Some stonking posts on this page, I wish the LP read here.
Rapists in women's prisons isn't something to be negotiated.
This. It is all operating from a starting point of 'it is appropriate in some situations to sacrifice a non consenting woman to be used and abused (including sexually) by a man with enough needs'. They just want to argue about which men and in which circumstances on the basis of 'be reasonable, you have to let at least some women be sacrificed'.
And we all know it's salami tactics: say yes to any man and it's all men and the circumstances stretch endlessly, we've seen it. The TQ lobby have proved it .
The fight we have is to get any party with the guts to stand behind no, no women. Ever. Women are not ever resources for men. On a binary sexed basis, because that's what this is, regardless of all the frantic lies. Tears, sad men, medical needs, whatever, no, the answer is never 'have a woman to use'. And men can just bloody deal with that.
And to me it is bloody evil that no party in the UK would currently dare to say this to a small group of men, who by their very desires and behaviours indicate their difficulties, because decent men don't treat others like this. They don't even treat they ones they can think they can get away with like this.
You have to wonder if people arguing that we're putting off Labour leadership with our uncompromising stance on women being entitled to human rights and single sex spaces also feel that women in Afghanistan just need to try harder to be nicer to the Taliban too.
The biggest ball and chain that we are carrying in this and have from the start is female socialisation and a belief (one of the good historic sides of the left) that bad behaviour comes from need, that harm comes from need and hurt, and if you listen, understand, care, include, meet the needs of.... you can solve this social ill and we dance we sing we go home happy.
If you look on the relationships board, if you read the literature for abused women, you see it over and over. You cannot be reasonable with someone incapable of reasonability. When someone shows you who they are, believe them. All the stuff we know.
It's time to start separating caring and compassionate from soggy sentiment and weak boundaries. And it's time to stop hoping that if we just explain long enough, in our nice voices, and are good girls who aren't shrill and don't talk to anyone smelly, and make it as win win as we can, and keep repeating that we really care about the people snatching our rights but can we just mention that we need them, that our betters might just deign to listen.