Well, it finally sank in that plopping in to the support thread for transwidows was just yet another, while the worst, boundary that this male individual didn’t want to recognise. And that behaviour was vile and there was never any going back on it. Just like the barrister who I won’t name appearing on Sarah Summer’s support thread. There was no coming back from this weekend’s boundary breach.
It just showed there is nowhere this group of male people believe is an area where they shouldn’t go. The absolute male entitlement of traversing anywhere where there is no law, or a physical boundary to stop them, just because they can. Never once thinking of someone other than themselves.
The final parting post thought of believing that ‘progress’ was made was a thing of glory. The misogyny of telling us that they contributed in some way to positive understanding and progress when the reality is the only ‘progress’ was that more posters than before now can recognise the signs of misogyny and fetish than before.
But then I guess we all got a fresh exposure to the falsity of the ‘middle ground’ type of argument. That desperate grasp of ‘at least it is only when no other options are available’ from people needing to be seen as kind. When the truth is, it is not kind and never was.
Just one male entering a female single sex space impacts many women and girls. And sure, more posters got to see more of the lack of logic, and evidence, behind the emotionally manipulative ‘but it is unsafe for me in the male toilets’.
Nothing new really though.
A male person arrived, used women as a resource. This time for therapeutic value, for amusement or other entertainment, while believing we should be grateful for them not being obviously abusive.
When in reality, it was just another form of abuse.
Of scolding us for not being ‘kind’ and using the pronouns of a misogynistic abuser like Mulvaney, of telling women what womanhood is when framed by a male person who didn’t want to be the best male person they could be so they literally and figuratively forced their way into ‘womanhood’, as a start. But also exposing us, non-consensually, to their underlying and never acknowledged pleasure of our reactions. Such as our protestations, blunt rebuttals or through some posters providing that source of validation actively sought.
So no. Nothing new. Maybe we should set up the links to all the threads where this has been done before so that those who feel this visit contributed to their own understanding, understand that this is just a long line of the same old experience for us.
And I don’t believe the bar should be that women get abused so others can feel they have allowed posters like this to have a voice or to reach enlighten or whatever. That is just more of us being told to accept lower boundaries for our ‘own good’.