Hi @Floisme yes I'm still here.
Re your question why I started the thread and what I've reflected on.
I think anyone who is standing up for women and girls is doing it with good intentions. Even if I disagree with their approach, or even their motivation, the intentions are probably sound.
I've been guilty before of thinking some women are in this for money or ego and now I am on the frontline I know the shit that comes with it outweighs any money or ego.
The women on the frontline are human. We all fuck up. We all make stupid mistakes and probably say or do things we regret. Most of us are dealing with trauma.
JCJ is a fellow survivor who was also excluded from the same RC centre as me (she's very open about this) so it is natural I would feel loyalty and alignment to her.
My reflections are just because other women have come to this fight from a different angle, for example trans widows (something I have no experience of) and approach their campaigning differently doesn't mean I have the right to criticise them.
While I think it's okay to question the content of an article, social media post or video if the contents are untrue or if I don't agree with them, I think anyone fighting for women's rights is a shero and I am sorry that in the past I have criticised them.