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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Male friend on FB (a doctor no less), telling me that trans women are real women.

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Blondiebeachbabe · 29/04/2024 21:48

I shared a meme on FB, about not supporting trans women in female sports.

A male friend of mine, who is a GP, commented that trans women are real women 🙄 I replied that trans women are men, and that my gripe was men in women’s sports, and men (rapists like Karen White), being housed in female prisons.

He then said that he knew lots of trans men, who just wanted to live a peaceful life, and I’m thinking well yes, because they are actually biologically female!

He then went on to quote all manner of statistics about violence from men against trans women and how trans women are at more risk of violence than cis women (I hate that term). and how cis women are more likely to be attacked by cis men than trans women.

It’s been annoying me all day. Here is another male telling me what to think, but also, whether the violence comes from normal men against trans women (who are men), or trans women against real women, this is essentially a male violence problem.

Because, we as women, aren’t the perpetrators in any of this. So men, stay in your own lane and sort out all your shit. You don’t get to throw the men you don’t like into our lane (bathrooms and prisons), and make us your collateral damage.

If a fox said that it felt like it was a chicken, you wouldn’t let it sleep in the chicken coup, just in case it was lying.

I may not have articulated this in the best way!

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Helleofabore · 30/04/2024 20:29

fungipie · 30/04/2024 19:20

Not the ones I know. And they are the ones I am talking about.

Right.

All your posts are based around the anecdotes of a few people who are your friends.

And because of them, female people should be shamed for discussing their needs for single sex spaces, have terms like 'transphobic' used against them, and have to consider appeals to emotion so that some male people can use female people in female single sex spaces for their own security based on no statistics or studies based on the UK at all. All because, you personally, know some nice people.

Good to know.

By the way, I know lots of 'nice' people who are males of all ages. Doesn't mean that any group of male people should be accessing female single sex spaces set up to safeguard female people. Life doesn't work like that and I am rather surprised to see a number of posters continue to post to the contrary.

PTSDBarbiegirl · 30/04/2024 20:30

How will this GP perform a smear test on the Trans woman? Will he be happy to donate sperm for the TW to become pregnant.
If you don't like term 'cis' just refuse to give answers that include. Reinforce your case by not using the language of the cult.

DuesToTheDirt · 30/04/2024 20:35

fungipie · 30/04/2024 18:29

you truly have not got a clue, and what is it to you? I know several transwomen who have gone through the whole transition- and the reason they did is because they feel mentally and emotionally like women.

I don't understand it. But who I am to not allow them their choice, and to force them into great risk of verbal, mental and even physical violence if they have to attend men only toilets.

eunuch != woman

Waitingfordoggo · 30/04/2024 20:36

Notamum12345577 · 30/04/2024 19:08

Trans people are at a lot higher risk of violence than most other groups (I’m not saying all other groups, I don’t know). A lot higher risk than trans on women violence for example.

Got any stats?

Apollo441 · 30/04/2024 20:40

Waitingfordoggo · 30/04/2024 20:36

Got any stats?

Of course not!

fungipie · 30/04/2024 20:40

PTSDBarbiegirl · 30/04/2024 20:30

How will this GP perform a smear test on the Trans woman? Will he be happy to donate sperm for the TW to become pregnant.
If you don't like term 'cis' just refuse to give answers that include. Reinforce your case by not using the language of the cult.

Relevance re how we treat them?

Helleofabore · 30/04/2024 20:44

Notamum12345577 · 30/04/2024 19:05

No one is pretending anyone can change sex, not even Trans groups. They say people can change gender

McKinnon used the fact people treated them as female and used pronouns to argue they were female and should be allowed to compete as a female person in female sports categories. Used the term female and equated themselves to female people.

Many male people now claim they are female. A sex term.

HootyMcBooby · 30/04/2024 20:44

The problem is, that doctors treat SEXED BODIES, not "feelings" or "identities".

It's BODIES, physical bodies, that become unwell and sick.

Knowing what sex someone is is absolutely vital.

Bogeyes · 30/04/2024 20:46

I'm sick of this stupidity. They are men in dresses

Runningupthecurtains · 30/04/2024 20:48

Blondiebeachbabe · 29/04/2024 21:48

I shared a meme on FB, about not supporting trans women in female sports.

A male friend of mine, who is a GP, commented that trans women are real women 🙄 I replied that trans women are men, and that my gripe was men in women’s sports, and men (rapists like Karen White), being housed in female prisons.

He then said that he knew lots of trans men, who just wanted to live a peaceful life, and I’m thinking well yes, because they are actually biologically female!

He then went on to quote all manner of statistics about violence from men against trans women and how trans women are at more risk of violence than cis women (I hate that term). and how cis women are more likely to be attacked by cis men than trans women.

It’s been annoying me all day. Here is another male telling me what to think, but also, whether the violence comes from normal men against trans women (who are men), or trans women against real women, this is essentially a male violence problem.

Because, we as women, aren’t the perpetrators in any of this. So men, stay in your own lane and sort out all your shit. You don’t get to throw the men you don’t like into our lane (bathrooms and prisons), and make us your collateral damage.

