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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Reddit - TIMs and Periods

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afuckinggoat · 03/04/2025 21:13

Stumbled across this thread on Reddit. A load of TIMs sharing their experiences of having a period.

www.reddit.com/r/MtF/s/twwZf1AH3c

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PriOn1 · 04/04/2025 07:27

Why don’t they just identify as women who are bleeding?

I mean, that’s what “identify as” means, doesn’t it? Having a strong internal belief that you’re something you’re not?

If their faith was really strong enough, they would bleed.

YorkshirePuddingsGreatestFan · 04/04/2025 08:11

Wipethedogspaws · 03/04/2025 22:42

That Reddit thread:

I have heard interesting information about cis female having full uterus removal so the body has no uterus to shed and does not produce oestrogen. For these women periods and all pain will stop..... Unless they go on HRT when the cramps and other effects begin full swing again almost as painful as before. Transphobes and denialists hate this as it proves they are stupid and we are 100% valid.

That's right up there with the David Lammy version of human (female) biology.

I had my uterus and ovaries removed for medical reasons. I'm on a constant dose of oestrogen HRT and no progesterone.

I now have no cycle, no cramps, no mood swings, no cravings or anything else associated with periods.

I'm just a terfy bigot with lived in experience though.

Lemonz · 04/04/2025 08:42

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 04/04/2025 00:53

All women and girls of menstruating age know when we have missed a period and what it could mean.

No, because a very small number of women and girls have DSDs that mean that they cannot menstruate. Their lack of periods at puberty prompts a medical investigation into the root cause of this primary amenorrhea, which is because women and girls are expected to have periods and the lack of them indicates a medical problem.

I think the point you were trying to illustrate with your not-entirely-accurate statement about missed periods is that periods can only be a female experience and can never be a male experience. And you would be right. 100% of men and boys will never be investigated for primary amenorrhea. 100% of men and boys will never have to worry about a late period. 100% of men and boys will never take a pregnancy test and fear the results.

Periods are women's, not fetishistic men's.

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Well obviously I do agree with the point that you think I was trying to make, but no. I think you're getting hung up on the word missed, but I meant what I said. We do all know when we have had a period and when we haven't.

Girls who have never had a period, necessitating medical investigations, know that they haven't had a period. If a girl gets a tummy ache but no blood, she will never think she has had her first period. We are never confused about the fact that if you don't bleed, you didn't have a period because it actually means something to us.

Rare medical condition is another thing that not menstruating could mean.

Beowulfa · 04/04/2025 08:45

And we're told it's not a mental health issue.

Datun · 04/04/2025 08:47

Do these men really not grasp how they come across? Fetishising women's biology to the point of insanity?

I mean, we all know (by now) quite how far some men will go for a boner, but jeez.

MinnieCauldwell · 04/04/2025 08:48

TIMs fetishise periods theres probably a name for it, but not going to Google! I have seen more than once on line of a TIM taking a selfie in the Ladies with a san bin behind him.

ditalini · 04/04/2025 08:56

YorkshirePuddingsGreatestFan · 04/04/2025 08:11

I had my uterus and ovaries removed for medical reasons. I'm on a constant dose of oestrogen HRT and no progesterone.

I now have no cycle, no cramps, no mood swings, no cravings or anything else associated with periods.

I'm just a terfy bigot with lived in experience though.

I wonder if they've dug out some material on hysterectomy not necessarily being a complete cure for endometriosis due to potential presence of endometrial tissue outside of the uterus.

Completely irrelevant of course to the experience of all TW.

(Next they'll dig out the article on endometriosis-like disease in men because, while vanishingly rare and telling us zip about the trans experience, there's nothing they won't appropriate. See DSDs debates passim.)

Beowulfa · 04/04/2025 09:11

popefully · 03/04/2025 23:47

It kind of reads like a group of 4 year olds talking confidently about all the moves they've done on a video game (that they haven't played).

I was reminded of those Kids Say The Funniest Things! type programmes where they ask a small child questions like "what's a mortgage?" and "what do people do when they work in an office?" The child then responds volubly and confidently using something they overheard their Aunty Clare say in hushed tones, interesting words from songs their older brother plays and their imagination.

JKRismyPatronus · 04/04/2025 09:12
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JKRismyPatronus · 04/04/2025 09:21

If I go to the GP for gynae issues, she will ask me when was the first day of my last period. This is the day I starting bleeding. This is a period. Being grumpy, feeling emotional or having intestinal cramps does not constitute a period. I can't believe we are having to say this over and over.

KnottyAuty · 04/04/2025 09:23

Lemonz · 04/04/2025 00:29

Period is just a euphemism for menstruation.

All women and girls of menstruating age know when we have missed a period and what it could mean. If we get a tummy ache but no blood we know we didn't have a period. Because this actually means something in our bodies - we could be pregnant, we could be under a lot of stress, we could be malnourished, we could be reaching menopause or peri menopause.

But our lives and bodies are just jokes or theoretical musings to these men - they will never understand how grossly offensive and misogynistic they are being.

I might go to the doctor and see how far this gets me because today I had a twinge in my groin: I identity as a male and I’m concerned I may have a testicular torsion. I have no testicles but I’m post menopausal and I’m on Letrozole so my low oestrogen makes this a plausible scenario.

I wonder if they’d humour me or prescribe anti depressants/counselling?

Datun · 04/04/2025 09:28

I guess it is offensive, although, I'm not really personally offended, because it's absolutely nothing to do with a being a woman or womanhood.

