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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Lesbian members club to only allow biological women

478 replies

JanesLittleGirl · 18/02/2024 12:52

"A FEMINIST campaigner is to open the UK’s first lesbian members bar that will only allow biological women to join.

The bar, named the L Community, is due to open in London later this year and will operate as a private members club so that it can bar trans women.

The bar has been set up by Jenny Watson, who in September last year was at the centre of a transphobia row after she insisted only “adult human females” could attend the lesbian speed-dating events she had organised."

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Froodwithatowel · 23/02/2024 11:36

Datun · 23/02/2024 11:29

Transwomen who want to date lesbians are straight men

And women who want to date straight men as well as lesbian women are bisexual.

CheeseSandwichRiskAssessment · 23/02/2024 11:36

It's nauseating that in 2024 so many men think women's bodies are public property and owe them sex. They don't seem to care how rapey they come across.

PlanetJanette · 23/02/2024 12:26

LesbianNan · 23/02/2024 11:32

Jenny's plan is to make it more than a club.
I'm quite impressed from the info she's shared.

I've no doubt at all that the money will be there for it. I don't think Jenny runs her business plan across the likes of random individuals on here trying to convince us all that it wont work. They've no insider information as much as they try to suggest that they have.

The good suggestions made by supporters here are already in the mix along with other ideas. It's really exciting. I hope it thrives, and that we see another venue open up North.

Well its several months after she first set out to do this and she still doesn't have half the investment she needs, so your lack of doubt that the money will be there for it seems misplaced.

SamW98 · 23/02/2024 12:28

CheeseSandwichRiskAssessment · 23/02/2024 11:36

It's nauseating that in 2024 so many men think women's bodies are public property and owe them sex. They don't seem to care how rapey they come across.

Not only that but other women are these men’s cheerleaders and enablers

Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/02/2024 12:31

Whether there is a sufficient market for this sort of venture seems highly relevant to the discussion.

Not really, it's up to her. We both know you and others have just come to this thread to sneer at lesbians who want a female only space.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/02/2024 12:34

And does it get down to specifics such as dating or getting together which could be more relevant for this bar

I've already posted data which shows that most lesbians aren't interested in sex with "trans women".

MadeOfAllWork · 23/02/2024 12:38

AlisonDonut · 23/02/2024 11:19

We do not need to 'make up our minds'.

A lesbian is opening a bar for women only.

It is not your concern what she does when she opens it.

And it’s most certainly not the concern of men, no matter how they identify, yet they are the ones causing problems.

MadeOfAllWork · 23/02/2024 12:43

Does anyone have the data on what percentage of the population as a whole are lesbians and what percentage of transwomen are lesbians?

Transwomen make up a small percentage of the population and I would assume that the proportion of them that are lesbian would be vanishingly small.

Apollo441 · 23/02/2024 12:45

MadeOfAllWork · 23/02/2024 12:43

Does anyone have the data on what percentage of the population as a whole are lesbians and what percentage of transwomen are lesbians?

Transwomen make up a small percentage of the population and I would assume that the proportion of them that are lesbian would be vanishingly small.

0% of transwomen are lesbians.

They are heterosexual men.

PlanetJanette · 23/02/2024 13:12

Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/02/2024 12:31

Whether there is a sufficient market for this sort of venture seems highly relevant to the discussion.

Not really, it's up to her. We both know you and others have just come to this thread to sneer at lesbians who want a female only space.

Only on Mumsnet would it be considered on a thread about a new business to discuss the viability of that new business.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/02/2024 13:15

It's just mean spirited. Leave women alone.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/02/2024 13:16

0% of transwomen are lesbians.

They are heterosexual men.

This. Or bisexual.

lechiffre55 · 23/02/2024 13:16

MadeOfAllWork · 23/02/2024 12:43

Does anyone have the data on what percentage of the population as a whole are lesbians and what percentage of transwomen are lesbians?

Transwomen make up a small percentage of the population and I would assume that the proportion of them that are lesbian would be vanishingly small.

My guess is that you'd be wrong.
I agree %age of population identifying as transwomen would be small.
Where I disagree is that within the transwomen group my bet would be that - The %age of transwomen who identify as lesbian would be much higher than the %age of the female population who are lesbian.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/02/2024 13:17

The %age of transwomen who identify as lesbian would be much higher than the %age of the female population who are lesbian.

I agree.

Datun · 23/02/2024 13:21

Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/02/2024 13:17

The %age of transwomen who identify as lesbian would be much higher than the %age of the female population who are lesbian.

I agree.

It's certainly what I've heard from lesbians who are on dating websites. Inundated with men.

And when women try to set up women only website, that's vociferously targeted.

Only on Mumsnet would it be considered on a thread about a new business to discuss the viability of that new business.

more disingenuous bollocks. It's about it being lesbian only.

The exact reason why you're trying to undermine it.

Do you seriously think people can't see this!!

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Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/02/2024 13:25

100% @Datun

Whoever this poster is, they'd only start to care about the viability of Jenny Watson's bar if it was successful, and then they'd be trying to undermine it, I imagine. Tedious disingenuousness.

Froodwithatowel · 23/02/2024 13:28

I suspect like the desperate attempt to derail last night, it's cognitive dissonance and discomfort.

MadeOfAllWork · 23/02/2024 13:30

Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/02/2024 13:17

The %age of transwomen who identify as lesbian would be much higher than the %age of the female population who are lesbian.

I agree.

I’m sure it is.

