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Girl Sues Hospital for Removing Her Breasts at Age 13

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zibzibara · 16/06/2023 03:39

This is in the US, I hope she wins, this could be the beginning of the end for this gender ideology driven medical abuse over there:

https://www.theepochtimes.com/girl-sues-hospital-for-removing-her-breasts-at-age-13-post_5335492.html

Girl Sues Hospital for Removing Her Breasts at Age 13

A hospital and doctors in California are facing a new lawsuit for removing the breasts of a 13-year-old ...

https://www.theepochtimes.com/girl-sues-hospital-for-removing-her-breasts-at-age-13-post_5335492.html

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Farmageddon · 16/06/2023 13:21

Whatwouldscullydo · 16/06/2023 13:12

So instead, these men have basically laid the groundwork for trans kids, so that they can claim that their fetish is innate (and therefore more socially acceptable to everyone else). And of course, pharmaceutical companies are happy to profit from it

Which begs the question, what has to happen. We have drag kids talking to murderers , kids holding dog leashes of pvc clad men, we have toxic drugs being given to children, we have sports women injured by males ending their career, we have teenagers chopping off healthy body parts, the medical profession profiting left right and centre, ..and adult makes changing infront of little girls, what has to happen. How bad does it have to get until someone says " whoa hang on"

Theres more suspicion of extended warranties and vaccines than there is on this..

Quite honestly, I don't know.

There are many people trying to ring the alarm, and many wonderful women on here have been trying for several years (I really wouldn't have known half of it if it weren't for FWR), but too many people are just looking away or pretending it's a 'niche' issue or not caring or not even actually seeing what's happening because the mainstream media doesn't really cover it. At least not in a balanced way.
We really need more men to stand up and speak out, as it's still seen as feminists bleating on about something...but they are not affected in the same way so a lot don't bother.
I think sadly there will be a lot more damage done before it starts turning around. This whole cohort of young people will start to push back in the next 5-10 years I think, when they figure out the reality of what is being pushed on them.

But that's why it's so sinister that this is being pushed in schools, and laws being swiftly changed in many countries. It's like as though there are certain interest groups who want to make changes before the general public has full awareness of what is really happening...

I get depressed thinking about it.

Freefall212 · 16/06/2023 13:22

Detrans numbers are hard to find but a university in California does a big survey called the US Transgender Survey. It was done in 2009, then again in 2015, and again in fall of 2022 (Data not out yet).

In the 2015 survey 8% said the had detransitioned at least once (many reported due to social pressures or it was just too hard). It will be interesting to see if that number goes up. I saw a study that was done in 2020 (published in 2021) and they reported a 13% detransition at least once number.

The 2022 survey apparently had tens of thousands of responses so it might be an interesting data set.

Farmageddon · 16/06/2023 13:24

Freefall212 · 16/06/2023 13:22

Detrans numbers are hard to find but a university in California does a big survey called the US Transgender Survey. It was done in 2009, then again in 2015, and again in fall of 2022 (Data not out yet).

In the 2015 survey 8% said the had detransitioned at least once (many reported due to social pressures or it was just too hard). It will be interesting to see if that number goes up. I saw a study that was done in 2020 (published in 2021) and they reported a 13% detransition at least once number.

The 2022 survey apparently had tens of thousands of responses so it might be an interesting data set.

Considering how badly de-transitioners are treated by the trans 'community' it's no wonder many don't speak publicly about it, they are like apostates or something.

Rosscameasdoody · 16/06/2023 13:24

SidewaysOtter · 16/06/2023 12:51

You have to remember what parents are told. So often they are told that they have to "affirm" (i.e. agree with) everything their child is saying otherwise they're "transphobic".

They're also told that children who want to change sex/identify as the other sex are at a very high risk of suicide*. They can be asked "Do you want a dead child or a trans one?"

What parent, faced with a distressed child who you've just been told is at a high risk of killing themselves, isn't going to do whatever they're told to do by medical practitioners and support groups?

(*this doesn't seem to be borne out in any statistics I've seen)

The Californian state legislature is apparently in the process of passing a law which will give child services the authority to remove children from parents who refuse to ‘affirm’ their child’s chosen gender. It will be considered child abuse.

Daffodilsandtuplips · 16/06/2023 13:27

Freefall212 · 16/06/2023 06:14

So what do you propose?

