When you say 'trans people' what do you mean. It is a wide umbrella. Are you referring to AGP men who get a sexual thrill from wearing women's clothes and being in women's spaces. (Debbie Hayton has a book coming put soon. Save up your pocket money.) Or are you referring to confused teenage girls, or those with other problems, perhaps cultural, perhaps abuse, perhaps instability, for whom transing is seen as a possible solution.
Linzi and others can confirm that 'gay' is not a single and unified community. The same is true of trans. There will be plenty of trans people and detransitioners who will agree that transparency and conversation is important if the most vulnerable within that 'community' are to be protected.
Where can this conversation take place. Not X or Reddit, both full of absolutist numpties like you. Mumsnet...and for those who don't identify as British mummies and their allies, KF.