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Datun · 19/02/2024 12:55

Naunet · 19/02/2024 12:55

The whole bloody thread should be deleted then, none of this is desirable to read about!

Anything that looks like it might be informative, then !

Myalternate · 19/02/2024 12:56

I’ve 3 children. 2 boys (3 yr old twins) and a 20mth daughter. I’ve breastfed all 3. The only ‘erotic’ feeling I had was my uterus contracting.

Flowers4me · 19/02/2024 12:57

pronounsbundlebundle · 19/02/2024 12:36

Absolute bollocks to women finding it erotic, particularly if they're also looking after a newborn 24/7. Bollocks. Big massive hairy bollocks. Fake news. Shows a complete and utter and frankly astounding lack of knowledge of what looking after a newborn actually entails. Breastfeeding actually depresses both fertility and sex drive in female mammals as a general rule.

But they don't care about reality or about the wellbeing of the child. We see you.

Totally agree.

Helleofabore · 19/02/2024 13:00

ButterflyHatched · 19/02/2024 12:36

Please give it a rest - I am starting to feel really quite embarrassed on your behalf. How on earth is it male entitlement to provide a counter-example to an insinuation that this is a male-only phenomenon? There were pages of google search results, including youtube videos - I just picked the top one.

When you, personally, cannot recognise male entitlement, we as a group are trying to help you to see what you cannot.

I explained where the male entitlement was very clearly. Did you miss it?

Here it is again, it was the bit where you attempted:

"To wedge in the unnatural process of a male person feeding an infant into medical policy and to attempt to minimise the known paraphilia that is likely to motivate such a thing. The examples of male entitlement are literally jumping out of these threads."

See, I can see clearly why you would be embarrassed at having this pointed out to you.

Helleofabore · 19/02/2024 13:04

AdamRyan · 19/02/2024 12:49

I still can't find the letter. But LBC has been helpful:

https://www.lbc.co.uk/news/trans-woman-milk-breastfeeding/

Dr Rachael James's message said: "Medications are sometimes used to induce lactation, similar to the natural hormones which encourage lactation to develop when the baby is newly born although occasionally some people are able to induce lactation without hormonal treatment.
"The evidence which is available demon­strates that the milk is compar­able to that produced following the birth of a baby." This is not the same as saying its "just as good" - this is a summary of the scientific analysis saying chemically it is comparable

"The letter said "human milk" is the "ideal food for infants" " - not arguable surely? Just a statement of fact.

"staff further clarify that the term human milk is meant to be neutral and is not gender-biased" - so basically using human milk instead of breastmilk so as not to upset trans men.

I think these are all reasonable and non political statements so I see why the trust are saying "We stand by the facts of the letter and the cited evidence supporting them"

In my opinion the letter is a non story so I wonder why this is coming up now while blogs like the ones being linked aren't being reported on? Weird.

It feels to me like it's aimed more at undermining the NHS trust than any genuine concern for babies but who knows

Have you forgotten Mika. This is happening. If I remember, this was the same NHS trust (but I could be wrong)

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-12258633/Trans-activist-posts-image-breastfeeding-child.html

Trans activist posts image of her breastfeeding her child

Mika Minio-Paluello was seen during Wednesday night's News At Ten programme doing the washing up while she spoke of how the soaring costs were 'tough'.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-12258633/Trans-activist-posts-image-breastfeeding-child.html

pronounsbundlebundle · 19/02/2024 13:04

I sort of agree that if MN are going to selectively delete reasonable posts then it's fairer to delete the whole thread than leave it so one sided.

However, I think when we're talking about men trying to simulate breastfeeding for men's own selfish interests, then we should be able to exercise our human right to free speech, no matter if people complain.

There is only one possible motivation for men wanting to do this, when their bodies aren't designed to. Women shouldn't be deleted for saying it as it is.

If there's just one sided deletions it's unfair - Butterly's bollocks assertions aren't being deleted despite being obvious nonsense and against scientific fact, I notice.

WitchyWitcherson · 19/02/2024 13:10

ButterflyHatched · 19/02/2024 10:19

You mean aside from the practical benefit of having more than one person in a household able to chestfeed alongside the psychological benefits of doing so?

Fuck off with your "chest feeding". Seriously.

That you are supporting this utter horror show just shows how little regard you have towards women and children. All you want is validation for men pretending to be women, and it's the worst kind of misogyny.

