Premiere of Trans Widows Film on Friday 30th Aug

[TinselAngel]

Vaishnavi Sundar's long awaited documentary that was three years in the making, is having a worldwide premiere on the 30th of August, 7pm UK time.

Behind The Looking Glass is a feature-length film about the lives of women whose partners have/want to medically transition.

This is the link for the premiere:

I'm just back from a week's suspension.

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Fantastic film- congratulations to all
I’ve suggested it to some of the posters on the JL thread, but I think hell will freeze over first.

Should be on mainstream TV. Hi BBC!

I hope the lovely ex of the trans person in our world finds this documentary. Depressingly he has managed to tick so many stages outlined across different stories.

What's next for the film? Will it get shown at festivals? The internet will enable lots of people, across the world to access. Will the film makers make some money back through advertising?

I wish you all well.

Such brave inspiring women. More people will speak because you speak now. Thank you.

Well it's now got 27k views, brilliant

I'd really like to know what next for this film as well. I actually sent a link to the Guardian's culture desk saying it's an important documentary and they should feature/review it. Probably won't do anything but I'd be interested in knowing what promotion the film is getting and if it is going to be featured at any film festivals.

Oof, that was an emotional watch. I have so much more appreciation of what trans widows go through now, I knew it was bad but this really brought it into focus. Thank you Tinsel, Vaishnavi and everyone who contributed.

What a powerful film. Thank you @TinselAngel and all of the other trans widows for putting this together, and I am so sorry for what you have been through. I watched this as a feminist and as someone whose close friend is going though this with her cross dressing husband who is now fully fuelled up by the trans movement and is now a poor hard done by victim. She loves him so much and desperately wants to accept this side of him but it's fucked her up so much. She has dropped me now, the terf that I am. I hope she is ok, though I doubt it. There were so many parts of this film that made me wince as an abuse survivor. The present of the underwear for the children. My abuser did that to me, at 10 years old. I was so confused, I looked to his wife when I opened my present and she just smiled and said "oh <abuser> bought you that. What a fucked up world we live in.

It's at 39,000 views now.

That's really, really depressing to hear Tinsel. You'd think give your history on these boards and the support you give women to leave abusive relationships (watch the film mods!) MN might be a bit more judicious about suspension / banning, even if they feel they have to delete some posts.

I'm have no doubt there are some very, very determined monitors trying to get you banned so that you can no longer provide help to transwidows and amplify their voices on here. I know there are other places too, but precious few, and I do think MN is valuable as a place where transwidows can anonymously receive support.

I wonder if MN does do any analysis of whether specific posters are targeted for reporting (also who they're reported by). They should if they don't.

I had to agree to follow Talk Guidelines to be allowed back so I probably won't be able to risk posting as much from now on, because I assume I'll get permanently banned for the next offence.

That's really troubling.

I remember when I first started posting here (quite a few years ago) I used to watch LangCleg to get a handle on what was and wasn't allowed, because, at that point, her posts didn't attract many deletions. Then I watched it change - her posts remained broadly similar but the deletions went up and up.

I wonder how many people have moderator permissions, how quickly former mods have their access denied, whether they each have their own traceable activity statistics, and whether there is any review or analysis of reporting, deleting, etc, which could indicate to them if they have been subject to entryism or manipulation. It is ridiculous that Tinsel has been made to tread on eggshells.

TinselAngel will be a poster who gets reported a lot. It's not rocket science to work out why some people want to shut her up.

What @ArabellaScott said.

It's taken me from Friday until now to finish this.

It describes the lives of some women I know so well to the point where I felt ill at the memory. (I was particularly struck by the discussion of men who discover their interest in transitioning when the woman develops a serious illness. This hit home so hard.)

Remarkable film with a profound impact that needs to be seen widely.

I've been away with family for a few days and not had a chance to watch it yet, I will be doing so asap.

Same, Eresh. Looking forward to it.

I've just finished watching - have many emotions! So glad it's been made.

I watched it last night, it was worth the wait.

@TinselAngel

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Watched it with DH last night. Well done for bringing this into the open. Despite me banging on for ages about the harm these men cause he had never fully grasped the injustice of forcing the wives to celebrate how stunning and brave their new 'wife' is whilst their own lives have been torn apart. He gets it now. It was a very moving film, and I’m glad the women were given a voice. I’m so sorry for all you have gone through.

I know you are more than capable @TinselAngel but is there a way we can help protect your account? I miss Langcleg and I’d miss you too.

I watched it yesterday. Excellent. Extremely moving. The animation worked very well.

I think the only way is for me to keep my mouth shut, which is a bit too reminiscent of my past to be an acceptable option for me.