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Am I naive in thinking that in a couple of years, if not sooner, this will all be behind us? A few court cases, people clear about the law, women's rights protected again??

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loveyouradvice · 26/05/2025 23:04

And yes the noisy TRA far fewer in number and sidelined as the sad fringe that are left as others move on.....

Or do others think it will pan out differently??

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LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 27/05/2025 13:16

Did I just read that @ButterflyHatched said that the women on here use ‘pantomime levels of childish contrarianism’ wholly without irony?

I’m going to have to start charging him for the replacement of my irony meters, that’s two that have exploded on this thread alone!

ButterflyHatched · 27/05/2025 13:16

JazzyJelly · 27/05/2025 13:10

Same here. If presented with compelling arguments and evidence, I would change it again.

I don't think it's very likely, since all anyone on that side seems to have is 'be kind!' and 'die in a fire, TERF', but I'm open to the possibility.

Perhaps a read of the Utah report - the most recent, comprehensive review of gender affirming care that was just released - would shed some light on the complete lack of justification for obviously politically motivated and incredibly harmful bans.

It was commissioned with the intention of pulling a Cass, but the pesky requirement to be comprehensive and unbiased got in the way this time.

MarieDeGournay · 27/05/2025 13:16

teawamutu · 27/05/2025 13:13

Genuinely one of the most disgusting things I've ever read on MN.

You're a man being told to use the men's toilets, not Anne Frank.

How dare you?

Well said, teawamutu - we're used to the appropriation of lesbian and gay history, Section 28, women's liberation, you name it, but appropriating WWII is a new low.

Greyskybluesky · 27/05/2025 13:18

teawamutu · 27/05/2025 13:13

Genuinely one of the most disgusting things I've ever read on MN.

You're a man being told to use the men's toilets, not Anne Frank.

How dare you?

Oh, this poster dares, believe me.

After comments I've made on here (as someone with family members of Jewish heritage and all that entails) I've been called anti-semitic by this poster with my comments taken totally out of context and posted on other social media.

potpourree · 27/05/2025 13:18

Butterfly If I ask one thing, and one thing only of you, for the love of God can you please not do multiple nested quotes inside one post - it makes what you're saying impossible to understand in context. (I'm not sure if this is a change on MN or what, as I don't think it used to happen)

It's easier if, if we're getting into several layers of quotes, you c&p the bit you're replying to and bold it.

I will never believe you're on the right side of history if you continue as you are.
Grin

RinklyRomaine · 27/05/2025 13:18

MarieDeGournay · 27/05/2025 13:16

Well said, teawamutu - we're used to the appropriation of lesbian and gay history, Section 28, women's liberation, you name it, but appropriating WWII is a new low.

I wish it was. They’ve been pretending to be holocaust victims ever since they realised the black trans women / section 28 grift was failing.

MarvellousMonsters · 27/05/2025 13:19

ButterflyHatched · 27/05/2025 00:41

I used to hope that in ten years time, the UK would have finally gotten over transphobia once and for all.

I'm now on the verge of giving up hope that in ten years' time, the UK will be a country that even permits trans people to exist publicly or allows for them to access treatment of any kind.

With the ascendant influence of the US evangelist far right and the interference of a cabal of rich bigots willing to throw their fortunes at intimidating and bullying anyone who dares try and meaningfully improve the lives of trans people, I think there are extremely dark times ahead.

I've walked this road for a long time and have seen us gain legal recognition, gain protection from discrimination and gain a serious measure of cultural acceptance. There was a time when this country finally, finally stopped trying to make life unliveable for trans people - started actually protecting us from discrimination and hate speech, and even celebrated our lives occasionally.

People will still remember that; will still wonder what happened to their trans friends and colleagues - why they left the country or simply dropped off the radar entirely. You will have to wait for living generations to die before you can erase those memories - and people are better informed, nowadays. They won't forget the chilling parallels to the 1930's.

