"Lancing soft play boss speaks after adult event seen on fetish site"

[SpicyMoth]

I honest to god have no words.... I knew Lancing had gone into steep decline over the years but not to the extent where they'd have to resort to this to get some money in!

https://www.theargus.co.uk/news/24104618.lancing-soft-play-boss-speaks-adult-event-seen-fetish-site/?ref=socialflow&fbclid=IwAR2azqGaV1DcoPvWRye2zdyHDuXtTdtGCeTgSi4jcpUwGvwjtVqNn2Js4CI

It's all well and good not to "kink shame" but surely society has to draw the line bloody SOMEWHERE?!

Also, imagine pretending not to know that this has anything to do with kink and fetish?!

Given that some men enjoy spreading their bodily fluids around in the knowledge others might come in contact with it, and the fact that men with sexual perversions are more likely to have multiple sexual contacts, I’d say the risks of STDs would be increased as well. However much vomit there is in a ball pool, norovirus is less serious than HIV.

I doubt the staff would be watching closely enough to stop these men doing exactly what they want.

Even if the risks are small, they can easily (and undoubtedly should) be removed altogether.

Is Lancing by the seaside?

Perhaps the group of adult fetish indulgers wanted to go rub themselves on the groynes, the lexical perverts.

It is, yeah - Urgh, now you've got me thinking about the outdoor playground and equipment on beach green and what fetishists may well have done to that!

You know full well they've never been cleaned other than by the weather, the council would never fork out for that... 😷
This has given me so much to think about that never even crossed my mind before!
Feel like a total idiot for not considering that leaving "fluids" around children's areas is a thing that grown men can and will do if so inclined.

Also feeling absolutely ILL that I don't really remember having my hands cleaned very often or at all after playing on that sort of thing as a child, especially as a bloody thumb sucker! 😷😷😷

Anyone know where I can buy stocks in Dettol? Think I'll need it.
So glad hand sanitiser is now the norm to have on hand after Covid!

I agree.

One of my local soft plays turned out to be being run by a paedo who installed hidden cameras in the ladies loos. This was only discovered when he was caught filming school girls in the unisex "changing village" at the local pool.

That metal smell from swing chains? Metal doesn't smell like that. That's the smell of human skin oils on metal.

Mmmmmmmmm.

Bladwdoda · Today 17:25

I’m sorry but cynically I think it’s because these adults get off in being in a real children’s space.

I'm very much afraid that you are correct, it's exactly what they want. There's at least one full sized adult soft play in London, all equipment and even the balls in the ball pit more adequately sized. This is just skin crawling.

“A space themed soft play exclusively open to all age players. SoLittles, Middles, Carers, Mummies, Daddies, Siblings, Furries, Kittens, Puppies, their handlers and wet only ABDL,” the advert on Fetlife read."
...it was not until “after the first event we were made aware of the community’s link to fetish and kink groups”. (yeah, right)
Organisers stated they operated a strict “no wet accidents” rule and banned nudity, sexual acts, BDSM/fetish clothes and faeces.

"WET ONLY ABDL (Adult Baby Diaper Lovers). which means no faeces (thank goodness for small mercies...) but which one is it? Wet only nappies, or no wet accidents? Because they directly contradict themselves right there.

Wild Wonderland said it was assured the event was not of a sexual nature and would be advertised on encrypted instant messaging service Telegram.

Well it was advertised on the biggest kink site going, too.

It was by no means a kink/fetish party. It was a regressive play session.

IT WAS ADVERTISED ON FUCKING FETLIFE AND THEY'RE STILL SAYING IT WASN'T KINK FFS

Thank you, @ChocolateRat , for very clearly writing out something that's been at the back of my brain for a while now.

The more you know! 😷

David Challenor, who is in prison for raping and torturing a ten year old girl, also had a nappy fetish. As part of his attacks on that girl, he dressed up as a child himself.

Trigger warning: extremely distressing description of rape and torture

I have no problem with people indulging their kinks if everyone around is a consenting adult (including staff in the venues where they do their stuff). But there is something deeply disturbing about this happening in a place where actual children will be. Do it at the local sex club for sure. Not in a play place for actual children.

'Who are we to judge and discriminate?' the company asks.

There are times when it's right and proper to do both of those things. And this was one of them.

Fetishes escalate.

If they're booking a children's soft play, that means imagining being a child at home is no longer enough. They need the knowledge that a few hours before, children used the same play equipment, and will do so again.

So what's the next step up from that?

I completely agree. I would question their ability to have ample measures to safeguard children.

Oh god. The things people will agree to (host, in this case) when the price is right. It’s so depressing how people will sell out when something is so flagrantly wrong.

I am no prude, considered woke and have no problem with people’s fetishes at home providing they’re not illegal or immoral, but FFS is nowhere sacred nowadays? Like school uniform, nappies have no place as a fetish!

🤢

I would go as far as to believe that people running a soft play area may well be uninformed about adult sexual fetishes. That’s not a stretch for me.

However, in light of being informed, the sort of stubborn refusal to judge and discriminate in order to protect their normal client base is ridiculous. Absolutely it was right and proper for this company to judge and to ‘discriminate’ (nicely loaded word that).

Of course people have to judge and discriminate all the time in terms of eg do I trust this unknown person offering me a lift or hire that person etc etc.

This stubborn (sullen? Defensive? Sanctimonious?) refusal to admit to needing to judge by many is leading to a lot of problems for our society. What these business owners perhaps mean is that they didn’t want to discriminate against fee paying customers for that extra bit of cash.

Yet you only have to look at the news today and it is full of distressed parents and young people that have been actively harmed by those who’ve resolutely refused to judge. We’ve somehow gone from Mary Whitehouse to anything goes and that’s okay.

“Although the event was not at all sexual, kinky or fetish based, we were very aware it could make customers feel uncomfortable, something that we never want to do.

my god they are so stupid! In what normal world is a grown adult pretending to be a baby doing 'regressive age play' not fetish based!? Absolute bloody idiots

This is disgusting.

I know one man who had an adult baby fetish. He also had a porn addiction that escalated into looking at images/ videos that I don’t need to spell out.

I would suggest that the police get hold of the list of attendees and start looking through their internet history.

imagine being married to someone who actually enjoys pissing and shitting in a nappy..

Revolting.

Admittedly I am perhaps not the best person to judge these things; but having to wear nappies (well, whatever continence stuff’s cheapest once the prescription runs out [not getting prescribed an adequate amount is a huge issue, but obviously not one for here!] & often that’s nappies 🤷‍♀️) is awkward, inconvenient & tbh somewhat embarrassing.

I can’t imagine choosing to wear nappies; & as someone all too often treated like a child by strangers, I really can’t imagine not only actively infantilising yourself; but also parentificating your partner.

The place was sanitised afterwards, as usual. But did they do a check for hidden cameras, for example in the (real) baby areas?

Not only did this event cater for the revolting weirdos listed in the article, but if it was advertised on Fetlife, who else may have attended? For example, those who want unrestricted to a kids soft play area for a very specific reason...

Oh fucking hell, I didn’t even consider this.

The owners must be pretty stupid not to realise the link between grown men dressing as babies, a ban on sex in the ball pit and kink fetish.

Let's consider the judgement and discrimination suffered by parents whose children still need nappies due to disabilities then. I've seen people call those poor families environmentally irresponsible.

But it's apparently fine for healthy adults to wear nappies for the sake of a fetish? Damn right I'm judging. I went to a lot of effort to minimise our household use of disposable nappies, and I'm not going to turn a blind eye to adults wearing them for fun.