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YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 22/08/2025 16:12

Very glad this sex offender has been found guilty. Worrying that the judge says the prison service needs to think carefully where they place this male offender. Hopefully in a male prison.

SerendipityJane · 22/08/2025 16:13

To be fair, it's their job to try and pull apart the victim's testimony/prosecution's case and I doubt they had much else to work with.

Which is what they also have to do with rape victims 😧

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SidewaysOtter · 22/08/2025 16:19

Transgender Reddit are up in arms about how unfair this is on trans people in that they either have to disclose their transness (which is an assault on their human rights) or risk being put on the sex offender register.

The absolute low is a poster who claims "Watkin moved the man's hand away when he went to touch her breast and thigh and told him she was on her period to stop him feeling below her waist, the court heard" means Watkin was sexually assaulted and is therefore the true victim here. The DARVO is real Hmm

SidewaysOtter · 22/08/2025 16:21

SerendipityJane · 22/08/2025 16:13

To be fair, it's their job to try and pull apart the victim's testimony/prosecution's case and I doubt they had much else to work with.

Which is what they also have to do with rape victims 😧

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Yes, and it's why I think some things should be off-limits for defence teams, e.g. insinuations that a victim "asked for it" because she was wearing a short skirt or was out alone late at night.

TheCatsTongue · 22/08/2025 16:24

The victim may well have known (and it is pretty difficult not to know), if it is victim blaming so be it, I judge every case on its own merits, questioning the victim here does not mean we have to question girls who have been duped by much more convincing FtMs.

It was the text messages that incriminated Watkin, and from that evidence it's an open and shut case. There should've been explicit statement of trans status, all we have is written evidence of the announcement after sexual activity.

The moral of the story is to be open about it and not to think that announcing it afterwards is a laugh.

myplace · 22/08/2025 16:30

This reminds me of another case- the one where a transgirl was filmed giving someone a blowjob, and he didn’t realise?

I still feel very sad for the 13yr old boy who got lashes and lips and thought he could be a woman.
Clearly a drug user.
Makes an exceptionally ‘ugly’ transwoman.

Clearly also assault though.
And his victim who may also have been under the influence, has to live with it while seeing these photos and wondering how the hell it happened.

myplace · 22/08/2025 16:31

I’m trying to remember the case where they filmed- wasn’t there something about roller skating and a really serious assault?

Maybe it didn’t involve a transwoman.

ArabellaScott · 22/08/2025 16:41

'Imo, if you havent disclosed that you're trans when you have sexual relations with someone, you are taking a massive risk. You could end up in jail, on the sex offenders register, assaulted or killed. It is not worth that risk. '

From Reddit. Note the absolutely screaming absence of a single thought for the victim of sexual assault's feelings, desires, or concerns. Or the morality of trying to deceive someone.

It's a crime to deceive a sexual partner about your sex. It's illegal under the Sexual Offences Act. It's wrong.

Velmy · 22/08/2025 16:52

RoseAndGeranium · 21/08/2025 08:08

But that’s a ridiculous way to live a life! I think Owen Jones is a deranged antisemite and an unpleasant little misogynist (for example) but I follow him on Twitter and read some of his articles because it’s important to know what people who disagree with you are thinking and to understand some of why they think it. And even OJ isn’t wrong about everything, all the time. I mean, sure, approach different media with caution, and I’d definitely include the DM in that because it’s obviously not an impartial or even entirely scrupulous reporter of the facts but it’s still a useful source of information! Do these delicate flowers think they’ll be tainted by contact or is it just virtue signalling and cancel culture?

Some people don't want to fund them by giving them traffic, which is fair enough.

I stumbled across a cool app recently where you could search up a news story and it would show you comparisons of how the left, right and center-leaning media reported on it. Which bits of the story they highlighted, what language they used to describe the subject, what they omitted.

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 22/08/2025 16:58

PatrickBaitman · 21/08/2025 10:51

I've been researching this topic on various trans subreddits. I would say most of the online trans community doesn't consider that trans women have the slightest moral obligation at any point to share (to lesbians or hetero males) that they are biologically male, even if they are post-op.

