Amen to that. I'm the mother of a son, too. I have a husband I adore and respect; both of us work full-time, both take on our full-time load of parenting and domestic labour. We don't argue, let alone abuse each other. To me this should be a bare minimum expectation.
Telling men and boys that women are to blame for men's high suicide rate is just the sort of upbringing I want to avoid for my son. I try to bring him up with the right values. We don't use spaces specifically designed for women and girls, and we frown on sexism of any variety.
I am concerned every day that we don't bring our kids up in a vacuum, and despair of the sort of influences he's bound to come up against. I do my best to counter them. And, now that he'll be at the onset of puberty in only a fairly short time, I make him aware (in an age-appropriate way) some of what women have to put up with at the hands of men, and who commits the vast, vast majority of violent and sexual crime. He knows it's a choice, and that things don't have to be that way.
What I don't do is continually excuse male behaviour by steering the blame for it at women. Rule #1 of misogyny: 'women are responsible for what men do'.
Like everyone, we all have plenty of men we love and wholeheartedly respect. Our friends, our brothers, our fathers, our husbands. But even my DH says that as a collective, a sex-'class', he doesn't like them all that much.
@MrsTerryPratchett - I'm laughing at the patriarchy mackerel. It's definitely a thing ...