I believe there is some internal policy that says if you are having a problem with a colleague then the first port of call is to talk to them.
She had also raised it with her LM twice, been given the bum’s rush and tested the idea of the fact that she might have to raise it with him directly if nothing further from managers. She was not told not to do this.
200 women using that space were not informed or consulted. No research has been done about anything. No RA. training and activism had set up a chilling environment where very few were willing to say anything.
She was left on her own. his suggestion to take it further was disingenuous — both knew if she did she would get in trouble. We know now that he would have made sure of it.
She wasn’t doing anything other than trying to have an honest conversation with him about her discomfort in the hope he might have some sympathy for her. He had none. She couldn’t have known that in advance.
He could have left at anytime but chose to stay.
There is a thing called Himpathy which we are all conditioned to adopt and which is masked by this paradigm of ‘professionalism’.
All evidence and your point of view
stems from the conditioning to be himpathetic.
She has a right to change in a single sex space. She is allowed to try and discuss her discomfort with the colleague.
He could have left at anytime time. He has recorded precious occurrences where her behaviour made him wonder what was going on — he could have offered to have a chat with her before the Xmas encounter rather than just noting down her behaviour.
But your himpathy only comes up with one course of action that you feel is her responsibility to have taken.