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Am I naive in thinking that in a couple of years, if not sooner, this will all be behind us? A few court cases, people clear about the law, women's rights protected again??

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loveyouradvice · 26/05/2025 23:04

And yes the noisy TRA far fewer in number and sidelined as the sad fringe that are left as others move on.....

Or do others think it will pan out differently??

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murasaki · 28/05/2025 12:22

AYoungTransWoman · 28/05/2025 12:16

That's not how biology works. The reason the body grows those breast is because the same genetic code exists in both sexes, it's just not expressed without the presence of Oestrogen.

And why do you have to buy oestrogen? Because as a male, you don't have it in sufficient quantities. So any tissue you grow is drug based and male, as I said.

JazzyJelly · 28/05/2025 12:23

We can all see who's propagating myths, and it's not the person saying 'male breast tissue, grown in a male body by a man on cross sex hormones =/= female breasts'.

Datun · 28/05/2025 12:24

ButterflyHatched · 28/05/2025 12:06

You are welcome to believe whatever you want to about essential genetic natures. Break out the rulers and calipers, write the highly biased junk science (oops: https://bmcmedresmethodol.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12874-025-02581-7? ), have your coffee mornings, laugh at our bodies and our attempts to live with some measure of human dignity.

It's when you harm people; harass and monster anyone who stands up to you; ban their healthcare; eject them from public life and deny their very existence that other people have a problem. That is no longer neutrally holding a philosophical belief - that's choosing to become an agent of harm.

You keep framing this as a matter of 'accept that you are male and everything will go away' but this isn't and has never been about that and you know it. Looking at the way that trans people who capitulate are treated, and the threads that pop up on here asking where to attack next, that just patently and demonstrably isn't true.

You cannot stop. Your ideology - the entire founding principles of the organisations you have built to legitimise your crusade - will not let you. You have to keep pushing, because the community you have built revolves around pushing to destroy the lives of trans people to enforce a rigid sex class system that allows only superficial, authorised variation within its bounds. It's the reason for its existence. You cannot simply let things be, because you define yourself as fundamentally opposed to the very existence of the people you have aligned your life toward opposing. To not oppose them would mean having to find another focus. Each of these people is, after all, a huge problem for a sane world.

You'll be eaten alive by your own side if you ever offer serious points on the negotiating table or show genuine compassion, rather than the needling concern trolling and empty performance you're giving here.

I'm aware that isn't a phenomenon that applies only to anti-trans activists, but there's a history here. We're in this situation because every time the trans community concedes something, the line rolls right past it and it is immediately forgotten.

We were assured this was never going to be about toilets or healthcare bans yet here we are. Healthcare and toilet bans are here. We resolved years ago to stop conceding because concession requires good faith reciprocation.

So no, none of this will go away if I start pretending that I am a man to satisfy your ideology. It does not matter what I call myself. This isn't about that. It has never been about that. You know that. I know that.

If everything about our lives wasn't under constant attack, there might be room to explore and discuss in a neutral fashion. We can't, though. You won't let us. Every time one of us reaches out in earnest - answers the call to debate - we are quoted out of context, ambushed with bullshit gish gallops and cynical gotchas, or simply silenced entirely while our very humanity is denied

So no. I will not call myself a man. Because I am not. Because no matter what I do or say, it will never be enough for you.

The question is always irrelevant. It is simply shaped to fit the pre-ordained answer. Just as it has been found to be in the case of the Cass review, which has been superceded by a far more robust and neutral review conducted by the state of Utah which found no justification to ban trans healthcare.

The mask hasn't just slipped. It's fallen off entirely. Previously trans-hostile newspapers are now having to come to terms with the fact that the anti-trans lobby isn't going to stop; that this was never about safeguarding or reasonable concerns, and they've been sold a pack of lies.

Cass is in tatters - superceded by more recent and comprehensive works, and proven to be biased. Falkner and the EHRC have been shown for what they are. Badenoch prattles on about trans people and nobody is buying it anymore. Every time Trump or Musk speaks about trans people across the Atlantic, people can't help but compare their words with anti-trans rhetoric here.

People are seeing where this is all actually going, and they are horrified.

Good heavens.

Just use the unisex loos!

ButterflyHatched · 28/05/2025 12:25

murasaki · 28/05/2025 12:22

And why do you have to buy oestrogen? Because as a male, you don't have it in sufficient quantities. So any tissue you grow is drug based and male, as I said.

