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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Am I naive in thinking that in a couple of years, if not sooner, this will all be behind us? A few court cases, people clear about the law, women's rights protected again??

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loveyouradvice · 26/05/2025 23:04

And yes the noisy TRA far fewer in number and sidelined as the sad fringe that are left as others move on.....

Or do others think it will pan out differently??

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Datun · 28/05/2025 18:35

ButterflyHatched · 28/05/2025 18:33

Do you regularly refer to people as "homosexuals" in the year of our lord 2025?

I'm not homosexual by any definition, however you frame it, so it's already technically inaccurate. Nothing else has quite the same regressive old-world Blanchardist ring to it, though, does it?

Weird how quickly DSD entered GC parlance, but we just have to hold onto the classics here, don't we?

If you like guys, you're homosexual.

It's not a dirty word.

Datun · 28/05/2025 18:36

WithSilverBells · 28/05/2025 18:35

...and it references same sex attraction

Exactly.

ButterflyHatched · 28/05/2025 18:37

Datun · 28/05/2025 18:34

It doesn't surprise me that trans identifying men don't like the homosexual. It's generic. And gender neutral.

Oooh we're doing the TIM thing as well?

Fucking hell mate, I thought I might have been a little harsh the other day. Nah. This is just obnoxious now.

Datun · 28/05/2025 18:37

RedToothBrush · 28/05/2025 18:34

Transwomen have been trying to erase female homosexuals. It's very amusing that Butters tried to pick up Datun on refering to a male homosexual as if the only homosexuals can be male.

Another day, another shoe size.

I know, it's such a giveaway

RedToothBrush · 28/05/2025 18:38

FrippEnos · 28/05/2025 18:35

Its strange that they are happy with 'queer' though, which is highly offensive to many gays and lesbians.

It's another one for the thread about the twisting of language isn't it? Let's erase sex from everything. Even if it's referenced in law.

Datun · 28/05/2025 18:38

ButterflyHatched · 28/05/2025 18:37

Oooh we're doing the TIM thing as well?

Fucking hell mate, I thought I might have been a little harsh the other day. Nah. This is just obnoxious now.

I'm not your mate, and I have told you a billion times that you're not a woman. So I don't know where this fresh information is coming from!

At least one of us is consistent

FrippEnos · 28/05/2025 18:39

RedToothBrush · 28/05/2025 18:38

It's another one for the thread about the twisting of language isn't it? Let's erase sex from everything. Even if it's referenced in law.

And a protected characteristic to boot, it must drive him crazy.

RedToothBrush · 28/05/2025 18:40

From the Equality Act

12 Sexual orientation
(1)Sexual orientation means a person's sexual orientation towards—
(a)persons of the same sex,
(b)persons of the opposite sex, or
(c)persons of either sex.

(2)In relation to the protected characteristic of sexual orientation—
(a)a reference to a person who has a particular protected characteristic is a reference to a person who is of a particular sexual orientation;
(b)a reference to persons who share a protected characteristic is a reference to persons who are of the same sexual orientation.

Your reminder about the SC ruling. If sex doesn't mean biological sex, then lesbians cease to have the protection of the equality act. So do gay men.

Sex sex sex sex sex.

Let's talk about sex baby...

ButterflyHatched · 28/05/2025 18:40

Mumsnet being the remaining holdout of LGB people who earnestly and unironically still use 'homosexual' to describe themselves and others in 2025 is kind of beautiful, actually.

Thanks all

Helleofabore · 28/05/2025 18:41

So, is Hatched now telling us to ignore what homosexual people have been saying about what words to use?

Well now.... isn't that surprising!

WOMEN, SHUT THE FUCK UP! and DON'T LISTEN TO HOMOSEXUAL PEOPLE!

OH... Now people who tell us that they prefer to be called homosexual people are out of date apparently. Nice.

Datun · 28/05/2025 18:41

FrippEnos · 28/05/2025 18:39

And a protected characteristic to boot, it must drive him crazy.

And, apparently, was one of the major influencing factors in the Supreme Court decision.

They weren't about to rip up 60 years of the acceptance of homosexuality, for a handful of homophobic men.

RedToothBrush · 28/05/2025 18:42

Datun · 28/05/2025 18:38

I'm not your mate, and I have told you a billion times that you're not a woman. So I don't know where this fresh information is coming from!

At least one of us is consistent

Datun I got mated yesterday.

The little passive aggressive mate.

Feel proud.

DialSquare · 28/05/2025 18:43

ButterflyHatched · 28/05/2025 18:37

Oooh we're doing the TIM thing as well?

Fucking hell mate, I thought I might have been a little harsh the other day. Nah. This is just obnoxious now.

I thought you’d been doing the TIM thing since you were a child so no need to act shocked about it.

Datun · 28/05/2025 18:43

Crikey, even I wasn't prepared for the open denigration of homosexuality.

Even though I know homophobia is a driving force, I wasn't prepared for the unapologetic transparency.

Helleofabore · 28/05/2025 18:44

Datun · 28/05/2025 18:43

Crikey, even I wasn't prepared for the open denigration of homosexuality.

Even though I know homophobia is a driving force, I wasn't prepared for the unapologetic transparency.

So much love, tolerance and acceptance isn't there.

RedToothBrush · 28/05/2025 18:45

Helleofabore · 28/05/2025 18:41

So, is Hatched now telling us to ignore what homosexual people have been saying about what words to use?

Well now.... isn't that surprising!

WOMEN, SHUT THE FUCK UP! and DON'T LISTEN TO HOMOSEXUAL PEOPLE!

