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ApocalipstickNow · 26/04/2025 20:00

“Cheering and gloating”

Like being told “enjoy your erasure.” Hmmm?

Igneococcus · 26/04/2025 20:02

Helleofabore · 26/04/2025 19:55

But remember, we are “ a constellation of statistically linked attributes - including genotype - that together match a pattern we identify as sex.

But luckily you can move between those constellations of statistically linked attributes with drugs and surgery, yay (please someone make it make sense).

ButterflyHatched · 26/04/2025 20:09

JasmineAllen · 26/04/2025 10:00

The GRC is to cover legal things eg passport, drivers license, marriage etc so no, it's not redundant.

It wasn't intended as a magic ticket so the holder could access single sex spaces.

The GRA has no impact on passports or driving licenses. My passport was reissued many, many years before I was eligible for a GRC. I have never had a male-registered driving license.

It afforded us privacy against disclosure and allowed us to amend birth certificates, die in dignity and marry. The marriage part is thankfully irrelevant now. The other three parts are still extant. It now does not function in its intended capacity of allowing us to be genuinely and earnestly treated as legally female or male, and the privacy protections are outright breached as soon as we use public or workplace single sex facilities.

sleepypea · 26/04/2025 20:10

Check out this fine piece of nonsense refuting the SC ruling from the trans uk subreddit, please note his only other post seems to be him moaning that he is unable to orgasm anally, he truly is the voice of the trans identified male 😂

There is a new wail of fury post from these guys every five minutes at the moment.
I Wrote An Article Responding to Anti Trans Laws and Rhetoric : r/transgenderUK

EmpressaurusKitty · 26/04/2025 20:10

@ButterflyHatched, I asked this question of the OP on another thread who sounded very like you & didn’t get an answer.

You both seem to think that some of you should still be allowed to use women’s spaces. On a practical, day to day basis, how would that work? Where would the boundary be - the amount of surgery? How well someone passes? And how would it be enforced?

We know it doesn’t come down to honour or good faith. I’m genuinely curious about this.

Or do I have it wrong and you think all males should be allowed into women’s spaces on a self-ID basis?

Helleofabore · 26/04/2025 20:15

ApocalipstickNow · 26/04/2025 20:00

“Cheering and gloating”

Like being told “enjoy your erasure.” Hmmm?

Cheering and gloating?

Like using JK Rowling as some misogynistic gotcha for supposedly passing as I have seen some male tweeters posting this past week?

I mean, the hypocrisy is stark with some people.

ApocalipstickNow · 26/04/2025 20:15

“Privacy against disclosure” - is this what you call advising young people to lie about their sex rather than gain informed consent for sexual activity?

Forgive me if I don’t believe for a second you’ll give up using women’s single sex spaces.

Peregrina · 26/04/2025 20:17

I transitioned more than a decade before the Equality Act existed, when trans people did not have legal recognition through the GRA, but were still allowed to use single sex facilities that best suited us.

Who gave you the permission to use the facilities of the opposite sex?

Was it in a work situation? Did the management call all women together and tell them that a man was proposing to transition, he wasn't to be discriminated against and there is a question of which loo he will use. Were they asked if they minded, with the veiled threat that no one could say they did, or was it presented as a fait accompli - he will use the women's loos and you will put up with it.

I suspect it was the latter. I would have been narked seeing you go into a woman's loo but as long as you nipped in, relieved yourself, washed your hands and nipped out, I would have let it go. This might well not have been the case for a woman who had been raped or sexually assaulted, had a melt down and also spends nights crying over the experience. Did you ever think of that? I would suspect not.

Your complaint is not with women as a class - it lies with those people who told you, you could change sex, and it lies with trans activists who being given an inch haven't taken a mile, but taken ten thousand miles and are now ranting and raving.

So please take your complaints to them.

Helleofabore · 26/04/2025 20:17

ApocalipstickNow · 26/04/2025 20:15

“Privacy against disclosure” - is this what you call advising young people to lie about their sex rather than gain informed consent for sexual activity?