If a fox said that it felt like it was a chicken, you wouldn’t let it sleep in the chicken coup, just in case it was lying.

I may not have articulated this in the best way!

Ask the Dr to give you prostate exam.
When he can't tell him you will focus really hard on thinking you are a man for half an hour then he can try again.

PTSDBarbiegirl · 30/04/2024 20:50

fungipie · 30/04/2024 20:40

Relevance re how we treat them?

What exactly are you not understanding, it's pretty straightforward. Google the Cass report and think about the contents. OECD data is a good source of stats if you're not sure.

User5683998 · 30/04/2024 21:00

I have encountered
1 transman, 1 transwoman through work, 1 transwoman through a sport I play (on the ladies team) and another transwoman who was on the same hospital bay as a relative. They suggested the HCA didn't close the curtain so that everyone could see their bits..in tact male bits.

The only one of those above that has had any surgical body modification towards their chosen gender is the transman

Who said transwoman don't have penis? Ridiculous.

Italianita · 30/04/2024 21:12

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QueenBitch666 · 30/04/2024 21:18

TomeTome · 29/04/2024 22:28

I have to be careful as he is my husbands long term friend. I definitely argued my point but had to be polite. In what way do you have to “be careful”? You can disagree with your husbands friends.

This. I'd pile on my gender critical beliefs even more. Misogynist tosser

Italianita · 30/04/2024 21:26

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MissScarletInTheBallroom · 30/04/2024 21:29

Helleofabore · 30/04/2024 20:44

McKinnon used the fact people treated them as female and used pronouns to argue they were female and should be allowed to compete as a female person in female sports categories. Used the term female and equated themselves to female people.

Many male people now claim they are female. A sex term.

Even the effing Gender Recognition Act refers to "male" and "female" as "genders", FFS.

Needless to say it fails to define any of these terms.

There will have been a team of legislative drafters who sat round a table, discussed how to define their terms, concluded that they couldn't do so without it being obvious that the whole thing was a load of fucking nonsense, and decided to just omit that section and hope no one noticed it didn't make any sense. And people are only just noticing now, in fairness.

Notamum12345577 · 30/04/2024 21:30

HootyMcBooby · 30/04/2024 19:17

Yes, thank GOD both me and my daughters are only at a TINY percent of an increase risk.

PHEW.

As long as the men are all safe though? That's the main thing.

I never said it was good, I said the risk is tiny (which obviously is still terrible, the risk should be zero)

DuesToTheDirt · 30/04/2024 21:31

Notamum12345577 · 30/04/2024 19:10

Well you probably can’t, but it is only a tiny tiny majority that would be a predator

So if I find myself getting attacked in a toilet by Katie Dolatowski, Isla Bryson, Adam Miller, Karen White or the many other trans predators, I'll just tell myself, ah well, that's the luck of the draw, never mind!

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 30/04/2024 21:32

Notamum12345577 · 30/04/2024 21:30

I never said it was good, I said the risk is tiny (which obviously is still terrible, the risk should be zero)

Do you know how we get the risk as close to zero as possible?

By keeping all males, regardless of how they believe they identify or how nice they are, out of women's single sex spaces.

fungipie · 30/04/2024 21:34

HootyMcBooby · 30/04/2024 20:44

The problem is, that doctors treat SEXED BODIES, not "feelings" or "identities".

It's BODIES, physical bodies, that become unwell and sick.

Knowing what sex someone is is absolutely vital.

Yes, and they will know. But how ridiculous to say doctors only treat bodies!

Notamum12345577 · 30/04/2024 21:34

HootyMcBooby · 30/04/2024 20:01

I'm seeing an AWFUL lot of transphobia on this thread.

  1. Males identifying as women are not transwomen.
  2. You are only a transwoman if you have had full "bottom surgery".
  3. To think you can change sex is to "pretend".
  4. A tiny "majority" (sic) of transwomen are predators.

Honestly, it's sickening the vile transphobia on this thread.
And that just coming from the trans SUPPORTERS!

What's the world coming to?

I wrote a tiny majority, that was a typo. It should have said ‘only a tiny tiny minority’

Italianita · 30/04/2024 21:34

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Notamum12345577 · 30/04/2024 21:36

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I never said that it was ok. Zero os the only acceptable number

MissLucyEyelesbarrow · 30/04/2024 21:38

HootyMcBooby · 30/04/2024 20:01

I'm seeing an AWFUL lot of transphobia on this thread.

  1. Males identifying as women are not transwomen.
  2. You are only a transwoman if you have had full "bottom surgery".
  3. To think you can change sex is to "pretend".
  4. A tiny "majority" (sic) of transwomen are predators.

Honestly, it's sickening the vile transphobia on this thread.
And that just coming from the trans SUPPORTERS!

What's the world coming to?

The wheels have come off the clown car, and no one is going to be cowed by you shouting 'transphobia" any more. No one cares. Don't you get it? This ridiculous madness is over.

Notamum12345577 · 30/04/2024 21:39

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 30/04/2024 19:23

A tiny tiny majority? Just over half? I don’t think any gender critical person would assume it’s that high a percentage!

It was a typo 😁