Even previously trans-hostile media are seeing where things have gone in a shockingly brief period of time and are starting to get nervous - all the initial pretences and 'I'd march with you" platitudes long forgotten; the masks dropping one by one and the steady creep of far-right rhetoric bleeding through. It's clear that this has never been about safeguarding or women's rights - it's always been about exercising power over marginalised minorities, and contrarian spite at being asked to treat others like human beings.

I'm not given to prayer, but I hope that this country will find its humanity again in the years to come - because I am more afraid than I have ever been in my entire life. The disturbing realisation that this is the entire point - that this was always meant to destroy the lives of any trans person who had found a way to largely escape first-hand transphobia in daily life - is a devastating one. I've always tried to give anyone the benefit of the doubt, but there really is no corner of justification remaining for the calls that are going out now not just to celebrate, but to accelerate...

No one is saying you don’t exist, as a person. No one is saying you can’t exist, as a person. Your right to exist has never been questioned. What we have done is disagreed with your assertion that you are a woman, that you have the ‘soul’ of a woman, that you think and feel like a woman. Because you don’t. You are a person, a male person that has (possibly) had cosmetic surgery to make you look more like a woman. No one is denying that.

You have not grown to adulthood being treated differently because you’re female, you haven’t had your life choices dictated (or at least influenced) by the fact that you’re female, and you have almost certainly never been abused, molested or intimidated by a male the way 99.9% of women have.

If you like wearing dresses, make up, heels and having long hair, good for you. That doesn’t make you a woman. Please stop claiming victim hood, and lack of rights. I can’t say these things publicly for fear of losing my job and being doxed.

Calm down.

BigfootSmallButtons · 27/05/2025 13:19

It's not cool any more. It's very, very uncool.

And you can see why when you see the type of people who make up the troon factions, because they are very, very uncool.

And thankfully their narcissism keeps them talking and letting the whole public see how very, very deeply uncool they are.

RedToothBrush · 27/05/2025 13:19

ButterflyHatched · 27/05/2025 13:12

You'd know I suppose. Between you, Datun, Helleofabore and many of the less memorable posters who have come and gone over the years, I think you've pretty resoundingly 'oh no you didn't'd every single aspect of my transition I've ever disclosed, to the point where it has reached pantomime levels of childish contrarianism

You mean we can see how much you talk bollocks and you don't like it when we point it out.

Fab.

MadinMarch · 27/05/2025 13:21

DurinsBane · 27/05/2025 01:47

Well quite a few young people identify as trans now (60% women/girls 40% men/boys in the ‘young person’ age range) so I don’t imagine it will go away….

@DurinsBane What research came up with those results please? I'm genuinely surprised by those figures!

potpourree · 27/05/2025 13:23

MadinMarch · 27/05/2025 13:21

@DurinsBane What research came up with those results please? I'm genuinely surprised by those figures!

I think they mean of the people who ID as trans, it's 60/40 female/male.

ButterflyHatched · 27/05/2025 13:23

teawamutu · 27/05/2025 13:13

Genuinely one of the most disgusting things I've ever read on MN.

You're a man being told to use the men's toilets, not Anne Frank.

How dare you?

My centenarian aunt regularly says 'how dare you' whenever she sees a racist or transphobic newspaper headline retreading 30's and 40's rhetoric.

She did actually spend the war directly aiding efforts to decode fascist data encryption so that their genocidal efforts could be stopped faster, though, so maybe she's biased.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 27/05/2025 13:24

My centenarian aunt is bigger than your centenarian aunt.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 27/05/2025 13:26

potpourree · 27/05/2025 13:18

Butterfly If I ask one thing, and one thing only of you, for the love of God can you please not do multiple nested quotes inside one post - it makes what you're saying impossible to understand in context. (I'm not sure if this is a change on MN or what, as I don't think it used to happen)

It's easier if, if we're getting into several layers of quotes, you c&p the bit you're replying to and bold it.