The lack of support I received at the beginning of my breastfeeding journey due to the midwives' lack of knowledge on the effects of tongue-tie led to me sobbing with pain in the early hours of the morning for WEEKS whilst feeding my daughter. I was determined to get through it, I wanted to breastfeed by daughter because I knew it was right for us. Thanks to a free breastfeeding support group, run by women, and my daughter's tongue-tie being cut at 6 weeks, it resolved itself. But for me it was more painful and difficult than childbirth.

We women do not need men's help to breastfeed our children, we need proper breastfeeding support from other experienced mothers and midwives. THAT's what needs funding.

AdamRyan · 19/02/2024 13:11

Helleofabore · 19/02/2024 13:04

Have you forgotten Mika. This is happening. If I remember, this was the same NHS trust (but I could be wrong)

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-12258633/Trans-activist-posts-image-breastfeeding-child.html

I don't think the fact TRAs live in Brighton says anything about the NHS trust. There's no information to suggest that person was lactating or had NHS input into said lactation.

It's pretty gross though. Poor baby. (FWIW that baby looks asleep not like its BF so i think it's performative. Pretty fkin ridiculous you'd get deleted from FB for posting that if you were female, yet male is all over the papers)

Helleofabore · 19/02/2024 13:13

AdamRyan · 19/02/2024 13:11

I don't think the fact TRAs live in Brighton says anything about the NHS trust. There's no information to suggest that person was lactating or had NHS input into said lactation.

It's pretty gross though. Poor baby. (FWIW that baby looks asleep not like its BF so i think it's performative. Pretty fkin ridiculous you'd get deleted from FB for posting that if you were female, yet male is all over the papers)

I believe that an endrocrinologist at that trust enabled that person to feed that infant. We found plenty about it at the time. It was not just a 'daily mail' article. It was across lots of media at the time.

canyouread · 19/02/2024 13:16

mypronounsaremine · 18/02/2024 22:21

No, it's not formula milk, it's secretions from a TW's body. Requires both the drugs used to help stimulate lactation in mothers struggling with breastfeeding (not especially controversial when used for that, I think) as well as the TW to have milk-producing glands in the first place. That last bit seems the questionable part — the Telegraph says “For a person born male to breastfeed, they must develop milk-producing glands by taking the hormone progestin” but it's not clear to me that this would be enough to generate glands men don't have. Not least because progestin is already present in men and plays a role in the male endocrine system.
That assorted drugs might enable a man to secrete liquid from their nipples doesn't seem impossible: but whether it has any relationship to milk? Dunno. And not an experiment any baby should be made to participate in.

What am I reading? You don't just start growing glands ffs.

Your understanding and "theory" is totally, 100%, bafflingly wrong. The Telegraph is wrong too. This is not about a trans debate but a totally basic scientific fact.

All humans including males already have the anatomy (nipples, mammary glands, and pituitary glands) necessary to lactate.

It's the hormones they don't have, though in some cases males start naturally lactating. One of my DH's friends started lactating due to a condition and wasn't at all pleased when the doctor reassured him it was safe for any potential babies to drink!

Again no comment on the trans thing. Just saying "men need to take chemicals to grow glands" is rubbish and makes us women sound like total idiots. It's induced by the same hormones that make women lactate.

I also know a woman who couldn't lactate at all, and had to take probably the same mass quantity of estrogen and progesterone a trans man would have to have. Was she poisoning her baby? No, I doubt so. I prefer research to Mumsnet.

That said, I think whether for men or women, there's probably still some risk. It's stupid, ridiculous and vain for both genders – assuming people are doing it on purpose (rather than the article exaggerating cases that are the result of hormone therapy that's already occurring, not that I support hormone therapy but it is what it is).

Naunet · 19/02/2024 13:21

canyouread · 19/02/2024 13:16

What am I reading? You don't just start growing glands ffs.

Your understanding and "theory" is totally, 100%, bafflingly wrong. The Telegraph is wrong too. This is not about a trans debate but a totally basic scientific fact.

All humans including males already have the anatomy (nipples, mammary glands, and pituitary glands) necessary to lactate.

It's the hormones they don't have, though in some cases males start naturally lactating. One of my DH's friends started lactating due to a condition and wasn't at all pleased when the doctor reassured him it was safe for any potential babies to drink!

Again no comment on the trans thing. Just saying "men need to take chemicals to grow glands" is rubbish and makes us women sound like total idiots. It's induced by the same hormones that make women lactate.

