I thought you said you were a mother/had a child? I may have been imagining it.
Look, I've never voted Tory in my life. I'm an ex Labour party member, and was brought up in a Labour city to a trade unionist father. I'm not supporting or defending Cates because she is a Tory - but because I have respect for her, and because I reject the version of feminism/women's rights that denigrates women's role as mothers, or that sees being a woman/female as a penalty. I also respect her for standng up for women's and children's rights in the face of gender ideology.
I didn't grow up imagining myself as a wife and mother, but like most women I have have been - and it is a profoundly important part of my life - no matter how tough, challenging, restricting and frustrating that can be. No life path comes without challenges and compromises.
I don't feel oppressed as a woman. I might do if I was living in another culture where patriarchy really is a thing. I've done pretty much what I've wanted to do in my life (and have had all sorts of varied experiences) even when i've been a young single parent, or when I've been a financially supported stay at home parent/homemaker. I'm certainly not a fading wallflower, and I've never felt particularly oppressed ( not any more than is natural in a life - for anyone). Even when dependent I've taken holidays and trips on my own and bought what i liked.
Being financially dependent does restrict your choices in some ways ( although we've always had a joint account)and it also forces you to stay put when the going gets tough - but there is also a lot to be said for longevity and riding out the storms in life.
I, of course get it, that some men are very financially/emotionally controlling and I don't think i could have tolerated that. I wouldn't have.