OH... Now people who tell us that they prefer to be called homosexual people are out of date apparently. Nice.

Edited

Yep.

Butters is the law and authority on everything.

Am I in a Monty Python movie here?

Brian, Brian is it yooooooou?

FrippEnos · 28/05/2025 18:45

ButterflyHatched · 28/05/2025 18:33

Do you regularly refer to people as "homosexuals" in the year of our lord 2025?

I'm not homosexual by any definition, however you frame it, so it's already technically inaccurate. Nothing else has quite the same regressive old-world Blanchardist ring to it, though, does it?

Weird how quickly DSD entered GC parlance, but we just have to hold onto the classics here, don't we?

How can you complain about the use of homosexual and then use "in the year of our lord"

Either the irony meter is broken or you have very little awareness of how you come across.

And FYI there is only one definition of homosexual, no matter how some trans people want to twist it.

RedToothBrush · 28/05/2025 18:45

Datun · 28/05/2025 18:43

Crikey, even I wasn't prepared for the open denigration of homosexuality.

Even though I know homophobia is a driving force, I wasn't prepared for the unapologetic transparency.

What after yesterday and the Neo Nazis?

Really?

Datun · 28/05/2025 18:48

RedToothBrush · 28/05/2025 18:45

What after yesterday and the Neo Nazis?

Really?

Call me the eternal optimist !

Helleofabore · 28/05/2025 18:49

FlirtsWithRhinos · 28/05/2025 18:03

This whole post is very very weird.

We think woman is no more and no less than the group name for the roughly 50% of human who are biologically female.

That's it. Take the word away, make it mean something else, whatever - those people still exist, their sex is still female not male, the social and physical consequences of being that sex still exist and still hit the same people whether you agree the name for them is "women" or not.

That's what we are talking about. Those people, whatever name you use for them.

And you, born male, cannot "transition" to be one of those people not because they hate you or refuse to see your inner soul or because they are blinded by rigid ideas of what a woman could be but simply because that is not possible. It is not a thing. Your "transition" is not joining women where we are. It is nothing more than staying where you always were, changing what the word woman means and then crowing "look I'm a woman too!"

So honestly, I have no idea really what your idea of Womanhood is (although I'd love it for you to explain to me). I do not know whether it's truly a miswiring in your mind, or it's your own projection of externalised gender stereotypes, or internalised patriachal disgust, or a fetish, or you just really like having power over female people, or some other thing I can't imagine.

But what I do know is it that whatever it is, it isn't not the same thing as being female-bodied and living ones life with that fixed fact, and the only reason I have any issue with you and TRAs is because your version of being who you are requires me to lie about who I am, to accept a version of "womanhood" that means nothing to me, and to believe that all the reasons I as a person of female body may want space, privacy or support away from those of male body somehow magically do not apply to you because of someting you have imagined we have in common but have never ever ever been able to describe in a way that means anything to me at all.

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You will probably not get an answer to the what is womanhood question.

But here is some from the past.

a constellation of statistically linked elements that together describe something almost intangible and linguistically elusive”

and

"I'm an adult human, and I recognise within myself a constellation of data points that I identify as female”.

RainbowZebraWarrior · 28/05/2025 18:49

The tone, the constant use of 'mate' and the inability to see anything other than their own perspective really does remind me of the most obnoxious of male traits. Yes, obnoxious. You used it first, so thanks for that, Hatched. The constant hyperbole and use of overly emotive language to describe one's struggles also grates on me. I have had struggles all my life, and continue to do so. I'm Autistic. I tend to try and manage those struggles myself though. I don't put them on other people. I'm also disabled. I don't put that on other people either as it's largely down to me to manage that too. I could, because those are protected characteristics, but this whole thread had ended up being about one person who just shouts the loudest, and all because the SC ruled that what went before was against the safeguarding of women and children.

Typo

Greyskybluesky · 28/05/2025 18:52

ButterflyHatched · 28/05/2025 18:12

Didn't a bunch of MN'ers do a toilet invasion thing a while back? They seemed very pleased with themselves. Not quite sure what they were actually trying to prove but there was definitely a lot of sneering and mocking going on. What a jolly jaunt. I think it even got picked up by the papers.

I guess if trans people do that, it would be part of a general 'a trans person peed here and nobody was harmed' initiative.

Maybe 'man Friday' was trying to mock trans people? It was clearly trying to achieve something, just like the person who flashed an official meeting a some years ago. I think she must have been trying to prove a point. Not sure what it was though. Just looked like an obnoxious bigot doing a bit of transphobic posturing against a marginalised minority to me.

Total deflection from your own actions

AYoungTransWoman · 28/05/2025 18:55

Datun · 28/05/2025 17:59

So if it's not stereotypes, and it's not clothes, and it's not the way you think, what on earth is it??

Sex characteristics

Datun · 28/05/2025 18:56

AYoungTransWoman · 28/05/2025 18:55

Sex characteristics

Sorry. You don't have female sex characteristics.

Also that precludes a lot of your compatriots

RedToothBrush · 28/05/2025 18:56

The hypocrisy and lack of responsibility for own actions are strong in this one.

Women aren't allowed to protest. Haven't you got the message yet?

Men must be allowed to mark their territory and piss where they feel. Women can't complain. If they do they have it noted and used against them at a later date to justify men marking their territory.

Cos obviously women 'started it'.

The response to being told no, is merely to say well women are wrong and shouldnt be allowed anything cos it's nooootttt faiiiiiiiirrrrrr.

Toddler level logic.

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