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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

What do whips, spandex and dog masks have to do with Pride?

331 replies

SnugglyJumpersMakeItBetter · 05/07/2025 18:30

They're kinks/fetishes right? Not related to sexual orientation. Also why are they anything to be 'proud' of? Your closest friends would probably find it pretty odd (and stomach turning!) if you told them your OH likes to wear your undies, or what gets you off is him licking your feet... Why is proclaiming what should be personal and private turn-ons to the general public any better? Why should they be glad for you in any way for being so open about it?

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GreenFriedTomato · 05/07/2025 21:17

It makes me feel physically sick

TheUnusuallyQuerulentMxLauraBrown · 05/07/2025 21:18

That Rubber Wanky Dude who was fired from the NSPCC had a back story about being prematurely exposed to kink, IIRC.

SirChenjins · 05/07/2025 21:18

The purpose of it is to show very clearly what the T and tge other letters that have nothing to do with sexuality are actually about. Keep it going, I say - the sunlight is doing it good, as the latest polls show.

DialSquare · 05/07/2025 21:19

Take the R & D out of Pride and some of the posts on here start to make sense.

Catiette · 05/07/2025 21:19

If they are old enough to ask, they are old enough to get an answer

What if they didn't ask? Weren't even aware? Certainly weren't prepared? What if Pride could be a gentle induction into a supportive community at the time they need it most - of burgeoning, anxious sexuality?

if you turn on prime time tv you will see the same, and more, than you will on pride

Primetime? I don't know what the heck you're watching, but that's not the standard experience. That's kind of why we have a watershed and cinema age ratings and safeguards on the internet.

You really do seem to be arguing for the kind of Foucauldian free-for-all that damages the truly vulnerable in your community - those who really need protection, understanding and the wider support of an increasingly cynical public.

PS Not engaging any more, as this level of boundary-breaking, where age limits and child protection are concerned, leaves me deeply wary and not a little disturbed. If you're genuine, you're doing your "community" no favours.

LittlePickleHead · 05/07/2025 21:23

I'm sorry but Aida's responses are a groomers 101 - no, kids shouldn't be exposed to as much as they are able to ask, or to know that chains and whips can be part of a sexual experience. They should be protected, to learn about consent, about respectful relationships, and then find out about that stuff as an adult in a healthy way.

This kind of rhetoric that breaks down safeguards for children understanding what is age appropriate is music to paedophiles ears. There is such a thing as non-contact child abuse and seeing age inappropriate sexually motivated kinks is part of this

SirChenjins · 05/07/2025 21:25

Don't be sorry 😊

AidaP · 05/07/2025 21:26

Catiette · 05/07/2025 21:19

If they are old enough to ask, they are old enough to get an answer

What if they didn't ask? Weren't even aware? Certainly weren't prepared? What if Pride could be a gentle induction into a supportive community at the time they need it most - of burgeoning, anxious sexuality?

if you turn on prime time tv you will see the same, and more, than you will on pride

Primetime? I don't know what the heck you're watching, but that's not the standard experience. That's kind of why we have a watershed and cinema age ratings and safeguards on the internet.

You really do seem to be arguing for the kind of Foucauldian free-for-all that damages the truly vulnerable in your community - those who really need protection, understanding and the wider support of an increasingly cynical public.

PS Not engaging any more, as this level of boundary-breaking, where age limits and child protection are concerned, leaves me deeply wary and not a little disturbed. If you're genuine, you're doing your "community" no favours.

Edited

Keep pretending that your kids are blind, and then be shocked why kids never have an honest sex talk with you, including about important concepts like contraception, or when something goes wrong. That trust and openness does not come from nowhere; every time your kid is afraid to ask about something, it erodes the trust.

I also do not think you've actually been to pride, given how you describe it, as that's not how any of it is presented. Or really watched much mainstream TV, even my little ponies cartoon ahs BDSM elements as in show jokes few times.

And yet you keep talking like some kink introduction expert. Hell, no one even asked, but no, I am not part of any kink, just happy transbian with my very cis wife and lovely children. But many of my friends are, and we have them, and their kids, over a lot too.

The horror.

But that's what happens when you engage in an attempt at good-intentioned discussion with someone not at that level, they will ask, get a good answer, and then move the goalpost.

And then make up about "increasingly cynical public" where pride that happened today was bigger than in any of the recent years, despite funding cut. Get out of your online echo chambers and into the real world.

SirChenjins · 05/07/2025 21:27

The horror is right.