I will never believe you're on the right side of history if you continue as you are.
Grin

Tbf if you are on the app you can’t copy and paste a small section directly.

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 27/05/2025 13:26

ButterflyHatched · 27/05/2025 13:07

Oh just a small thing - you know, VE day.

Commemorating the close of a years-long ordeal triggered by fascists demonstrating that asking nicely sometimes doesn't work.

It's a little hard to find that message buried amongst all the flags and braying about 'immigrant invaders' though, so I'd forgive you for missing it.

You really are quite beneath contempt with that post. How dare you equate the angry, petulant, unreasonable demands of a few blokes with the enormous, selfless sacrifices of a generation of men and women who unflinchingly fought fascism.

My grandfather and great uncle fought, my grandmother and great aunts worked as land girls, in factories and drove ambulances during the blitz, and quite frankly, you are not fit to clean their shoes.

I fully expect this post to be deleted, but you really are revolting and it needed to be said.

ButterflyHatched · 27/05/2025 13:27

potpourree · 27/05/2025 13:18

Butterfly If I ask one thing, and one thing only of you, for the love of God can you please not do multiple nested quotes inside one post - it makes what you're saying impossible to understand in context. (I'm not sure if this is a change on MN or what, as I don't think it used to happen)

It's easier if, if we're getting into several layers of quotes, you c&p the bit you're replying to and bold it.

I will never believe you're on the right side of history if you continue as you are.
Grin

Sorry, not so good at this whole new-fangled internet forum thing! 😅

Will try and isolate specific comments rather than quoting the whole post where possible.

potpourree · 27/05/2025 13:27

Ereshkigalangcleg · 27/05/2025 13:26

Tbf if you are on the app you can’t copy and paste a small section directly.

oh the bloody app
maybe that's what it is

Can we all boycott it until it works?! although on my mobile browser the typing has gone to shit as well.

RedToothBrush · 27/05/2025 13:29

It's funny to watch this in real time.

Going after one of the most level headed, to the point, clear and unfailingly polite posters on the forum - Datun - really isn't going to win friends.

I can be blunt and to the point and not everyones cup of tea. But Datun? DATUN.

And then following it up two minutes later comparing yourself to the persecuted during WWII in a gross act of Holocaust appropriation.

Pantomime levels of childish contrarianism?

Priceless.

And you WANT us to respect you?

You really are that detached from reality.

It's a sight to behold.

RedToothBrush · 27/05/2025 13:29

ButterflyHatched · 27/05/2025 13:27

Sorry, not so good at this whole new-fangled internet forum thing! 😅

Will try and isolate specific comments rather than quoting the whole post where possible.

Forums were old fifteen years ago.

teawamutu · 27/05/2025 13:30

So it's ok to appropriate the suffering and deaths of 6 million people over you being told 'no' about something because your fictional aunt said so. Good to know.

You really are a gift to the GC cause and you don't even realise it, do you? Keep on keeping on 🙌

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 27/05/2025 13:30

teawamutu · 27/05/2025 13:13

Genuinely one of the most disgusting things I've ever read on MN.

You're a man being told to use the men's toilets, not Anne Frank.

How dare you?

I completely agree, that has properly boiled my pi**. I’ve replied to him in no uncertain terms but I am expecting it to be deleted.

RedToothBrush · 27/05/2025 13:30

Oh wait. I forgot, you were on the internet before the entire rest of the world and know everything about the interwebs. I forgot that particular lecture for a three seconds.

ButterflyHatched · 27/05/2025 13:35

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LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 27/05/2025 13:35

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Just fuck off.

MistyGreenAndBlue · 27/05/2025 13:36

AYoungTransWoman · 27/05/2025 08:50

You're entire movement is based on hate and fear. That is literally all that anti-trans politics are.

We are the side of love, acceptance and tolerance.

This is an assertion with no evidence provided. In fact, all the evidence so far suggests the opposite is the truth.

Show us the proof of your assertion and we will look at it.

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