I am a little horrified tho. A lot of the men say that they're excited, and it's affirming. Looking for normal mood swings, or side effects from medication in order to pretend you're having a period?

And squaring it all away by pretending that a period isn't actually to do with sex specific organs??

It's like me having a pee and pretending I'm ejaculating. And no, I might not be able to get anyone pregnant, but that's not reeely the point of sperm.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 04/04/2025 09:33

Christ. Absolutely delulu.

CheekySnake · 04/04/2025 09:45

Wipethedogspaws · 03/04/2025 22:42

That Reddit thread:

I have heard interesting information about cis female having full uterus removal so the body has no uterus to shed and does not produce oestrogen. For these women periods and all pain will stop..... Unless they go on HRT when the cramps and other effects begin full swing again almost as painful as before. Transphobes and denialists hate this as it proves they are stupid and we are 100% valid.

That's right up there with the David Lammy version of human (female) biology.

I suppose I am one of the women they're referring to, although I'd love to know why they say 'full uterus removal' (wtf) rather than just boring old hysterectomy. Had a hysterectomy, can confirm that I don't have periods, am on HRT and have pain, but that's because I've got endometriosis, and these men on reddit are just full of shit, which is presumably what's causing the diarrhoea that they like to pretend is a period.

However, I digress. I think we should stop trying to push back against this with biology and accurate descriptions of the menstrual cycle, and the reason for that is that these men know full well that they aren't having periods. They find pretending that they are having periods sexually exciting. They may well also find talking about it with other people exciting, and the same goes for arguing with women who say no you're not.

However because it's quite difficult for Dave from accounts to rock up to a meeting clutching a heating pad and telling everyone he's got period pain without senior management deciding that it's time to quietly manage him out of his job, men like Dave are acting this pretense out online, where they can anonymously larp with no fear of real world repercussions. Men used to do this in private, now they do it online where we can see them. It's well known that scat play is a thing, as is playing with urine, breastmilk and even vomit. It's not a great leap to understand that for some men, playacting menstruation is the thing that turns them on. This may well be something they only do online - I wouldn't be surprised if quite a few of them present as normal men IRL and their woman persona only exists online.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 04/04/2025 09:56

I guess it is offensive, although, I'm not really personally offended, because it's absolutely nothing to do with a being a woman or womanhood.

exactly. I just find it a bit grim.

illinivich · 04/04/2025 10:14

Years ago, we didn't know what 'transsexuals' were thinking or talking to each other about. But thanks to the internet, we do now.

Greyskybluesky · 04/04/2025 10:36

illinivich · 04/04/2025 10:14

Years ago, we didn't know what 'transsexuals' were thinking or talking to each other about. But thanks to the internet, we do now.

Agree. And that's why I don't accept the viewpoint we sometimes see that "women didn't mind a few transexuals in our spaces back in the day".

  1. Nobody actually asked us if we minded.
  2. Is this fetishisation of women's biology a new thing? No. It was always happening, we just didn't know about it.

It's a good thing it's all out in the open now, however grim. Everyone can see it for what it is.

GretaGip · 04/04/2025 12:06

These TIMs are displaying Jay from Inbetweeners levels of idiocy, delusion, arrogance and offensiveness.

Hmm
Beowulfa · 04/04/2025 12:13

GretaGip · 04/04/2025 12:06

These TIMs are displaying Jay from Inbetweeners levels of idiocy, delusion, arrogance and offensiveness.

Hmm

Jay is at least funny.

UrsulasHerbBag · 04/04/2025 14:16

Oh they make me so tired. I need a chaise longue and some burnt feathers for my menstrual brain. Silly boys.

Datun · 04/04/2025 14:32

Ereshkigalangcleg · 04/04/2025 09:56

I guess it is offensive, although, I'm not really personally offended, because it's absolutely nothing to do with a being a woman or womanhood.

exactly. I just find it a bit grim.

Yes, grim is the word.

Also, if you have to go to these really quite insane levels for validation you're just going to be permanently disappointed and frustrated.

What a way to live a life. It's such a waste.

honeylulu · 04/04/2025 15:15

Gosh. I am speechless.

I am lucky in that I've never had mood swings as a result of my menstrual cycle and I no longer get any cramps either. Does this mean I don't actually have periods (since the bleeding part, which I do experience, is apparently irrelevant)?

Inapickleiam · 04/04/2025 15:34

Oh, I wish I hadn't read this.

From another perspective, my lovely son says he is trans. He knows how I feel so but I don't want to be cut off so basically, we don't talk about it & I live in hope he will leave the 'cult' and 'grow out of it'. I am utterly, utterly terrified of him taking hormones and the potential effects on his body. He hasn't said anything either way. He's away at Uni so I don't get the opportunity to chat F2F often and want him to be happy and safe coming home.

TwoLoonsAndASprout · 04/04/2025 16:01

Inapickleiam · 04/04/2025 15:34

Oh, I wish I hadn't read this.

From another perspective, my lovely son says he is trans. He knows how I feel so but I don't want to be cut off so basically, we don't talk about it & I live in hope he will leave the 'cult' and 'grow out of it'. I am utterly, utterly terrified of him taking hormones and the potential effects on his body. He hasn't said anything either way. He's away at Uni so I don't get the opportunity to chat F2F often and want him to be happy and safe coming home.

So sorry to hear this. Sending hugs. Hope your boy does manage to come back - not just home, but to a place where he can love himself and his body the way it is.