It's finally happened, I've been "told" to put my preferred pronouns in my email signature at work.
I've emailed back saying my preference is that I don't do this. But I'm feeling a bit anxious 😬.
Please can I get some advice on what to say if they come back with questions or pressure to comply?
Feminism: Sex and gender discussions
Declining to put my preferred pronouns in my email signature
HowDoIGetThisThingOff · 23/05/2023 13:11
janeinthewild · 26/05/2023 22:10
I'll use a rough example for this. Imagine you see a photo of an attractive male and an attractive female. As a woman, I am more likely to think 'I wish I looked like that' when looking at the photo of the woman and not the man.
It's likely not exactly the same for being transgender, I would not know as I am not trans myself. But that is the best way I can describe the feeling of knowing what your gender is.
Of course that is only a small example and everyone's relationship with gender is not exactly the same but I hope that makes it a little bit easier to relate to/understand
SargentSagittarius · 26/05/2023 21:32
@janeinthewild - since you support gender identity, and clearly believe transwomen are women, perhaps you can help us out.
What does ‘feeling like a woman’ mean?
We now know that the old definition of woman (adult human female) is transphobic and hateful, so now the definition of a woman is ‘someone who feels like a woman’.
What does that mean? How do I now know if I’m a man or a woman?
So far, no-one has been able to explain that. It would be great if you could, so that we could understand.
janeinthewild · 26/05/2023 20:25
@AnarchoTyrannosaurus I just think it's rather immature to kick up such a big fuss over adding two words to your email signature. Everyone has to do things they don't want to in life and adding your pronouns is really not that hard
janeinthewild · 26/05/2023 22:22
@AnarchoTyrannosaurus So are we condoning mockery now? Is that really the best idea
janeinthewild · 26/05/2023 22:22
@AnarchoTyrannosaurus So are we condoning mockery now? Is that really the best idea
DumboLives · 23/05/2023 20:57
Felix will explain all this (the one in pink) https://talk.tv/news/12128/no-im-not-going-to-tell-you-my-preferred-pronouns
PuzzledObserver · 23/05/2023 18:45
Can someone explain how me saying that my pronouns are she/her (which they are, because I’m female, and there’s unlikely to be any confusion over email because my name is unambiguously female) helps someone who is trans/gender fluid/non binary etc.
janeinthewild · 26/05/2023 22:22
@AnarchoTyrannosaurus So are we condoning mockery now? Is that really the best idea
janeinthewild · 26/05/2023 20:25
@AnarchoTyrannosaurus I just think it's rather immature to kick up such a big fuss over adding two words to your email signature. Everyone has to do things they don't want to in life and adding your pronouns is really not that hard
SirVixofVixHall · 27/05/2023 18:47
So if you had to put “Jane, who believes that the earth is flat and the Royal family are lizards “ at the end of every email, you’d be fine with that ?
janeinthewild · 26/05/2023 20:25
@AnarchoTyrannosaurus I just think it's rather immature to kick up such a big fuss over adding two words to your email signature. Everyone has to do things they don't want to in life and adding your pronouns is really not that hard
janeinthewild · 26/05/2023 22:10
I'll use a rough example for this. Imagine you see a photo of an attractive male and an attractive female. As a woman, I am more likely to think 'I wish I looked like that' when looking at the photo of the woman and not the man.
It's likely not exactly the same for being transgender, I would not know as I am not trans myself. But that is the best way I can describe the feeling of knowing what your gender is.
Of course that is only a small example and everyone's relationship with gender is not exactly the same but I hope that makes it a little bit easier to relate to/understand
SargentSagittarius · 26/05/2023 21:32
@janeinthewild - since you support gender identity, and clearly believe transwomen are women, perhaps you can help us out.
What does ‘feeling like a woman’ mean?
We now know that the old definition of woman (adult human female) is transphobic and hateful, so now the definition of a woman is ‘someone who feels like a woman’.
What does that mean? How do I now know if I’m a man or a woman?
So far, no-one has been able to explain that. It would be great if you could, so that we could understand.
JacquelinePot · 27/05/2023 17:26
Different question, but I think this answer is perfect
MavisMcMinty · 27/05/2023 19:10
Where do all these drive-bys come from, bleating “Why do you CARE?” “What skin is it off your nose?” “Oh, MOCKWORTHY is it?”? Is there a klaxon on their social media “ALL HANDS TO MUMSNET, ALL HANDS TO MUMSNET, EMERGENCY, EMERGENCY!”?
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