I just wondered what the numbers were.

puffyisgood · 23/02/2024 13:40

MadeOfAllWork · 23/02/2024 12:43

Does anyone have the data on what percentage of the population as a whole are lesbians and what percentage of transwomen are lesbians?

Transwomen make up a small percentage of the population and I would assume that the proportion of them that are lesbian would be vanishingly small.

the 2021 census has pretty good data on this.
around 3% of people are LBG, ie around 3% of women are same sex attracted.

from the same source, around 0.5% are, one way or another, T.

the proportion of TW who are attracted to women is a much trickier number to get hold of, not least because of the very high propensity of this group to strive for ever more QA-type letters to describe their private lives, but Wikipedia (https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transgender_sexuality,) summarises a few surveys which to me suggest that roughly around half of TW are attracted to women.

in other words, around 0.25% of men might have a trans identity whilst still being female attracted. so there might be around 1 'transbian' for every 1 lesbian. enough to, depending on their level of CF-ery, mean you'd potentially expect at least one or two to show up at any decent sized L speed dating type event.

puffyisgood · 23/02/2024 13:41

sorry 1 transbian for every 12 lesbians.

Emotionalsupportviper · 23/02/2024 13:55

lechiffre55 · 23/02/2024 13:16

My guess is that you'd be wrong.
I agree %age of population identifying as transwomen would be small.
Where I disagree is that within the transwomen group my bet would be that - The %age of transwomen who identify as lesbian would be much higher than the %age of the female population who are lesbian.

I think this, too - in the same way that the percentage of the male prison sex offender population identifying as trans is considerably higher than the percentage of sex offenders in the general (non-identifying) prison population.

AlisonDonut · 23/02/2024 13:57

PlanetJanette · 23/02/2024 13:12

Only on Mumsnet would it be considered on a thread about a new business to discuss the viability of that new business.

Which other new business threads do you regularly post on?

PlanetJanette · 23/02/2024 14:21

AlisonDonut · 23/02/2024 13:57

Which other new business threads do you regularly post on?

Much the same ones as you I expect.

ScrollingLeaves · 23/02/2024 14:36

VitoCorleoneOfMNMafia · 22/02/2024 23:44

There are numerous secondary sexual characteristics that, when taken together, allow highly reliable sex differentiation.

  • face shape
  • breasts or lack of
  • crotch bulge caused by male genitalia
  • adam's apple only found in males
  • hip-shoulder ratio
  • hip-waist ratio
  • brow ridges in males
  • torso length to limb length ratio
  • hand size
  • foot size
  • facial hair
  • hairline at forehead
  • voice pitch
  • gait

I'll grant that cross-sex hormones and surgery can mask some of these, but some cannot be masked, creating a noticably disjointed appearance in someone on cross-sex hormones. A transman with broad hips, no adam's apple, and no brow ridges will jar visually even after testosterone has caused facial hair growth. Place your hand over a photograph of Buck Angel from the nose down and look at Buck's eyes and forehead. They are unmistakably female, even now.

This visual jarring attracts attention subconsciously in the viewer, even if they cannot identify the cause. I've sometimes looked several times at someone "odd-looking" trying to figure out why, then they've moved or spoken and I've realised that they are on cross-sex hormones.

The whole point of a lesbian-only club is that it is for homosexual adult female humans only. By definition, that excludes anyone male and anyone heterosexual. It wouldn't be a lesbian-only club if it were "inclusive".

I was sexually assaulted aged eight by two older boys who used my secondary sexual characteristics of breast buds and hip-shoulder ratio to determine that I had a vulva that they could touch without my consent. I know this because they agreed a tactic of "you keep her there and I'll touch her fanny" immediately prior to the assault, as well discussing how my pubic hair felt during the assault. The idea that they didn't know that I had a "fanny" and touched me to determine whether I had one or not is ridiculous and the idea that a lesbian would do that to other women is not only absurd, it's highly offensive.

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What happened to you was horrible. You poor little thing 💐💐💐

TheClogLady · 23/02/2024 14:51

PlanetJanette · 23/02/2024 11:18

You folk need to make up your minds. Which is it? Lesbian venues have all been overrun by trans people and are dying on their feet, or existing lesbian venues are 'terf adjacent' and have no money worries?

Since we're talking about London, I assume when you refer to 'the other' lesbian bar you're referring to She - though unclear given its not like any tapas cafe I've ever been to.

She is not even slightly terf adjacent. And I think it's wildly optimistic to think that it has no financial challenges (though it is probably helped by its location, being part of a wider group of venues and not having a admissions policy that most lesbians disagree with).

No. I’m not referring to She. You are WELL out of date, mate!

I’m referring to the new ‘lesbian bar’ run by a transmasc posted up thread. Can’t be arsed to refind the links for you seeing as you can’t be arsed to read the thread properly.

And the inconsistency isn’t mine, it’s all yours.

I personally think both the members club and the lesbian bar/trans tapas cafe have a shot at making a viable business (two different crowds with a small amount of overlap) but I would put my money on Jenny being the most successful because while the transmasc proprietor seems to be pretty popular/trendy in the Dalston area, they/them seems to have a lot of fingers in a lot of pies but no experience of running anything long term and they are spending £70,000 just to get started.

Terves obvs think AFAB transmascs can be lesbians because they are female, so it’s not terves who would be debating whether a transmasc belongs in a lesbian bar or not, hence me calling this new venture terf adjacent (partly a joke, but one based in material reality).

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