I also know a woman who couldn't lactate at all, and had to take probably the same mass quantity of estrogen and progesterone a trans man would have to have. Was she poisoning her baby? No, I doubt so. I prefer research to Mumsnet.

That said, I think whether for men or women, there's probably still some risk. It's stupid, ridiculous and vain for both genders – assuming people are doing it on purpose (rather than the article exaggerating cases that are the result of hormone therapy that's already occurring, not that I support hormone therapy but it is what it is).

I also know a woman who couldn't lactate at all, and had to take probably the same mass quantity of estrogen and progesterone a trans man would have to have

Why would a transman be taking estrogen and progesterone? Do you mean a transwoman?

NotAllowed · 19/02/2024 13:29

ButterflyHatched · 19/02/2024 10:14

Thankfully you are not in charge of NHS policy in this regard.

Deranged.

Datun · 19/02/2024 13:43

canyouread · 19/02/2024 13:16

What am I reading? You don't just start growing glands ffs.

Your understanding and "theory" is totally, 100%, bafflingly wrong. The Telegraph is wrong too. This is not about a trans debate but a totally basic scientific fact.

All humans including males already have the anatomy (nipples, mammary glands, and pituitary glands) necessary to lactate.

It's the hormones they don't have, though in some cases males start naturally lactating. One of my DH's friends started lactating due to a condition and wasn't at all pleased when the doctor reassured him it was safe for any potential babies to drink!

Again no comment on the trans thing. Just saying "men need to take chemicals to grow glands" is rubbish and makes us women sound like total idiots. It's induced by the same hormones that make women lactate.

I also know a woman who couldn't lactate at all, and had to take probably the same mass quantity of estrogen and progesterone a trans man would have to have. Was she poisoning her baby? No, I doubt so. I prefer research to Mumsnet.

That said, I think whether for men or women, there's probably still some risk. It's stupid, ridiculous and vain for both genders – assuming people are doing it on purpose (rather than the article exaggerating cases that are the result of hormone therapy that's already occurring, not that I support hormone therapy but it is what it is).

If it's simply question of men taking female hormones, how come they're not doing it as a matter of course?

There are reams and reams of information about this online, of men spending six months only to get out two drops.

The man in question produced one ounce a day.

(Plus, he had been taking testosterone suppressants which would be in the milk , which also contained his own naturally occurring testosterone which was of magnitudes more than any woman could ever produce, despite the suppressants).

PurpleChrayn · 19/02/2024 13:55

TheLovleyChebbyMcGee · 18/02/2024 22:04

The drug used to induce lactation is used in women with low milk supply to help boost it to feed their babies. I was given it for a few weeks and it did help. I did my research and I'm happy that I didn't poison my baby thanks

Are you a transwoman?

If not, this doesn't apply to you.

canyouread · 19/02/2024 13:55

Datun · 19/02/2024 13:43

If it's simply question of men taking female hormones, how come they're not doing it as a matter of course?

There are reams and reams of information about this online, of men spending six months only to get out two drops.

The man in question produced one ounce a day.

(Plus, he had been taking testosterone suppressants which would be in the milk , which also contained his own naturally occurring testosterone which was of magnitudes more than any woman could ever produce, despite the suppressants).

Huh? I never said it was a good idea (both for men, and for cis women – note: I don't like qualifying cis women instead of just women, but as the post I've quoted below shows, crazy people abound – with conditions who have to take massive quantities of drugs just to get a few drops – I would just formula feed at that point), only that men don't have to take drugs to grow glands, and it's hysterical rubbish to say so.

canyouread · 19/02/2024 13:57

Naunet · 19/02/2024 13:21

I also know a woman who couldn't lactate at all, and had to take probably the same mass quantity of estrogen and progesterone a trans man would have to have

Why would a transman be taking estrogen and progesterone? Do you mean a transwoman?

OK sure, that makes you a transman/transwoman too then. You are deranged to the level of dangerous stupidity

Datun · 19/02/2024 13:58

canyouread · 19/02/2024 13:55

Huh? I never said it was a good idea (both for men, and for cis women – note: I don't like qualifying cis women instead of just women, but as the post I've quoted below shows, crazy people abound – with conditions who have to take massive quantities of drugs just to get a few drops – I would just formula feed at that point), only that men don't have to take drugs to grow glands, and it's hysterical rubbish to say so.