The typical answer to a question of "Should we share that we are trans when dating or taking someone home? is always this:

  1. You don't have any obligation to share it, it's private health info, and besides, trans women are women.
  2. You should share it, but only for your own safety or your own feelings(getting rejected at a later stage=hurts more for the trans).
  3. Or that saying they are trans early may filter out the ones not interested, thus making their online dating game more successful.

Only when there is talk about long term relationships some of them admit that it should be disclosed. Incredibly, some of them don't even admit any moral obligation even in long term relationships.

I have seen almost no replies where the concern for the partners feelings are considered. It's always for their safety or other considerations concerning them that is the priority.

For a group of people which whole life seems to evolve around feelings about identity, I find it wildly egoistic and narcissistic to totally ignore that the partners feeling of sexual identity in most cases evolves around what sex they are attracted to.

For a heterosexual male like me, it would feel like a sort of existential crisis to be tricked into having sex with another male. It's something that can't be undone. (And Im pretty liberal and have high self confidence etc, must be worse for a young insecure man). I don't know if the feeling is the same for a lesbian, but I assume so after what I have read. And Im sure the trans community have seen the polls/statistics that state like 95-98% of natal people wouldnt have sex with someone trans.

As a narcissistic male myself I do recognize the thinking pattern and the logic of these trans women. And let me tell you I am 100% sure that tricking someone into going all the way with them with them not noticing they as a trans woman is the ultimate achievement for them. They probably get off just thinking about it. At least the autogynephilic ones. So they won't accept to hear that this is morally wrong, it's probably phobic just if one of their own suggest such a thing.

Thank god most of them don't really look like women, or dating would be like a penis mine field.

https://www.reddit.com/r/transgenderUK/comments/1mx62k0/transgender_woman_guilty_of_sex_assaults_on_man/

Clown land is not at all on the side of the victim and some consider it fine to lie.

ArabellaScott · 22/08/2025 17:02

https://www.cps.gov.uk/north-east/news/transgender-woman-convicted-sexual-assaults

'Sarah Nelson, Senior Crown Prosecutor at CPS North East, said: “It is clear from the evidence in this case that, prior to engaging in sexual activity with the victim, Watkin had made no attempt to inform him of her transgender status.
“The Crown Prosecution Service has shown that, by failing to disclose this to him, it would not have been possible for him to give informed consent to sexual activity.'

That's from the CPS. 'Stealthing' is sexual assault.

Transgender woman convicted of sexual assaults | The Crown Prosecution Service

https://www.cps.gov.uk/north-east/news/transgender-woman-convicted-sexual-assaults

misscockerspaniel · 22/08/2025 17:06

SerendipityJane · 22/08/2025 13:40

So victim blaming then.

No, it isn't victim blaming: It is clear from his subsequent actions of reporting the crime and putting himself through a court case, that the victim did not know the truth. But to me, as a female, it was pretty obvious from the photos that the defendant was male. That said, I am surprised that the defence team went as far as to point out that fact as it would not have been a nice thing for their client to hear. I am glad that the police and the cps took the matter seriously, and that the jury found the defendant guilty.

BunfightBetty · 22/08/2025 17:11

YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 22/08/2025 16:12

Very glad this sex offender has been found guilty. Worrying that the judge says the prison service needs to think carefully where they place this male offender. Hopefully in a male prison.

Yes, I got worried when I read this, but after the SC ruling I can't see how they could put him in a women's prison.

Are there any trans wings/facilities? I'm guessing not in every jail, but there should be something, even if he has to be incarcerated far from home, shouldn't there?

What I don't want to happen is for him to avoid a custodial sentence because of squeamishness about accommodating his preferences.

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BunfightBetty · 22/08/2025 17:26

SidewaysOtter · 22/08/2025 16:19

Transgender Reddit are up in arms about how unfair this is on trans people in that they either have to disclose their transness (which is an assault on their human rights) or risk being put on the sex offender register.

The absolute low is a poster who claims "Watkin moved the man's hand away when he went to touch her breast and thigh and told him she was on her period to stop him feeling below her waist, the court heard" means Watkin was sexually assaulted and is therefore the true victim here. The DARVO is real Hmm

Breathtaking distortion of reality right there. But then, no surprise, right!