Mmm this is a losing argument and I think you know it

AYoungTransWoman · 28/05/2025 12:26

Nameychangington · 28/05/2025 12:22

Umm no, the suicide rate increases after transition:

https://statsforgender.org/category/suicide/

And it is disingenuous, at best, to equate treating a cold and a broken arm differently, to treating two false congitions differently. Gender difficulties are the only mental health condition for which the current treatment is affirmation of the faulty cognition. No one suggests that people who believe that they are Napoleon should be affirmed and encouraged in that delusion, yet for those who believe that they are the opposite sex apparently that is the best treatment.

PS transition to the opposite sex is impossible. Humans can't change sex. Sorry you were lied to.

It's interesting that the literal first study they have compares trans people with surgery to the general population.

I wonder why they didn't cross reference that with other trans people who haven't had any operation.

Oh yeah, because it doesn't suit their narrative.

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/26318318231189836

ButterflyHatched · 28/05/2025 12:26

Datun · 28/05/2025 12:24

Good heavens.

Just use the unisex loos!

So you'll stop campaigning to ban healthcare if trans people only use unisex facilities, then?

AYoungTransWoman · 28/05/2025 12:26

The literal study I linked said Trans womens breast tissue and gynaecomastia are not the same.

murasaki · 28/05/2025 12:27

ButterflyHatched · 28/05/2025 12:25

Mmm this is a losing argument and I think you know it

I don't actually. None of the junk science posted so far has convinced me that an breast tissue grown on a male body is anything other than male.

AYoungTransWoman · 28/05/2025 12:27

murasaki · 28/05/2025 12:22

And why do you have to buy oestrogen? Because as a male, you don't have it in sufficient quantities. So any tissue you grow is drug based and male, as I said.

Because I have a mental health condition called Gender Dysphoria which shoes that oestrogen is the correct treatment option. Its also a prescription given to me by the NHS.

murasaki · 28/05/2025 12:28

AYoungTransWoman · 28/05/2025 12:26

The literal study I linked said Trans womens breast tissue and gynaecomastia are not the same.

It also didn't say it was the same as female breast tissue, just similar.

ButterflyHatched · 28/05/2025 12:28

murasaki · 28/05/2025 12:27

I don't actually. None of the junk science posted so far has convinced me that an breast tissue grown on a male body is anything other than male.

'Science I disagree with the findings of' <> 'Junk Science'

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 28/05/2025 12:29

ButterflyHatched · 28/05/2025 12:21

Appleby must be so proud of you!

You have displayed your absolute narcissism on this thread, and your hideous post of yesterday horrendously equating your feelings with people who were involved in actual genocide only revealed how far removed from reality you are, but I see that now you and @AYoungTransWoman are introducing the discredited 'suicide theory' to this thread, you are indicating that you could not stoop any lower if you tried. What sort of mind cheer leads for the suicide of young, vulnerable people in order to validate their insidious, regressive, homophobic, misogynistic agenda?

I will be reporting any of your posts that refer to this but i will not engage with someone so devoid of humanity. I told you to fuck off yesterday, I repeat that today with bells on.

Datun · 28/05/2025 12:29

ButterflyHatched · 28/05/2025 12:26

So you'll stop campaigning to ban healthcare if trans people only use unisex facilities, then?

It's not conditional, butters.

It's the law.

Just use the unisex toilet. Like millions of other people.

murasaki · 28/05/2025 12:29

AYoungTransWoman · 28/05/2025 12:27

Because I have a mental health condition called Gender Dysphoria which shoes that oestrogen is the correct treatment option. Its also a prescription given to me by the NHS.

Because you are male with a mental health condition, as you said.

Datun · 28/05/2025 12:30

AYoungTransWoman · 28/05/2025 12:27

Because I have a mental health condition called Gender Dysphoria which shoes that oestrogen is the correct treatment option. Its also a prescription given to me by the NHS.

Do you know what has caused your gender dysphoria?

Helleofabore · 28/05/2025 12:30

ButterflyHatched · 28/05/2025 12:20

This really is the lie that won't die, isn't it? @AYoungTransWoman linked a paper earlier that shows the opposite of what you are saying. You seem to be obsessed with propagating this myth, which is a very odd behaviour for someone who has been claiming to follow the science in recent posts.

