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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Dylan Mulvaney needs to carry tampons to offer to bio women

331 replies

UltimateWario · 07/04/2023 15:14

Do people with no hair usually carry hairspray incase others need it?

Seeing as though what I was reading went poof.

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HungryMum101 · 08/04/2023 11:42

Very on point @FictionalCharacter Interesting that DM isn’t interested in carrying sanitary pads to offer to women, isn’t it. Just tampons. Some men are fascinated by tampons because they are objects that are inserted in the vagina. Men associate that with sexual pleasure.

If someone genuinely wanted to “be kind”, carrying a spare pad is much more inclusive than a tampon. Some of us can’t use tampons, or choose not to use them due to cultural or other reasons. Some of us might need a pad in an emergency due to a continence issue, especially following pregnancy.

As others have said, in a period emergency, you’d stuff your knickers with loo roll and hope for the best, not ask a stranger, and most definitely not a male for a tampon.

Tampon sales are falling. More of us than ever are using long acting contraception that reduces periods or are taking the combined pill without a break. A lot of us are menopausal but are showing our daughters a better way. More of us have discovered the money saving and other advantages of reuseable san pro.

Companies like Tampax are hoping to extend flagging sales by persuading as many people as possible to carry tampons in case others need them. And for trans women to buy them as a lifestyle accessory. It will fail as a strategy because campaigns featuring trans women will alienate people, as this thread is demonstrating.

DeanVolecapeAKAelderberry · 08/04/2023 11:47

The terrible thing is that thread, and this one, are / were both helpful in that mums have been given yet one more thing to warn young girls about - not accepting tampons from strangers in loos.

Like never leaving a drink unattended, not taking sweeties, not accepting lifts.

Appalling that it is needed, but sadly yes, helpful.

SkiingIsHeaven · 08/04/2023 12:20

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Sorry. This really made me laugh.

turbonerd · 08/04/2023 12:32

I feel very excluded because I only wear pads. No tampon.
what would Dylan do if he offered me a tampon and I said no thanks?
would I be transfobic then?

MoggyMittens23 · 08/04/2023 12:36

gogohmm · 08/04/2023 11:30

In 40 years I've never asked another woman for sanpro nor been asked! It simply isn't a normal everyday occurrence. I have a mirena and don't use it so tough if you asked me anyway Smile.

I'm not offended by a trans woman having some on them, it's just misguided - a bit desperate to fit in but doesn't know how to, a bit like the ott female dressing whereas many of us owners of xx chromosomes simply pull on jeans or trackie bottoms and a loose top, no make up to go out doing basic chores, whereas at the garden centre there was a beautifully made up, immaculate clothes etc trans woman, just ott! (Their choice though i can't get worked up and they used the unisex family toilet provided!)

'owners of xx chromosomes' 🙄

prettybird · 08/04/2023 13:02

Never in many decades of (female Wink) adulthood been asked for a tampon or any sanpro in the Ladies Confused

I have, on the other hand, had to improvise a pad from toilet paper and/or had to try to clean clothes as a result of flooding while going through the menopause Sad

Fortunately I no longer have to worry about blood stains - but, as a woman, it has never crossed my mind to continue to carry spare sanpro Hmm

Any man who does so is just weird and/or over-invested and/or grossly misunderstands what it means to be a woman.

FictionalCharacter · 08/04/2023 16:06

turbonerd · 08/04/2023 12:32

I feel very excluded because I only wear pads. No tampon.
what would Dylan do if he offered me a tampon and I said no thanks?
would I be transfobic then?

He'd just move on. He and the likes of him are completely uninterested in women who refuse to be used for their entertainment.

Animalsoffartingwood · 08/04/2023 18:52

they used the unisex family toilet
Single occupancy lockable? So taking a resource meant for nappy changing and managing potty training/safeguarding children and commandeering it.

What a good illustration of how they always opt to push someone out the way to centre them.

crunchermuncher · 09/04/2023 00:13

This gives me the rage so much. I have always had awful periods and just tried to get in with it it, because the world doesn't cut you any slack no matter how bad you're feeling if it's 'just ladyproblems' .

But these men can flounce around wanging on about their pretend periods and the world bows down and offers them advertising contracts. It's fucking insane.

BluebellBlueballs · 09/04/2023 00:15

I had horrendous pain with periods until I had my first pregnancy

I'll happily give DM a tampax when he's spent an hour lying on the floor praying for the pain to stop.

RealityFan · 09/04/2023 00:23

Forget the age old Q "do you remember where you were when you heard President Kennedy was shot/Twin Towers came down?" Etc.

The new one is "do you remember when people tried to convince all of us it was reasonable for a man to offer women tampons in the female loos?"

BluebellBlueballs · 09/04/2023 00:26

Does anyone think tampax Nike etc are not stupid. They know this will cause a storm on SM but as the saying goes no such thing as bad publicity. It gets their brands mentioned. Maybe that's enough even if they lose some GC customers, overall they will gain custom through exposure of their brand. Either to the rainbow lot or the general dgaf public?

