Fwiw, it's not even about predators for me.
I don't want to undress around dicks whether they are male dicks or lady dicks. They are still dicks. I find it uncomfortable and it affects my dignity. I feel really self conscious enough around women. It makes me avoidant of that situation. I would self exclude. I find it unpleasant and yes, intimidating. Even if someone is a gentle soul.
Its even worse if it's some one I might know.
My friends son has declared themselves a woman in recent weeks. I've known him since he was nine. Would I like to find myself next to him in the shower at the swimming pool? Or the next hospital bed? Or in the shared changing room at the shopping centre? Hell no. He's a really nice guy. But no he's still a bloke and I actually find it offensive and deeming that he thinks he should share facilities with any women because he is like me. He's just not. And the fact he doesn't see that boundary and doesn't get why that might upset me or other women says a lot about his character that I wasn't aware of. He thinks his feelings are more important than mine. It makes me feel totally deemed and that he sees women as lesser and not worthy of their own boundaries.
Ditto my brother. Who I also don't think would attack anyone. But I do think it's an act of passive aggressive display to lay claim to and use the womens facilities.
This to me IS a deliberate act of intimidation. It is asking for my silence in the name of 'being kind'.
But is it kind to me or other women to put them in this position where they feel that uncomfortable they might self exclude? No it's not. And the truth is these men KNOW it's likely to upset - and do it regardless. The sheer arrogance of that is astonishing.
Women are supposed to capitulate the whims and wants of males ahead of their own at so many junctions in life. And are made to feel guilty or shamed or worse for objecting to it.
If they want to dress or act in a certain way, I have to deal with it as that's their choice. The problem comes when it's imposed without consent on others.
And that's what is happening. There isn't a respect for the autonomy and dignity of women's bodies. In any other situation we'd be up in arms about it. But call it trans and women are villified for saying they find it triggering or they have not consented to being seen naked by a male. That's really not ok.
No one wants to erase the existence of anyone but the fundamental lack of understanding this in these terms is appalling.
It doesn't have to involve a criminal act or a perv.
It simply is a fundamental removal of women's agency and control over their body and who has access to it - even if that is 'merely visually'. It absolutely matters to so many women.
It will lead to self exclusion in sporting facilities and healthcare settings particularly. That has major ramifications.