What part of that paper do you think I have missed? What have I said that is the 'opposite' to that paper?

Even the paper says 'similar'. Care to tell me how male 'breast tissue' becomes the interactive system that is behind the breast and endocrine system of a female person?

I look forward to you telling me how this happens. Shall I wait?

Or have you over reached here?

Seethlaw · 28/05/2025 12:32

AYoungTransWoman · 28/05/2025 12:01

Genitals are primary sex characteristics, not secondary ones.

Secondary sex characteristics absolutely do change into the sex that aligns with how we feel.

My bad, I did mix up primary and secondary. It's just that my mind went directly to the primary characteristics, because you mentioned a "real" transition, when in fact, we're just talking about skin-deep cosmetic changes. Or rather, no, we're not, because there are very important risks to taking cross-sex hormones, but that's precisely because they are cross-sex, ie. because we don't actually change sex at all.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 28/05/2025 12:32

AYoungTransWoman · 28/05/2025 12:26

The literal study I linked said Trans womens breast tissue and gynaecomastia are not the same.

So? Men still aren’t women. But any man can grow breast tissue in the right circumstances.

AYoungTransWoman · 28/05/2025 12:32

murasaki · 28/05/2025 12:29

Because you are male with a mental health condition, as you said.

No, because I'm a transgender woman with a recognised condition known as gender Dysphoria ICD-11.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 28/05/2025 12:34

Yes, thats the same thing. “Transgender women” are male. And anything in the DSM is a mental health condition, broadly speaking.

Datun · 28/05/2025 12:35

Helleofabore · 28/05/2025 12:30

What part of that paper do you think I have missed? What have I said that is the 'opposite' to that paper?

Even the paper says 'similar'. Care to tell me how male 'breast tissue' becomes the interactive system that is behind the breast and endocrine system of a female person?

I look forward to you telling me how this happens. Shall I wait?

Or have you over reached here?

Now, you see, there's patience. Common or garden ordinary patience. Which undoubtedly I have.

But then there's Helleofabore Patience.

The sort of patience that regular patient people can only dream of. The sort of M&S, dripping in chocolate patience, covered in nuts and with a gooey marshmallow centre.

Actually it's Tunnocks patience. <lightbulb>

Helleofabore · 28/05/2025 12:35

AYoungTransWoman · 28/05/2025 12:32

No, because I'm a transgender woman with a recognised condition known as gender Dysphoria ICD-11.

Yes. You are a male person with a recognised condition. It doesn't make you not a male person.

BreatheAndFocus · 28/05/2025 12:37

AYoungTransWoman · 28/05/2025 12:32

No, because I'm a transgender woman with a recognised condition known as gender Dysphoria ICD-11.

Gender dysphoria, yes, and I’m sorry you have this but every single trans woman is male.

As for breasts, mine are small. I know men whose breasts look bigger than mine. However, they are still men with breasts and I am still a woman. You can’t change sex. You can change the way you look to some extent, but your sex remains unchanged.

FlirtsWithRhinos · 28/05/2025 12:39

ButterflyHatched · 28/05/2025 12:06

You are welcome to believe whatever you want to about essential genetic natures. Break out the rulers and calipers, write the highly biased junk science (oops: https://bmcmedresmethodol.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12874-025-02581-7? ), have your coffee mornings, laugh at our bodies and our attempts to live with some measure of human dignity.

It's when you harm people; harass and monster anyone who stands up to you; ban their healthcare; eject them from public life and deny their very existence that other people have a problem. That is no longer neutrally holding a philosophical belief - that's choosing to become an agent of harm.

You keep framing this as a matter of 'accept that you are male and everything will go away' but this isn't and has never been about that and you know it. Looking at the way that trans people who capitulate are treated, and the threads that pop up on here asking where to attack next, that just patently and demonstrably isn't true.

You cannot stop. Your ideology - the entire founding principles of the organisations you have built to legitimise your crusade - will not let you. You have to keep pushing, because the community you have built revolves around pushing to destroy the lives of trans people to enforce a rigid sex class system that allows only superficial, authorised variation within its bounds. It's the reason for its existence. You cannot simply let things be, because you define yourself as fundamentally opposed to the very existence of the people you have aligned your life toward opposing. To not oppose them would mean having to find another focus. Each of these people is, after all, a huge problem for a sane world.

You'll be eaten alive by your own side if you ever offer serious points on the negotiating table or show genuine compassion, rather than the needling concern trolling and empty performance you're giving here.

