THANK YOU TO ALL THE MUMS NETTERS keeping me and others up-to-date.
A lurker closely following the threads and discussions in real life with a few trusted people. Including my female no nonsense PT while doing Pilates and weights. My trusted confidents know that NC is my favoured barrister if I could possibly afford her for an ET I am bringing against my employer.
My husband has taken time to understand the issues so far. Which has been frustrating as I am a CSA survivor and have experienced rape in a hospital ward by a male nurse. He is fully aware that no male no matter their status is to be left alone with me when I am ill. I had made a comments that should we visit Fife I was never to be taken to a hospital no matter how poorly I am. I am autistic and when physically poorly not going to be in a position to mask. I asked him what he would do if a male member of staff attended to me and I refused them even if they stated they identified as a women. He said he would tell them to leave, I pointed out this made him transphobic and he finally understood.
My husband is very respectful of women, when I was attending a CSA survivors group. He would travel with me drop me near by and leave the area to afford the other women their privacy and safety.
He is also very sarcastic he is very well known for it and he is British Born Chinese and has worked in the NHS previously. I brought up the racist jokes this evening. Asking his opinion especially about the laughing emoji. He said that is not sarcasm that is agreeing with someone. I then told him about the patient details issue. I asked him which is worse? He unequivocally said the sharing patient details.
As an aside, I gifted him tickets to Romesh Ranganathan last year and during his set he made jokes about Jimmy Saville and a majority of the audience laughed. As a survivor of CSA was I impressed or happy NO. However I have the intelligence to understand that people make jokes I do not agree with.
In my previous work place I had to listen to inappropriate comments concerning SEND even in my own community we have some darkish jokes about our illnesses. There are women I do not like yet I respect their right to privacy. Sadly I have known student nurses from twenty years ago when I studied Nursing who said it is the bitchiest profession going. I experienced some nastiness from nurse practitioners.
Although with all honesty my autistic self does not understand the back-stabbing behaviours. Then again I never trust anyone who is overly virtuous it is fake. I had heard that I am lovely and one of the nicest people. My response I try to be fair and reasonable I am not perfect though or entirely innocent. To be honest I despise the words “BE KIND” that is another story though and could be identifying.