Edited

I didn't say you said it was a good idea, I asked why more men didn't do it.

From what I'm understanding of your post, it meant that if men simply take female hormones, they can lactate just like women. They've got all the anatomy, they just need the hormones.

Because that doesn't appear to be the case. These men are taking female hormones. And they're not lactating just like women.

canyouread · 19/02/2024 14:03

Datun · 19/02/2024 13:58

I didn't say you said it was a good idea, I asked why more men didn't do it.

From what I'm understanding of your post, it meant that if men simply take female hormones, they can lactate just like women. They've got all the anatomy, they just need the hormones.

Because that doesn't appear to be the case. These men are taking female hormones. And they're not lactating just like women.

Edited

Well, as you've said,

  1. results aren't guaranteed and you'd prob require lots of drugs

  2. if you're asking why most men don't do it, why would they?? There are probably side effects on your mood etc. Plus whether it's internalised misogyny or something more harmless, would you believe most men DON'T want to breastfeed like a woman? As I said my friend wasn't exactly pleased when he started lactating.

My (unscientific) concern would be the quantity of drugs as I said. All I'm saying is no one is bloody growing glands, it doesn't work that way.

CactusMactus · 19/02/2024 14:04

Where are these men getting babies from in order to "chest-feed" them?

Surely this is illegal?

Datun · 19/02/2024 14:10

canyouread · 19/02/2024 14:03

Well, as you've said,

  1. results aren't guaranteed and you'd prob require lots of drugs

  2. if you're asking why most men don't do it, why would they?? There are probably side effects on your mood etc. Plus whether it's internalised misogyny or something more harmless, would you believe most men DON'T want to breastfeed like a woman? As I said my friend wasn't exactly pleased when he started lactating.

My (unscientific) concern would be the quantity of drugs as I said. All I'm saying is no one is bloody growing glands, it doesn't work that way.

if you're asking why most men don't do it, why would they??

Well the thing is, we have a ready-made cohort, who desperately want to. That's why they would.

And they will take any and all drugs required to make it happen. Indeed, they are already on female hormones. The whole idea is to mimic the female experience as much as possible.

And they still can't.

So that was my question.

You said the anatomy was there they just needed the hormones.

That doesn't seem to be the case, otherwise these men would be doing it.

But I appreciate you're just talking about glands. And that in terms of hormones, you are coming at it from an un-scientific basis.

That's not meant to sound snarky. I genuinely would like someone who does have a scientific background to clarify.

Datun · 19/02/2024 14:11

CactusMactus · 19/02/2024 14:04

Where are these men getting babies from in order to "chest-feed" them?

Surely this is illegal?

I think it's their own children.

The one who found it exciting said it was his own child, as far as I remember.

ATerrorofLeftovers · 19/02/2024 14:15

"The letter said "human milk" is the "ideal food for infants" " - not arguable surely? Just a statement of fact.

Oh come on @AdamRyan this is not just a statement of fact, there is an agenda in the way it’s been framed. Calling it ‘human milk’ instead of breast milk, for one. And that’s before we get on to the fact that it’s shoehorned into a statement about males using drugs to artificially induce lactation.

It’s there to position the drug-induced secretions of the male nipple as somehow wholesome and nutritious for infants. As if this whole horror show is somehow a-ok and not a massive exercise in placing newborns in harm’s way in order to serve the higher priority of placating deluded men.

Naunet · 19/02/2024 14:25

canyouread · 19/02/2024 13:57

OK sure, that makes you a transman/transwoman too then. You are deranged to the level of dangerous stupidity

What? You don’t even make sense, I asked you a simple question for clarification, how does that make ME trans and dangerously stupid?! 😂

Datun · 19/02/2024 14:32

canyouread · 19/02/2024 13:57

OK sure, that makes you a transman/transwoman too then. You are deranged to the level of dangerous stupidity

Do you understand that a transman is a woman who identifies as a man? And a transwoman is a man who identifies as a woman?

When we are talking about transwomen we are all talking about men. With penises (in case that's not clear).

WitchyWitcherson · 19/02/2024 14:44

Naunet · 19/02/2024 14:25

What? You don’t even make sense, I asked you a simple question for clarification, how does that make ME trans and dangerously stupid?! 😂

I think the "deranged to the level of dangerous stupidity" petard truly hoisted @canyouread here 😂