BluebellBlueballs · 09/04/2023 00:28

MoggyMittens23 · 08/04/2023 12:36

'owners of xx chromosomes' 🙄

Jkr quote needed.. wimpund, woomad?

crunchermuncher · 09/04/2023 00:50

BluebellBlueballs · 09/04/2023 00:28

Jkr quote needed.. wimpund, woomad?

"Owners of xx chromosomes" sounds like a mad scientist -
"I have some xx chromosomes that I keep in a jar, bwahahaaaa!"

Yeah I'm sure there used to be a word for that kind of adult human.....🙄

FlirtsWithRhinos · 09/04/2023 01:07

I'll hold my hand up...I have once in my life asked a stranger if she had a tampax. It was on a hiking trail in the toilets in the car park, start of the day with 6 to 8 hours walking and no likelihood of a shop.

She didn't. (Or possibly just didn't want to get into a tampax sharing conversation with a stranger).

4plusthehound · 09/04/2023 01:37

TeaMistress · 08/04/2023 10:58

I am beyond furious that MNHQ have repeatedly censored me, I have a right to speak and a right to state biological fact. MNHQ have no right to dictate how I refer to anyone. I will not go along with the perpetuation of womanface by companies who clearly hate women. The mob want us all to be good submissive little women who will sit and be quiet as we are humiliated and mocked and stripped of our sex based rights and safe spaces. They are trying to silence and erase women. I will not be silenced.

MNHQ have been great about this subject for years.

It is, and was, one of the few places where you can discuss this issue.

MN has been attacked, and badly, by TRAs.

They have shown great courage.

We should thank them.

HRTQueen · 09/04/2023 02:25

When are these men going to be called out for their revolting fetishes

why tampons it’s never night time pads

and if so concerned for women and their needs why not carry around some tena pads as a number of women suffer with bladder issues particularly after childbirth

CaptainWarbeck · 09/04/2023 03:43

This made me look up Dylan Mulvaney, I'd never heard of Dylan before. Why all the 'girlhood' talk (as in 'Day 234 of girlhood!') - Dylan is clearly an adult so wouldn't be a 'girl' in any world.

Dylan's ad for beer is all 'I don't know anything about sport or teams but I like alcohol, you should too' <cutesy high pitched giggle>

Dylan is acting out a parody of woman. It's so insulting.

ApplesandPares · 09/04/2023 03:49

BluebellBlueballs · 09/04/2023 00:26

Does anyone think tampax Nike etc are not stupid. They know this will cause a storm on SM but as the saying goes no such thing as bad publicity. It gets their brands mentioned. Maybe that's enough even if they lose some GC customers, overall they will gain custom through exposure of their brand. Either to the rainbow lot or the general dgaf public?

I think too that the marketing departments are run by younger generations who don’t realise or care what the stakes are.

Baabaa75 · 09/04/2023 03:50

Ashia · 07/04/2023 17:14

I don’t think Mumsnet are prioritising anyone’s feelings but I do think they have to think about legal risk from time to time.

Where is the legal risk in the deleted conversation?

Baabaa75 · 09/04/2023 03:52

4plusthehound · 09/04/2023 01:37

MNHQ have been great about this subject for years.

It is, and was, one of the few places where you can discuss this issue.

MN has been attacked, and badly, by TRAs.

They have shown great courage.

We should thank them.

Actually I agree with this, I can only imagine the shit MN has had from the TRAs.

Needmoresleep · 09/04/2023 06:41

I don’t know to what extent MN comes under the same rules as newspapers, eg when you get the Mail saying “she” and then showing a picture of an obvious man.

MN are always particularly sensitive when a discussion is about an individual, especially one with deep pockets or a litigious nature. I assume it is the risk of legal action (costs, time consumed) as much as the likelihood that action would get anywhere. The Mail has deeper pockets so will fight back. MN is nowhere near the same financial league.

Ivalueloyaltyaboveallelse · 09/04/2023 06:55

It gives me rage! Nike and Tampax can fuck off and get in the bin. I will be boycotting there brands from now on. Luckily I don’t use Tampax anyway as my periods are horrendous and I’ll be buying Adidas sports wear.

Aphrathestorm · 09/04/2023 08:13

I wouldn't take a tampon off another woman let alone a man.

I'd run a mile from a man carrying tampons about.

Bláthannabuí · 09/04/2023 09:17

Mumped · 07/04/2023 16:00

It’s a sad day when a major sports brand uses a male to sell sports bras… and an even sadder one when a website for mothers tells us we have to pretend that male is female.

My husband staunchly refuses to believe the Nike thread is genuine. He believes it's a complete piss take.
I would imagine there's a global boycott from women against Nike now? 🤞

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