Since we have no idea when an 11 or 13 or 15 year old going through adolescense - an age when most have some identity angst / crisis, and are easily influenced, and spend a ton of time online, and want acceptance, and think they know a lot more than they do, and all the other developmental aspects of that age - decide they want body parts cut off or hormones to permanently alter their growth and development - and we know that down the road some will regret it and feel mutilated and harmed and others will not - what do we do?

Do we cut off the breasts of all 11/13/15 year olds who feel confused through puberty and just cross our fingers that they are happy with it ten years later and say too bad so sad to the ones who are devastated by the mutilation of their bodies? Or do we instead say no, we are not cutting off functional body parts or permanantly altering your growth and development as you are a child and once they are adults they can make those decisions if they still feel the same way.

I was given the option of a major surgery on my foot at the age of 15. My primary (and developmentally normal) concern at the time was the kind of shoes I could wear. I really didn't understand the repercussions of the surgery from an orthopedic standpoint or what osteoarthritis would feel like down the road or what other potential challenges there would be. I was mostly interested in what shoes I could or couldn't wear and how long would I be in a cast and would it interfere with getting my driver's licence and would recovery interfere with some holiday plans I had. If I had the discussion about my surgery at 25 or 35, it would have been extremely different to what it was at 15 as my wordview, life experience, priorities, indpependence etc were all different.

Our minds and decision making capabilities are limited at 13 by not only brain development but by our narrow environment and life experience and by how impressionable and suggestible children are. So many detransitioners have talked about how they were just really confused and struggling at that age and as adults they realized that it was more about sexual orientation or about mental health / illness or about childhood trauma or about self hatred / not fitting in or about peer pressure / acceptance from the trans community or about vulnerability to ideologies when they were young or not understanding the ramifications for them. Is it fair to gamble with their lives and bodies?

I agree with every word. A well thought out and balanced statement.
These are children.

Liv999 · 16/06/2023 13:29

shams05 · 16/06/2023 12:46

What role do the parents play in this. Why is her first action against the doctors and not her parents who failed to safeguard her from this ideology, whether it was online or anywhere else.
Why did they fail her?

Just thinking the same thing myself..

girene · 16/06/2023 13:29

Violasaremyfavourite · 16/06/2023 05:56

I'm not in the UK. A family member transitioned. They had many, many sessions with a pyschologist before any treatment at all could be started. It was not a matter of turning up and saying that they were a different gender. The parents were initially shocked (major understatement there) but came to accept that their child truly was transgender - yes I understand they tried reasoning, and frankly everything they could think of to convince the child that they were the original gender. They told me they were haunted by the idea of later regrets.

Their child did transition. The child is in a long standing relationship. They have friends. They are doing a post graduate degree. They are happpy. The family pulled together and adopted the new gender, even the grandparents got on board showing an amazingly broad minded side we had never seen before. So far as I know, the young person has not had a single regret a decade later. This is the other side of the story.

A thought experiment.

A family member had dysmorphia: they claimed their legs didn't belong to them and wished to have them amputated. They had many, many sessions with a psychologist before any treatment at all could be started. It was not a matter of turning up and saying that they were disabled .The parents were initially shocked (major understatement there) but came to accept that their child truly was disabled - yes I understand they tried reasoning, and frankly everything they could think of to convince the child that her legs were just normal limbs. They told me they were haunted by the idea of later regrets.

Their child did have their legs amputated. They now use an electric wheelchair and are in a long standing relationship. They have friends. They are doing a post graduate degree. They are happpy. The family pulled together and adopted the new disabled amputee status, even the grandparents got on board showing an amazingly broad minded side we had never seen before. So far as I know, the young person has not had a single regret a decade later.

This is another other side of the story.

What do we conclude from such 'sides' of a story?

Clementineorsatsuma · 16/06/2023 13:30

Violasaremyfavourite · 16/06/2023 05:56

I'm not in the UK. A family member transitioned. They had many, many sessions with a pyschologist before any treatment at all could be started. It was not a matter of turning up and saying that they were a different gender. The parents were initially shocked (major understatement there) but came to accept that their child truly was transgender - yes I understand they tried reasoning, and frankly everything they could think of to convince the child that they were the original gender. They told me they were haunted by the idea of later regrets.

Their child did transition. The child is in a long standing relationship. They have friends. They are doing a post graduate degree. They are happpy. The family pulled together and adopted the new gender, even the grandparents got on board showing an amazingly broad minded side we had never seen before. So far as I know, the young person has not had a single regret a decade later. This is the other side of the story.

Thank you for sharing.

