Trans ideology has messed up my family. My DW and I are in an impossible bind - either we lie or we risk permanent estrangement from our DS, who has been sucked into a nonsensical worldview that demonises anyone who doesn't elevate gender identity over physical reality. His character and behaviour towards his close family have changed, and not in a good way. Dismissing our experience as "moral panic" is offensive and disrespectful.
As a result of our family troubles, my eyes have been opened to the authoritarianism and misogyny of "progressive" thinking, which removes women as a class of people with female reproductive biology and gives any man the "right" to everything that women have fought for for at least 200 years in the UK. When "progressive" means twisting truth, the consequences are far reaching.
I want my son to be treated reasonably. This does not mean telling him that he is a woman, and in consequence that the has the right to use women's spaces. It does not mean affirming him in his current thinking and telling him that anyone who doesn't agree with him hates him. It does not mean encouraging him to think that the solution to his autistic tendency not to fit societal norms is to try to fit "feminine" norms instead of "masculine" ones, with the "logical" conclusion that he needs oestrogen and other "gender affirming care" that will damage his male body. It does mean not being treated worse than other men in employment and housing, for example, on the basis of "gender reassignment".
And I want my son to understand and act on his male duties of respect and care towards all women.