Banned from breastfeeding group for objecting to males breastfeeding

[snickerdoodle1990]

Hi everyone,

I gave birth a few months ago and had some breastfeeding difficulties, so joined a local breastfeeding support group in my city. It’s basically a place to go for support with feeding, plus meet other mums/have a cuppa and biscuit etc. They also have a FB group. It’s become a nice, friendly place to go once every couple of weeks.

Recently, a trans-woman (male) has joined the group asking for support because their wife has not long had a baby and the trans-woman is wishing to breastfeed too, apparently through use of hormones and domperidone (?) to stimulate supply (I did not realise this was possible at all)

I really really object to this person being present in a group of women who are seeking breastfeeding support, trying to come together in their breastfeeding experience and also revealing themselves intimately

I told the group leader my concerns and she basically told me to shove it - said that the group is a safe space for everyone and they support all who wish to breastfeed and that I shouldn’t come back because I am a bigot

I am horrified as are the other women, where do we all stand and what would you do?

So
No support
No protection for women
Nothing….what an absolute disgrace!!!

Time to invite your breastfeeding group over for a coffee
Id also be emailing your GP and Midwife/ Healthvisitors and asking where you can find a single sex breastfeeding group.

By what?

Fear of being accused of being discriminatory

Their hands are literally not tied. They are choosing to centre a male person at the expense of female people.

Because of fear of being accused of being discriminatory/ not inclusive

You haven’t got the hang of this have you

So a breastfeeding support group is knowingly centring a man who at best is delusional about the possibility of breastfeeding a baby, and a worst is a fetishist coopting a baby into that fetish, ahead of a woman who wants help to breastfeed her baby? That's appalling.

So bullying works does it? Is that the standard we should be aspiring to in society rather than respect for the rule of law?

Your comment makes no sense😂

What bullying are you referring to?

The bullying of society from TRAs that has convinced groups like this one that it is more important to include men in breastfeeding groups than women who are trying to breastfeed.

@Blueskies25 could you explain how it would be discriminatory to exclude a male from a female only group?

Excluding a trans woman who was seeking advice on breast feeding from a breast feeding support group could be seen as discriminatory

There are grey areas in the legislation that still need to be bottomed out, I presume it will be in time

Well, pending the repeal of the GRA, we have the Supreme Court ruling on how to operate the EA so that will do for the time being.

Allowing a man in is discriminatory against women with religious and cultural backgrounds that preclude breastfeeding in front of a man. And we have already established that they don't let men in, so excluding a man who happens to erroneously identify as a woman is not discriminatory, as they are not treating him any differently from a non trans identifying man, so they are not discriminating on the basis of transition.

No, it really couldn’t! Not by those with a grip on reality.

Of course it could, don’t be ridiculous?!?

Literally everyone else on this thread knows what I mean. Have you watched the news at all recently? Or maybe pop over to Hansard and read today’s HOL debate. Your approach is past it’s sell by date - didnt you know?

ETA “no debate” is over. Long live a cogent and inherently stable argument!

I think you are quite confused by what is going on in the world at the moment, you clearly don’t understand the position that they are in

On what grounds, and under what legislation?

Read the news - clue 16th April 2025.
Single Sex exception. A breast feeding group is clearly for females. If the organisers want to be inclusive they can but they have to make this clear when advertising.

See, this is the point of the Supreme Court decision. The group could legitimately argue that it needs to offer a single sex (NOT GENDER) service in order for breastfeeding women to feel comfortable.
They could also offer a session specifically aimed at transgender parents who breastfeeding, if there was ever enough demand for that. I’d imagine it might be more frequent (though still rare) to have transmen or non-binary mothers who would have their own different difficulties with breastfeeding.
Whatever my own personal thoughts on the idea of transwomen attempting breastfeeding are, there is no denying that their experience is going to be enormously different to that of postpartum mothers breastfeeding. I don’t think there’s any value in peer support between the two groups beyond making the transwomen feel validated, which is absolutely not the responsibility of the postpartum mothers!

Did you mean to quote me? I’m not sure we are in disagreement - with each other at least.

Again thank you for your service @Blueskies25
See what your question elicited.
The lurkers are reading it all and public opinion is forming. Keep going with the questions!