So more useful stuff from Foran Towers.
I had not gleaned this from TT.
NC expresses surprise at the suggestion by KS that she thought getting SP together with DU to discuss why she might be uncomfortable might have been a reasonable option.
KC explains she thinks talking things through is always a good thing.
NC then cleverly gets KS to say, of her own volition, that women might have have experienced male violence.
NC gets her to agree that those women don’t necessarily say they have suffered male violence, they don’t wear badges and then, boom, asks KS if she thinks it reasonable to put a woman in the position of having to explain the reasons for her discomfort to a man who is making her feel that discomfort.
This is where the dawning realisation seems to have sparked.
As Foran puts it, KS has only allowed herself to assume, because this is what DU assumes, that the ONLY reason SP might have had for feeling discomfort was because she was a bigot.
The dawning realisation that there might be valid reasons for her discomfort had never occurred to KS.
That, at the very least, should spark some reflection overnight.
Foran also points out that NC is not arguing that a woman needs a valid reason to feel discomfort — she is making the point that it would not have been reasonable of her to expect SP to explain her discomfort to DU.
Obvs we can’t know who has and who hasn’t experienced male violence which is one of the points of SSS in addition to general safeguarding.