Banned from breastfeeding group for objecting to males breastfeeding

[snickerdoodle1990]

Hi everyone,

I gave birth a few months ago and had some breastfeeding difficulties, so joined a local breastfeeding support group in my city. It’s basically a place to go for support with feeding, plus meet other mums/have a cuppa and biscuit etc. They also have a FB group. It’s become a nice, friendly place to go once every couple of weeks.

Recently, a trans-woman (male) has joined the group asking for support because their wife has not long had a baby and the trans-woman is wishing to breastfeed too, apparently through use of hormones and domperidone (?) to stimulate supply (I did not realise this was possible at all)

I really really object to this person being present in a group of women who are seeking breastfeeding support, trying to come together in their breastfeeding experience and also revealing themselves intimately

I told the group leader my concerns and she basically told me to shove it - said that the group is a safe space for everyone and they support all who wish to breastfeed and that I shouldn’t come back because I am a bigot

I am horrified as are the other women, where do we all stand and what would you do?

@Blueskies25 If your only answer to my question (how are TW wanting to chest feed different from other males wishing to publicly act out inappropriate fetishes at the expense of others?) is to send an emoticon of derision, I think you’ve lost the argument.

Nope, just got bored of the thread, the same / similar comments / arguments were just being made over and over again

@Blueskies25 you didn't answer my reasonable questions. I asked you what skin you have in this game? My ftm is hoping to have children and would not want to expose their post partum breasts to anyone not biologically female (I asked them!). Bored by an argument you cannot win? Shame on you for not acknowledging it's not all about one individual's wants and desires. It's a group not a one person show. OP if you need a advocate I'm willing to help with my Oxford law degree. I'm fuming for you.

This post has made it on to Twitter. If you're not going back OP, will you name and shame?

So ladies I think this is a slam dunk! I don't comment on this board because I've been shouted down but I'm a very angry WOMAN at the moment.

I'm not transphobic, a TERF or bigot. I've navigated a FTM child for nearly a decade and I'm sick of this illogical nonsense.
You feel more a woman? fine have the surgery and understand genital pain. Put your dress on, we don't care. Want to hide from the male gaze? Not a problem with your fellow females, because as a csa/sa surviver there's a lot of shit males out there looking at your tits. But if you think after the Cass report told you to leave our kids alone you now need another axe to grind you're going to find arsy women like me telling you to fuck off.

My god just by reading this thread again since last night I'm so fucking glad I was born in the 80s......its bonkers that a MAN thinks HE can succeed in successful nipple feeding.... there are going to be some seriously fucked up kids in the future. Hate this cotton wool nation we have turned into.

It depends what you mean by “ succeed in breastfeeding”. You are assuming it’s about feeding the baby. But in fact it’s a sexual fetish, so he has already succeeded by attending the group, making all the women there uncomfortable and forcing the whole group to centre his needs.

Men who do this post photos of themselves feeding their baby online etc . It s a whole porn sub genre.

They will get attention from their family and friends by complaining how tried they are from chest feeding, they will demand that their partner does extra work so they can rest, they will bask in the glory of everyone telling them how wonderful and brave and stunning they are.

Thats what success is about . It’s actually nothing to do with the baby - baby and the woman who carried the baby , gave birth and actually feeds the baby are just props.