Mischance · 05/07/2025 21:29

AidaP · 05/07/2025 21:13

Why is it one or the other?

My kids are with me and my wife at many prides, kink is involved, it's never a problem. Just like topic of sex is never a problem in our house, neither is the topic of kink sex. If they are old enough to ask, they are old enough to get an answer, as detailed as they are willing to keep asking.

Whereas many parents think that by creating some sheltered existence their kids won't find about it, completely ignoring that if you turn on prime time tv you will see the same, and more, than you will on pride. Or if you google, really, anything.

I think your approach is abusive - it abuses a child's need for a childhood and a gentle leading into the world of adults. You are imposing on them adult issues and values. You are wholly wrong to do this. They are only asking about kinks because you are exposing them to them.

AidaP · 05/07/2025 21:33

Mischance · 05/07/2025 21:29

I think your approach is abusive - it abuses a child's need for a childhood and a gentle leading into the world of adults. You are imposing on them adult issues and values. You are wholly wrong to do this. They are only asking about kinks because you are exposing them to them.

And kids don't have sex before marriage either.

Life and other myths our prude parents pretended to tell us, despite having kids at ~15-19 years old.

SirChenjins · 05/07/2025 21:35

Your testosterone is high tonight Aida.

ExitPursuedByABare · 05/07/2025 21:36

Say what now? My little ponies and BDSM? What have I missed?

AidaP · 05/07/2025 21:37

SirChenjins · 05/07/2025 21:35

Your testosterone is high tonight Aida.

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Lower than yours actually as I have no testosterones making facilities left. Try some better insults maybe?

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 05/07/2025 21:38

AidaP · 05/07/2025 20:17

Oh no, random stranger on the internet who knows nothing about me, besides that I am transgender, judges my parenting ability.

I need my pearls to clutch...

Do you have any boundaries? Should there be any boundaries in society? Is it OK for people to do whatever they like, wherever they like, no matter who they impact?

Barbie222 · 05/07/2025 21:39

Exposing children to adult sexual activity is abuse, and that goes for sex fetish wear too. I won’t be manipulated into believing that I’m being regressive or shaming anyone. If a child came into my Y1 class talking about whips and chains at a parade, and that his parents had passed it off as normal behaviour, I’d sure as hell be passing that on as a safeguarding flag - and I’d be doing the right thing by the law. You’ve made my case better than I could myself, @AidaP- the attitudes you’ve expressed here are deeply worrying and yes, harmful to children.

Pinkrabitt · 05/07/2025 21:40

AidaP · 05/07/2025 21:37

Lower than yours actually as I have no testosterones making facilities left. Try some better insults maybe?

You don't have any adrenal glands?

dogcatkitten · 05/07/2025 21:41

SnugglyJumpersMakeItBetter · 05/07/2025 18:30

They're kinks/fetishes right? Not related to sexual orientation. Also why are they anything to be 'proud' of? Your closest friends would probably find it pretty odd (and stomach turning!) if you told them your OH likes to wear your undies, or what gets you off is him licking your feet... Why is proclaiming what should be personal and private turn-ons to the general public any better? Why should they be glad for you in any way for being so open about it?

Symbolic of sexual freedom and permissiveness. Dog mask, no idea apart from concealing identity.

Barbie222 · 05/07/2025 21:41

AidaP · 05/07/2025 21:33

And kids don't have sex before marriage either.

Life and other myths our prude parents pretended to tell us, despite having kids at ~15-19 years old.

This makes no sense. So because some people have consensual sex before marriage, exposing children to adult sexualities is ok?

thenightsky · 05/07/2025 21:41

Pride month was June. Why are they expanding into July?

Anyahyacinth · 05/07/2025 21:43

So many small minded comments, people at Pride are just expressing themselves...it does nothing to hurt children, quite the reverse it helps children see a whole wide world. Sex is EVERYWHERE in adverts, online everywhere. Pride is an event about love and safety and not being forced to hide. It's about choosing a happy future or going back to repression.

mrshoho · 05/07/2025 21:44
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I'm proud to be labelled a pearl clutching prude when it comes to protecting children.

ExitPursuedByABare · 05/07/2025 21:45

thenightsky · 05/07/2025 21:41

Pride month was June. Why are they expanding into July?

It never fucking stops.

SirChenjins · 05/07/2025 21:45

AidaP · 05/07/2025 21:37

Lower than yours actually as I have no testosterones making facilities left. Try some better insults maybe?

😂😂 not a chance they're lower