"Lancing soft play boss speaks after adult event seen on fetish site"

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I honest to god have no words.... I knew Lancing had gone into steep decline over the years but not to the extent where they'd have to resort to this to get some money in!

https://www.theargus.co.uk/news/24104618.lancing-soft-play-boss-speaks-adult-event-seen-fetish-site/?ref=socialflow&fbclid=IwAR2azqGaV1DcoPvWRye2zdyHDuXtTdtGCeTgSi4jcpUwGvwjtVqNn2Js4CI

It's all well and good not to "kink shame" but surely society has to draw the line bloody SOMEWHERE?!

Also, imagine pretending not to know that this has anything to do with kink and fetish?!

There really should be an investigation into the owners of this place as if they can get this so spectacularly wrong, what other safeguarding breaches may be happening on their watch?

My hairdresser asked me last month," Where have all the men gone?"
She's very pretty,.sociable and fun.She would like to settle down and start a family but the men she has.met are weird with strange sexual tastes, an obsession with porn and the inclination to try these peculiar things they read about.
Sometimes I.am glad I'm not young any more and am past all that.

This is a good but very sobering point: I think they’re all glued to online porn. I feel for women in their 30s who want to start a family: their male peers are shagging around dating apps knowing there’s no biological clock ticking away for them.

Young people - boys and men especially - are being relentlessly targeted by those promoting porn with no restrictions.
That's why what happened in Lancing matters - evidence that those working with children have zero understanding / insight into how porn negatively affects children and how demands to not "kink shame" is allowing adults posing dangers to children to expose themselves publicly.
Share token for a sobering article in the Times this week:

www.thetimes.co.uk/article/abc2573a-a723-11ed-a7e8-7a5fed5c43c4?shareToken=e66ea1fb577fe9cf80a510556aed9f14

Thanks for the link, Mrs Overton, although I’m sure it’s going to make me worried about my chances of ever becoming a grandmother (selfishly 🤣).

Indeed a very bleak article; the statistics make me want to weep in despair at what’s considered “normal” for young people - brutal violence and assault.

The French idea is brilliant.

How revolting.

Surely no one is now going to take their children along to play somewhere that adults pissing in nappies for sexual gratification have paid to use?

This place should be shut down by the council- you cannot operate a play area and a sex club in the same place it's not the same as a cafe changing uts menu and serving wine in the evenings.

I bet a lot of the men were not only dressed as babies / toddlers too but as girl babies and toddlers. Be kind - no thanks.

"While it’s up to adults what they want to watch if it’s legal, children must be protected.

The children’s commissioner, Rachel de Souza, published a report last week showing the impact that porn sites are having on teenage relationships by normalising brutal, abusive sexual exploitation.

Her survey found four in ten young people aged between 16 and 21 believe that girls “enjoy” aggressive sex such as strangling and slapping.

Nearly half admitted they had personally experienced a “degrading” sex act;

79 per cent of respondents had seen sexual violence in pornography by the age of 18; a third of boys now seek it out for gratification. some could no longer perform sexually without humiliating their partner.

The case that haunted de Souza was a 12-year-old girl whose boyfriend attempted to strangle her on their first kiss, assuming it was normal foreplay."

I can't formulate my thoughts on this! It's all to grim.

I find myself veering between tears and rage as I look at what we're allowing to be done to children.

But parents are trapped - take electronics off kids and they're open to bullying, isolation, falling behind - give them a smartphone and there's no protection 😞

I'm a parent of boys and I worry about keeping them safe.

The onus is on the tech companies to regulate what they allow and don’t allow, and, as per the example of France in the Times article above, on individual governments to introduce strict measures to keep children safe from harmful content. The issue is way beyond what we parents can reasonably control. I expect many of us have very little idea of what our children can have frighteningly easy access to.

I'm so bloody tired of feeling constantly nauseated by the perverts that are everywhere.

Why is it so fucking important to this damn group to trample all over safeguarding and others rights?

I don't think the nappies are the fetish.

I think forcing others to unknowingly be tarnished and smeared (literally) by their fetishism is the fetish.

Agreed. And they're getting successfully embedded in so many places as this incident shows

Yes,

I am perfectly happy being strict with my son. I don't really care about being told "everyone else's mum lets them..." But the main way in which my son's peer groups socialise/arrange to meet up is through phones now. e.g. group whatsapp calls playing video games/sending funny giffs/messaging about meeting t play football. Without any access they would end up out of the loop/very socially isolated. But I really really don't want him having a smart phone yet. (And even if he doesn't his friends and those around him do anyway). Gaah.

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I'm hesitant to say too much re; phones as I got absolutely railed for my opinion in another thread the other day - but I don't see why it has to be all or nothing re; smart devices honestly?

I think there's a huge difference between children having their very own smart devices which they can take with them wherever they go and finding loopholes around parental controls, or sneaking off into their rooms whilst parents are asleep etc, vs them having access to these devices, but they're not their own device if you get what I mean?

I wouldn't for a second suggest "absolutely no devices ever!" I'm not so delusional as to think that would ever work, but I don't see why it can't work similarly to how computers used to work when they were more of a "new" thing

Where typically there was one computer per family maybe two at an absolute push, usually in the living room or dining room, hell I remember seeing one in one friends kitchen! Or even an "office" if people were lucky enough to have a room they could dedicate to it.
But regardless it was somewhere where kids could have a play/do homework/socialise all whilst within actual eyesight of a parent of guardian or older sibling.
It's hard to imagine kids wanting to load up some porn when their mum or dad's in eyeshot!

But I may well be very naïve to all of this as I'm only first trimester with my first currently, and am 100% willing to accept that I'm quite possibly out of touch with how things are now vs how they were when I was a child and teen.

I just... I remember what things we'd get up to on Snapchat for example, and it really does worry me that SC seems to be the norm for quite young kids these days!
Especially when the whole sales pitch of Snapchat was that it would automatically delete message/image history!

I agree that the French age verification would be a very good thing. I suppose the question is, does the Government have the will to do it? Or would they claim that it's too expensive / unworkable / not very important?

At least it's in the Times, which appears to be influential, as far as the current lot goes.

I assumed they fumigate m the place after their kink parties?

Not even sure fumigation would be adequate for me - I'd need a thorough mind bleaching as well I think!

Well I took DC here once... definitely won't be going again 🤢

I feel sorry for the cleaners. Must be bad enough mopping up vomit/wee from kids…

Sick

Same here, now way I’d let a child near it now. And what an idiotic decision — the price of one session’s hire for publicity that could bankrupt the venue.

Our local soft play centre holds adult only evenings. I thought it was just a chance for adults to be a bit silly and play on the slides and bouncy castles without squashing any toddlers.

I never imagined that - it’s really grim. If our local soft play centre is catering to adult fetishes, I never want my child to go there again. Hopefully they’re not.

You know there's only one way to find out - you'll have to go!!!

I’ve been to adult soft play and it was a chance for adults to play laser tag in soft play without breaking a child’s neck by landing on them. It was a laugh and not at all sexual. So I do think some have adult times that are just about adults having a laugh, also I know a friend who takes her adult son who has developmental delay to a similar night as he likes to play but is obviously too large to do so with children.