I doubt it's what MN wants to hear tho? A rational pro trans account based on real life experience.

I hope they continue to be blissfully happy.

Rosscameasdoody · 16/06/2023 13:32

Clementineorsatsuma · 16/06/2023 13:30

Thank you for sharing.

I doubt it's what MN wants to hear tho? A rational pro trans account based on real life experience.

I hope they continue to be blissfully happy.

A lot of MN contributors won’t share your view because although it’s a great, pro trans account, it’s beside the point. And the point is 13 is too young to be allowing our children to make life altering decisions.

WarriorN · 16/06/2023 13:35

Not at all, it seems to be by design. Jennifer Bilek did some good research in her 11th Hour blog about the very rich men pushing this shit, and funding it.

Yes, worth reading her latest. Around the push for surrogacy, gay men being able to conceive a baby from two sperm alone, manufacturing babies. Womb transplants.

It's all part of a larger generalised idea that being a female and the biological processes the female body is designed to do is problematic plus men's rights over women's bodies and child birth. Divorcing women from reproduction.

This is entirely different to women having the right to choose what happens to their bodies, if they have children or not. If they breastfeed or not. Though it can be shoved under that same bracket in an attempt to make it all feminist and palatable.

Emotionalsupportviper · 16/06/2023 13:38

What a Brave New World we live in @WarriorN 🙁

Cailin66 · 16/06/2023 13:41

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thewillowbunnies · 16/06/2023 13:42

No such things as a 'trans child'

Only adults indulging abuse imo.

Children can't decide what they want for tea. They can't have tattoos because it's irresponsible and highly likely they will change their mind.

That's why we need to stop entertaining of of this and instead approach it for what it is - mental anguish/illnee.

tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz · 16/06/2023 13:44

shams05 · 16/06/2023 12:46

What role do the parents play in this. Why is her first action against the doctors and not her parents who failed to safeguard her from this ideology, whether it was online or anywhere else.
Why did they fail her?

Absolutely there is blame there too but as others have pointed out her parents were probably shown frightening but inaccurate suicide stats

Plus it's a doctors actual job to "cause no harm" hippocratic (sp?) and all that

OMG12 · 16/06/2023 13:48

PermanentTemporary · 16/06/2023 06:21

Since we're always being told that gender-affirming surgery is not done on minors, and since everyone on all sides appears to agree that is a good thing, perhaps everyone should aim to stick to that. Why are these families ending up with psychotically right-wing pressure groups to lead their lawsuits? Do any of them go to normal law firms and get turned away, or are these horrific groups ambulance-chasing to dig them out?

Ah I see, it’s not the parents and doctors who agreed and undertook the mutilation of a child who could not give informed consent that’s the problem, it’s the nasty evil people who point out the fucked up thinking behind the child abuse…, I see.

Baldieheid · 16/06/2023 13:57

loislovesstewie · 16/06/2023 12:33

I also think that being trans means joining a sort of exclusive club. It's perceived by some to be a badge of honour to be different, to go against the perceived norms of society, to be a bit of a rebel. I almost think that some are getting a sort of a kick by becoming friends with a person who is trans, after all they don't have to take any risks but can appear to be rebellious. And young people tend to like a bit of rebellion. When I was young we just labelled ourselves Trotskyists or Marxists, now people are trans or non binary.

This post struck me - the part about the attraction of being the pal of a trans kid.

Neighbours kid decided she was trans at 14 ish. Tomboyish, outdoorsy but artistic girl. A bit of a loner, no sign of lots of friends hanging round her, or any buzzing social life. Some of which may be explained by the young age and our rural location.

Suddenly shaved head, dyed remaining fuzz the usual teal and oh looky looky, that summer holiday the house was crawling with teenage girls hanging out with their trans buddy. Kid was suddenly a local celebrity and loved it. Crashed and burned on exams as too distracted by being famous and socially in demand, till at 16, 17 the girls that hung about moved on to real boys they could snog, and celebrity kid's fanclub was no more.

Kid is really interesting and creative individual, but went totally unnoticed by peers till she rolled in the catnip of trans. It was so bloody obvious.

babbscrabbs · 16/06/2023 14:06

Regardless of one's views on transitioning, it seems very wrong to perform surgery like this on anyone under 16 / 18

I can only assume it was driven by a desperate desire to improve the patient's MH (as in why her parents agreed)

Kilopascal · 16/06/2023 14:29

NotBadConsidering · 16/06/2023 12:24

So far as I know, the young person has not had a single regret a decade later.