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HidingBehindTheWallpaper · 22/08/2025 17:47

I do think there might be something in the idea of the defence lawyers saying not to shave and wear leggings to make your dick obvious. It’s clear that the person who turned up in court was male but who knows how they looked on a night out with loads of make up and fillers.

BeLemonNow · 22/08/2025 17:49

ArabellaScott · 22/08/2025 16:41

'Imo, if you havent disclosed that you're trans when you have sexual relations with someone, you are taking a massive risk. You could end up in jail, on the sex offenders register, assaulted or killed. It is not worth that risk. '

From Reddit. Note the absolutely screaming absence of a single thought for the victim of sexual assault's feelings, desires, or concerns. Or the morality of trying to deceive someone.

It's a crime to deceive a sexual partner about your sex. It's illegal under the Sexual Offences Act. It's wrong.

Unfortunately that is the inevitable outcome of TWAW.

We should have had a bet on how many posts before comparing it to not knowing you were having sex with a Jewish person.

Spoiler: it wasn't many. Disgusting.

WimbledonWhites · 22/08/2025 17:49

myplace · 22/08/2025 16:30

This reminds me of another case- the one where a transgirl was filmed giving someone a blowjob, and he didn’t realise?

I still feel very sad for the 13yr old boy who got lashes and lips and thought he could be a woman.
Clearly a drug user.
Makes an exceptionally ‘ugly’ transwoman.

Clearly also assault though.
And his victim who may also have been under the influence, has to live with it while seeing these photos and wondering how the hell it happened.

I remember this. I think the transgirl was beaten up later when he found out iirc.

Boreded · 22/08/2025 17:55

MistyGreenAndBlue · 21/08/2025 01:24

Blimey! How drunk was he that he couldn't tell that was a man?
They really DO just see us as boobs on legs, don't they?

Tell me you’ve never been to Thornaby without telling me 🤣

This is the ‘beauty’ standard there

SingingintheRadiator · 22/08/2025 18:05

JamieCannister · 21/08/2025 17:12

I am not a fan of vigilante justice, what I am saying is that there are certain scenarios where being on the end of vigilante justice is almost inevitable. Sex by deception by a gay man on a straight man is one of them. And I am also saying that I see sex by deception very similar to how I see a fight - if you "start it" (the fight, or the deceptive sex) then the the victim can do an awful lot in response before I regard their actions as criminal.

Yes, I remember an awful case where a man walked in on his child being abused by another male and killed him in the heat of the moment. He was found not guilty, and I can't say I have an issue with that!

JamieCannister · 22/08/2025 18:20

SingingintheRadiator · 22/08/2025 18:05

Yes, I remember an awful case where a man walked in on his child being abused by another male and killed him in the heat of the moment. He was found not guilty, and I can't say I have an issue with that!

Basically, this.

I do not condone violence or vigilante justice, but sorry... sensible would-be criminals need to consider that vigilantes exist, and when (usually) men kill paedophiles or punch the person trying to mug them then my sympathy for the "victim" is zero.

DworkinWasRight · 22/08/2025 18:28

It’s interesting that the defence barrister went with the argument “the victim must have known this was a man and just felt embarrassed” rather than “this isn’t assault because trans women are women”. I think it’s quite likely that a couple of years ago, that’s the line they’d have chosen. Perhaps the Supreme Court judgement had an impact, even if it’s not strictly relevant here,

Ritasueandbobtoo9 · 22/08/2025 18:35

I think that the responsibility for this lies with multiple organisations who tell men that they can be women, call themselves women, date men as if they are women. This is what happens. The victim is seriously affected after being abused by someone who doesn’t know that this is wrong. even if the perpetrator does understand that it may be wrong, I wonder if he really understood the serious consequences that he now faces.

SionnachRuadh · 22/08/2025 18:37

"The lie she told was to stop him touching her without consent."

Real galaxy brain stuff from the Redditors.

ArabellaScott · 22/08/2025 19:35

A galaxy that's been left on a radiator?

JamesWebbSpaceTelescope · 22/08/2025 19:43

How long ago did this happen? A few years can make a massive difference to someone’s look, especially late teens some can still look very fresh faced, which would make the deception easier.

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