Forgive me if I don’t believe for a second you’ll give up using women’s single sex spaces.

Oh, like sex by deception?

Good question! Because boundaries do seem to be somewhat of an issue with some of the male people who are demanding they should have access to female single sex spaces. And consent is a huge part of that, as we know.

LonginesPrime · 26/04/2025 20:19

Chrysanthemum5 · 26/04/2025 19:48

A question for lawyers (or knowledgeable people) RMW is saying the EHRC clarification is illegal as it is against Grainger. And I've heard a few comments around this now.

Firstly, I will believe EHRC over RMW so I know it's not correct, but can anyone explain why he thinks he's right?

Grainger as in ‘worthy of respect in a democratic society’?

SionnachRuadh · 26/04/2025 20:19

sleepypea · 26/04/2025 20:10

Check out this fine piece of nonsense refuting the SC ruling from the trans uk subreddit, please note his only other post seems to be him moaning that he is unable to orgasm anally, he truly is the voice of the trans identified male 😂

There is a new wail of fury post from these guys every five minutes at the moment.
I Wrote An Article Responding to Anti Trans Laws and Rhetoric : r/transgenderUK

Well, that's quite a thing.

It's a bit like David Renton's recent "terfs are a bit like suffragettes who went on to support Mosley" piece, if it were rewritten by an angry teenager who had knocked back one too many energy drinks.

NecessaryScene · 26/04/2025 20:19

It afforded us privacy against disclosure

Your sex is not private, nor should it be. The idea that helping trans people should involve hiding their sex, rather than accepting them as they are, comes from a really regressive mid-20th century concept of gender roles.

Going down that path is as if we'd given gay people the right to marry in secret.

DrSpartacularsMagnificentOctopus · 26/04/2025 20:19

DARVO

Shortshriftandlethal · 26/04/2025 20:20

ButterflyHatched · 26/04/2025 19:29

I don't think you quite understand what you are saying here.

I transitioned more than a decade before the Equality Act existed, when trans people did not have legal recognition through the GRA, but were still allowed to use single sex facilities that best suited us.

Even back then at a time of all-consuming culture-wide hostility, the idea of being banned from female facilities was patently ridiculous.

Falkner hasn't just removed my legal recognition with this guidance and rolled us back to before the Equality Act or even the GRA - she has rolled us back to a point so utterly backward; so patently dehumanising and unworkable that it almost beggars belief.

I cried myself to sleep last night - haven't done that for decades - and the tears came right back when I woke up this morning.

Your crusade has allowed Falkner to destroy everything that anchored my world. If I go out in public and use the facilities I have used my entire adult life and much of my teens, I am breaking the law. If I use facilities I am now required to use in the absence of unisex facilities, I automatically breach my right to privacy afforded by the GRA by outing myself. It's unworkable, inhumane and astonishingly irresponsible, not to mention in breach of the ECHR.

Your crusade has destroyed our lives. There are a tiny, tiny number of women in this situation in this country and you have consigned us all to social death. Half my friends are frantically making plans to leave the country; the rest are still in a state of shock. The callousness; the unbelievable cruelty with which our worlds have been torn apart, and the triumphant crowing that has accompanied it, has genuinely shocked me. It is so brazen - so inhuman in its relish at our suffering that it is hard to see it as unintentional. This is a gloating victory lap.

Before you leap in with the accusations of overplaying the impact, please think how you would feel to be told that you must now exclusively use male-only facilities, would be sent to a male prison if you decide to stand your ground and break the law that's just detonated your social existence and right to privacy, and people are cheering and gloating and crying tears of joy, then laughing about how upset it is going to make you.

How are you "outing yourself" by quietly and discreetly using a single occupancy unisex facility?

And quite frankly the hyperbole you are coming out with is utterly self focused and seems to have no wider awareness of the issue of males in female only spaces. You seem to have no awareness of what it feels ike when the shoe is on the other foot.

DrSpartacularsMagnificentOctopus · 26/04/2025 20:22

I have no sympathy for anyone who attempts to hide an attribute that is strongly correlated with harming those who do not share that attribute.