I'm aware that isn't a phenomenon that applies only to anti-trans activists, but there's a history here. We're in this situation because every time the trans community concedes something, the line rolls right past it and it is immediately forgotten.

We were assured this was never going to be about toilets or healthcare bans yet here we are. Healthcare and toilet bans are here. We resolved years ago to stop conceding because concession requires good faith reciprocation.

So no, none of this will go away if I start pretending that I am a man to satisfy your ideology. It does not matter what I call myself. This isn't about that. It has never been about that. You know that. I know that.

If everything about our lives wasn't under constant attack, there might be room to explore and discuss in a neutral fashion. We can't, though. You won't let us. Every time one of us reaches out in earnest - answers the call to debate - we are quoted out of context, ambushed with bullshit gish gallops and cynical gotchas, or simply silenced entirely while our very humanity is denied

So no. I will not call myself a man. Because I am not. Because no matter what I do or say, it will never be enough for you.

The question is always irrelevant. It is simply shaped to fit the pre-ordained answer. Just as it has been found to be in the case of the Cass review, which has been superceded by a far more robust and neutral review conducted by the state of Utah which found no justification to ban trans healthcare.

The mask hasn't just slipped. It's fallen off entirely. Previously trans-hostile newspapers are now having to come to terms with the fact that the anti-trans lobby isn't going to stop; that this was never about safeguarding or reasonable concerns, and they've been sold a pack of lies.

Cass is in tatters - superceded by more recent and comprehensive works, and proven to be biased. Falkner and the EHRC have been shown for what they are. Badenoch prattles on about trans people and nobody is buying it anymore. Every time Trump or Musk speaks about trans people across the Atlantic, people can't help but compare their words with anti-trans rhetoric here.

People are seeing where this is all actually going, and they are horrified.

Wow - gish gallop!

In response to that BMC reference: already dealt with here: www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5333913-cass-report-biased-and-unreliable

In response to everything else:

My "ideology", such as it is, is that people with female bodies face material social and physical consequences because of our different physical capabilties to male, our higher reproductive burden, and because our society is structured economically, politically and culturally around certain sexist assumptions about female capabilities, female social roles and male sexual responses, and that is it reasonable and moral to expect society to recognise this, to act to eradicate through education and understanding those risks and disadvantages that it can, and to put measures in place to mitigate what it can't, so women are not disadvataged relative to men in living lives of agency and making best use of their abilities to live lives they consider worthwhile. Yer bog standard basic feninism really.

I don't care if people adopt the stereotypical clothes, interests, presentations, mannerism, whatever of the opposite sex. In fact as a gender critical feminist I think it's great to see men clearly demonstrating how stereotypically "woman's" stuff is entirely accessible by men, and vice versa.

I care about "trans" people (other than caring about them in general as human beings) only to the degree that the genderist ideology many subscribe to asserts that female experience, needs, language, voices and indeed feminism itself must be remade to accomodate the beleif that certain people with all the advantages of being male/men can be treated as interchangable with female people in all things because by virtual of some undefiniable quality of "woman in the head". That all the reasons women need their own support, space, opportunities and protection because of how people react to our bodies just melt away when it comes to these specific men. That womanhood is not simply a matter of the body in which one is born, but is in fact a mental difference just as all those sexist men who kept us out of power and work and society and respect because our female brains weren't deisgned for such things always claimed.

Gender ideolofy is degrading, belittling and insulting to the real world lives and challenges that women face every day just for being female and I will never be bullied into saying it is ok.

Newsflash: sex exists. How you personally feel about your sex does not materially change the fact of it. How you personally feel about your sex does not change how women's sex affects our lives in ways yours does not. None of the gish gallop "points" you make to try and pull words over eyes change that. You are just trying to move the goalposts and hope no one notices it.

So while you are throwing a whole load of words out there to imply people, and specifcally me, are trying to stop you being "who you are" because of your body, the reality is that all I, and I would suggest almost everyone else who disagrees with you, actually wants is that you cease your attempts to undefine and delegitimise the social, legal and political existence of women as a sex class, to appropriate the social, physical, legal and political rights, opportunities and protections of female people, and to overwrite the reality, the history and the needs of the half of the population that turn up every day of their lives physically female and deal with what that means, for better or for worse, in nothing more than service of your own self image.

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