Thank you everyone for your support... I guess I am grasping at how to deal with all of this. On top of the abuse I endured and continue to endure I feel the need to fight to not be replaced as our child's mother. For legal reasons, I can't use images... I refuse to speak over the phone, written media is best for many reasons. It's kinda hard to gaslight someone when it's right there in black and white...
We have two recognized Holidays Thanksgiving and Christmas. Every other year we switch off. He gets Thanksgiving this year. Of course, he's going to attempt to ignore the written final orders and do as he pleases and attempt to manipulate me. He always demands for way more time when he does intend to take her for a Holiday but again doesn't utilize regular visitation.
I reply like I usually do with the correct times and dates for visitation. With very little emotion. I'm cordial. He then says that he will be picking her up from her daycare and that they won't mind her other mother picking her up. Then he says that he has attempted to give me peace while he recovers and that he will always be her mother and will never stop being her mother, and I can't stop him.
She doesn't go to daycare, she goes to prek. He never asks about her. He says he is recovering from what? Who knows probably another lie to cover up the fact that he has the capability to speak to our daughter over the phone and hasn't for over a month. It wouldn't be the first time he has lied about some mythological illness or procedure.
Yeah, he would show up at her school. When we lived in the same state he did. She was in an early education program and the staff were a bit spooked. Nope, it wasn't during his visitation time either. He doesn't pass at all I don't think he even tries. It's more manipulation and control... But this is why I struggle I guess... The final does state that I have sole decision on education.
He doesn't care about our child... He's in deep arrears with child support. BTW, the child support system in America is terrible too. Next month he will owe over 8k. I wish he would get bored already and go find a new hobby.
I'm actively trying to find a therapist for my child. There's over a year long waiting list. I can't take him back to court unless he disappears for at least six months and even then they may not do anything. Five and a half months is the longest he's gone.
I am part of some groups that support survivors of domestic abuse forced to co-parent and deal with court and post separation abuse but this transgender thing, feeling that he is literally attempting to replace me as her mother, is beyond their understanding.
If you've made it this far into my ramblings thank you, if you haven't and skimmed until this last sentence I don't blame you... It's a lot...