anything contrary to JK agit prop…..

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MissScarletInTheBallroom · 27/08/2025 03:28

Howseitgoin · 27/08/2025 03:25

So your justification for their inclusion is that it benefits them (but doesn't benefit us).

Talk about delusional entitlement. Laws aren't required to 'benefit' you only to prevent harm.

But you're only concerned about preventing harm to trans identifying men.

You're not concerned at all about preventing harm to women and girls.

Women and girls are the much bigger group and less physically able to defend themselves so preventing harm to them should be a bigger priority.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 27/08/2025 03:29

Heggettypeg · 27/08/2025 03:27

I used, naively, to believe that identifying as a woman would automatically mean that a trans woman would be someone who fits in in women's spaces. Unfortunately, a good many of the ones who are most hell bent on getting into woman's single sex spaces seem to have a far higher level of male chauvinist piggery than the average man (most of whom wouldn't dream of carrying on like they do).

Frankly, if I was a trans woman who wanted to convince some reluctant women that I was a woman just like them who "only wants to pee", I wouldn't try to advance the dialogue by telling them to "suck my girl dick". As a statement of feminist solidarity it lacks a certain something, don't you think? Yet it seems to be a popular TRA riposte.

And don't get me started on the rowdy women's-meeting-disrupters and the piss-protestors, and on the "this is me on the women's toilet" pictures, and on the delightful people whose contributions to the debate are catalogued on the website called "terfisaslur".

You will probably argue that they are "only a minority", but there seem to be quite a few of them and they certainly exist. They're not fit to be within a hundred miles of any women's single-sex spaces. And in most cases, except for high profile characters like Sarah Jane Baker, we don't know who they are.

Absolutely this.

I would actually rather have to share a changing room with my male boss than any of these violent thugs who insist that they are women and demand access to women's spaces.

Howseitgoin · 27/08/2025 03:31

"You will probably argue that they are "only a minority", but there seem to be quite a few of them and they certainly exist."

'up yours' = can't possibly be a woman

More stereotyping from the anti stereotyping brigade?
GC's: Inconsistencies R US!

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Howseitgoin · 27/08/2025 03:32

"You're not concerned at all about preventing harm to women and girls."

Imagined harm doesn't qualify as actual harm.

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MissScarletInTheBallroom · 27/08/2025 03:34

Howseitgoin · 27/08/2025 03:32

"You're not concerned at all about preventing harm to women and girls."

Imagined harm doesn't qualify as actual harm.

The actual sexual assaults experienced by women and girls at the hands of trans identifying men are not "imagined harm".

You disgust me.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 27/08/2025 03:35

Katie Dolatowski's youngest known victim was TEN YEARS OLD.

How can we keep girls like her safe if we have to let men like him into women's single sex spaces?

Thankfully the Supreme Court has kicked these vile specimens and their pathetic apologists into touch and we now know that they are not allowed to be in our spaces.

Boiledbeetle · 27/08/2025 03:36

It's a strange strategy OP is using. It seems to be If I insult them in every post they'll see the error of their ways and finally realise transwomen have so much in common with women that they must be allowed into women's single sex spaces.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 27/08/2025 03:38

Boiledbeetle · 27/08/2025 03:36

It's a strange strategy OP is using. It seems to be If I insult them in every post they'll see the error of their ways and finally realise transwomen have so much in common with women that they must be allowed into women's single sex spaces.

It's quite clear that even the OP doesn't believe we have anything in common with trans women, but that doesn't matter to him.

The only thing that matters to him is these men getting what they want.

Well, what happens in Australia is Australia's lookout, but I am proud to be from TERF Island where the rights and needs of women and girls have finally been acknowledged and protected.

Howseitgoin · 27/08/2025 03:38

"The actual sexual assaults experienced by women and girls at the hands of trans identifying men are not "imagined harm".
You disgust me."

All groups 'actually' sexually offend including women. You gonna ban them too? Single loos only now? No. Your hypocrisy disgusts me.

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Howseitgoin · 27/08/2025 03:39

"let men like him into"

Earth to poster: Rapists don't require 'permission' to go about their business.

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MissScarletInTheBallroom · 27/08/2025 03:41

Howseitgoin · 27/08/2025 03:38

"The actual sexual assaults experienced by women and girls at the hands of trans identifying men are not "imagined harm".
You disgust me."

All groups 'actually' sexually offend including women. You gonna ban them too? Single loos only now? No. Your hypocrisy disgusts me.

In which case trans identifying men are surely just as much risk from women in women's toilets as they are from men in men's toilets, right? So they might as well go in men's toilets since the risk is the same, according to you.

Howseitgoin · 27/08/2025 03:41

t's a strange strategy OP is using. It seems to be If I insult them in every post they'll see the error of their ways and finally realise transwomen have so much in common with women that they must be allowed into women's single sex spaces.

Oh you don't like the snarky mirror? Don't expect what you don't reflect.

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