Who goes around telling family members that they regret the fact their sexual function has been ruined?

A decade ago, possibly the process was more thorough.
A decade ago, we hadn’t yet seen the massive upswing in teenage girls identifying as boys.

Some teenagers will regret this permanent body modification later.

TollgateDebs · 16/06/2023 14:33

I have just read The Federalist article and I think there is an over medicalisation / money aspect to all of this, alongside many prospering very nicely on yet another ideology. Changing our bodies medically is dangerous and storing up issues for the future and as mentioned in another post, to talk about physically cutting something off is not just like losing weight, it is upsetting the health of the only body we are going to get, both mentally and physically. We are running into something we have yet to truly understand and that will have significant long tailed results on society.

literalviolence · 16/06/2023 14:36

Clementineorsatsuma · 16/06/2023 13:30

Thank you for sharing.

I doubt it's what MN wants to hear tho? A rational pro trans account based on real life experience.

I hope they continue to be blissfully happy.

There's nothing whatsoever rational about posting a pro-trans account when the issue being discussed is someone who was abused by the trans supporting system. I don't think anyone does not believe that some men prefer to live their lives pretending to be women. That doesn't really help this young woman though does it? We used to have a balanced system where there were proper balance and checks in place before a person could have body altering surgery and drugs to mock up a superficial appearance of the opposite sex. This woman is caught up in the moves to dismantle those protections.

OchonAgusOchonOh · 16/06/2023 14:39

Violasaremyfavourite · 16/06/2023 05:56

I'm not in the UK. A family member transitioned. They had many, many sessions with a pyschologist before any treatment at all could be started. It was not a matter of turning up and saying that they were a different gender. The parents were initially shocked (major understatement there) but came to accept that their child truly was transgender - yes I understand they tried reasoning, and frankly everything they could think of to convince the child that they were the original gender. They told me they were haunted by the idea of later regrets.

Their child did transition. The child is in a long standing relationship. They have friends. They are doing a post graduate degree. They are happpy. The family pulled together and adopted the new gender, even the grandparents got on board showing an amazingly broad minded side we had never seen before. So far as I know, the young person has not had a single regret a decade later. This is the other side of the story.

That is the way things were 10 years ago. Unfortunately much of the care today is simply gender affirming. So rather than exploring why the individual feels as they do and determining whether transition is the correct course of action, therapy begins with an acceptance of a transgender identity and proceeds from there.

Proper exploratory therapy prior to transition is much more likely to identify those who are likely to transition successfully and those who have other issues that should be addressed in a different way. The current approach simply lumps them all in one basket and leads them on the path to medical/surgical solutions that are not necessarily appropriate for them.

Maray1967 · 16/06/2023 14:42

Whoiscomingtosaveyou · 16/06/2023 06:52

This is such an important point yet rarely discussed.

Removing the breasts of a young teenager is akin to FGM

Agreed. Girls need to understand how important their ovaries are to their general health.

LifeExperience · 16/06/2023 14:43

Eighteen states have restrictions. From ABC news: "At least 18 states, Alabama, Arkansas, Arizona, Florida, Georgia, Idaho, Indiana, Iowa, Kentucky, Mississippi, Missouri, Montana, Nebraska, North Dakota, Oklahoma, South Dakota, Tennessee and Utah have passed laws or policies that restrict gender-affirming care for people under the age of legal majority, which is the threshold for legal adulthood."

sourdoughismyreligion · 16/06/2023 14:52

Violasaremyfavourite · 16/06/2023 05:56

I'm not in the UK. A family member transitioned. They had many, many sessions with a pyschologist before any treatment at all could be started. It was not a matter of turning up and saying that they were a different gender. The parents were initially shocked (major understatement there) but came to accept that their child truly was transgender - yes I understand they tried reasoning, and frankly everything they could think of to convince the child that they were the original gender. They told me they were haunted by the idea of later regrets.

Their child did transition. The child is in a long standing relationship. They have friends. They are doing a post graduate degree. They are happpy. The family pulled together and adopted the new gender, even the grandparents got on board showing an amazingly broad minded side we had never seen before. So far as I know, the young person has not had a single regret a decade later. This is the other side of the story.

Wow, this was an extremely inappropriate comment. When you hear about someone who has been harmed by what they are describing as negligent inadequate medical care, you don't, seriously don't, waffle on about someone you know who had the similar treatment but for them it was all sunshine and rainbows.

The story you've told doesn't cancel hers out, do you understand that.