Helleofabore · 26/04/2025 20:23

NecessaryScene · 26/04/2025 20:19

It afforded us privacy against disclosure

Your sex is not private, nor should it be. The idea that helping trans people should involve hiding their sex, rather than accepting them as they are, comes from a really regressive mid-20th century concept of gender roles.

Going down that path is as if we'd given gay people the right to marry in secret.

The very concept that when sex matters, it can be hidden by some people is the very opposite of progressive. It is very regressive and it is harmful.

I think the authors of the EA2010 recognised this.

ButterflyHatched · 26/04/2025 20:26

Helleofabore · 26/04/2025 10:58

I think if we looked at the cocktail of drugs used for treatment, we wouldn’t be surprised at the ligament damage that is wrought on their bodies.

This is an odd take even for you. GnRH Agonists aren't a 'cocktail of drugs'.

We already know you're a bioessentialist but you're sounding like an antivaxxer or anti-pharmacutical puritan here. Very odd thing to say.

Annoyedone · 26/04/2025 20:28

@ButterflyHatched if you are taking several drugs, colloquial term is a cocktail of drugs. I sure you’ll have heard the term before,,what with you being so old and all. .

JazzyJelly · 26/04/2025 20:28

I hope @ButterflyHatchedcan reframe his trauma.

Helleofabore · 26/04/2025 20:31

The outpourings of pure emotional manipulation that we have seen from extreme transgender activists online since this ruling has been worrisome.

Firstly, weren't we told that they fully accepted their sex? That it was ridiculous to say that any person who had a transgender identity would deny their sex? And yet, how often has this been proven false even in the past few months,

But now we are seeing a massive emotional outpouring over social media and at protests. And I think these people genuinely think that it works. Maybe they did just this to coerce getting what they wanted from others in the past.

Either way, we know that inadequate mental health support was given by the gender clinics in the UK. I think that the NHS has so much to answer for. But also those extreme transgender activists who influenced the health care to where it is now in the UK. Imagine if even approaching adequate mental health care was given to help people to be resilient to the realities of their world.

But instead, we have what we are seeing across the internet and beyond.

Boiledbeetle · 26/04/2025 20:36
Toilet Err GIF

So, let me get this right

Man uses women's toilets for decades.

Same man now complains about 'women' being forced to share toilets with men.

🤔

Maybe the answer is for trans allies of the male sex to share toilets trips with upset transwomen?

DrSpartacularsMagnificentOctopus · 26/04/2025 20:37

"But now we are seeing a massive emotional outpouring over social media and at protests. And I think these people genuinely think that it works. Maybe they did just this to coerce getting what they wanted from others in the past."

The rage too is certainly helping to show why women need single sex spaces and provisions. I certainly don't want to encounter such manipulative, boundary-crossing, and unstable violent men in places where I least expect their presence.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/04/2025 20:39

Shortshriftandlethal · 26/04/2025 20:20

How are you "outing yourself" by quietly and discreetly using a single occupancy unisex facility?

And quite frankly the hyperbole you are coming out with is utterly self focused and seems to have no wider awareness of the issue of males in female only spaces. You seem to have no awareness of what it feels ike when the shoe is on the other foot.

Edited

Every post is just, "me me me me me can we talk about ME some more what about MEEEEE" isn't it?

No acknowledgement that the rest of us are human at all.

DrSpartacularsMagnificentOctopus · 26/04/2025 20:39

Boiledbeetle · 26/04/2025 20:36

So, let me get this right

Man uses women's toilets for decades.

Same man now complains about 'women' being forced to share toilets with men.

🤔

Maybe the answer is for trans allies of the male sex to share toilets trips with upset transwomen?

I'm sure LOJ, the fox-botherer, Billy Bragg, David Tennant, and all their mates could come up with a rota.

DuesToTheDirt · 26/04/2025 20:41

JasmineAllen · 26/04/2025 16:32

This.

Whatever happened to the word 'unisex'?

Here here. It's obfuscation.

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