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Boycott New Zealand

694 replies

Clymene · 26/03/2023 16:48

Let's hit the state sanctioned violence against women where it hurts - in their pockets.

Off the top of my head:

Wine - Oyster Bay, Villa Maria, the Ned, Wairau Cove, Brancott Eatate, Cloudy Bay
Lamb - check the label to make sure it's British
Manuka honey and ordinary honey - M&S stock quite a few.
Wool
Allbirds shoes
Canterbury clothing.

Have I missed anything?

Also write to the PM: [email protected]
Minister for trade: [email protected]

And tell them you're boycotting and why. There's no point if they don't know you're doing it!

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goodnightkiwi · 27/03/2023 06:17

Maybe @Clymene you could read about Eli Rubashkyn (the juice thrower) and it might put some context around why they threw the juice. And no, I’m not condoning what they did and I suspect most NZers don’t either but it does give some understanding.

To compare the situation of woman in NZ to woman in Afghanistan is quite ridiculous and frankly disrespectful of our Afghanistan sisters who suffer the most horrendous human rights abuses.

sashh · 27/03/2023 06:21

goodnightkiwi · 27/03/2023 06:17

Maybe @Clymene you could read about Eli Rubashkyn (the juice thrower) and it might put some context around why they threw the juice. And no, I’m not condoning what they did and I suspect most NZers don’t either but it does give some understanding.

To compare the situation of woman in NZ to woman in Afghanistan is quite ridiculous and frankly disrespectful of our Afghanistan sisters who suffer the most horrendous human rights abuses.

As I said, in 1964 Afghanistan made men and women equal in law. Women could wear what they want.

You are naïve if you think women's rights can't be taken away in other places. You are doubly so if you do not see this is what TRAs want.

Note: TRAs not trans people.

FourTeaFallOut · 27/03/2023 06:21

FordCreek · 27/03/2023 02:02

Or you could get him to do his own domestic chores! Hmm

He does know how to work a dryer, right?

Oh Jesus, it was a joke. 🙄 We share domestic chores but only one of us has expensive merino wool jumpers from merino sheep in NZ, that will shrink to comedy sizes if the migrate to the dryer pile, and it's not me. Unclench.

sashh · 27/03/2023 06:25

@FourTeaFallOut

I'm glad you came back, we need a few laughs.

Ndd135632 · 27/03/2023 06:30

Mamaneedsadrink · 27/03/2023 05:44

This comment is nuts.
I live in NZ and I'm a woman and it's great. I'm sure statistically it's safer than the UK.
Also she wasn't welcome here because she was spreading hate, borderline between free speech and hate speech, and its unfortunate a few people made it violent. Stop the hysteria 🙄

What ‘hate’ was she spreading @Mamaneedsadrink ? Do tell us. I happen to agree that women need safe spaces and what happened in New Zealand backs that up !

Ndd135632 · 27/03/2023 06:33

Athrawes · 27/03/2023 05:56

NZ woman here.

Posey Parker has done tremendous harm to free speech in Australia and NZ. By associating herself with repellent right wing Nazis, she has very effectively forced people to choose sides in what is actually a far more nuanced debate than the media would have us believe.

She has created, and revelled in creating, a situation where if, as a woman, you suggest that single sex spaces and provision is a desirable situation, you are seen to be aligned to Nazism.

Her posturing has resulted in silencing of women.

Brain washed by your media I see. She does not align with nazis and you know it. Luckily we are further down the line in the U.K. with all this nonsense and can see it clearly for what it is.

Happylittlechicken · 27/03/2023 06:46

So @Mamaneedsadrink what would have happened in NZ if a woman had demanded single sex spaces before last week? Not “woman only” as that would provably include males, but single sex? Would they have been allowed to ban males?

TiedUpWithABlackVelvetBand · 27/03/2023 06:50

Do you believe that male-bodied people should have unquestioned, unfettered access to all women’s single sex spaces @Mamaneedsadrink?

TommyNever · 27/03/2023 06:54

You'll find that many left-wing women in NZ are much the same as they are in the UK, Oz, US etc these days.

They are more than happy to forfeit any and all sex-based rights for themselves and their daughters. In many ways they're the equivalent of the conservative women in Iran, Afghanistan etc, who back their patriarchal governments and condemn the female protesters.

They are more than happy to accept that "trans women are women", even though one can't be a trans woman unless one is male, which they think is fair enough because it's only the women who are male who should have the authority to define women and dictate women's rights and boundaries.

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TiedUpWithABlackVelvetBand · 27/03/2023 06:57

Well, I am a dyed-in-the-wool left leaning Kiwi woman, and I long since peaked.

Maybe there is hope, and I’m just ahead of the curve.

I did used to #bekind - but the profond misogyny and homophobia inherent in transactivism made me change my mind.

suggestionsplease1 · 27/03/2023 07:04

TiedUpWithABlackVelvetBand · 27/03/2023 05:53

Please share one tweet or YouTube clip - anything - where Posie Parker / KJK spreads hate.

Please: share @Mamaneedsadrink

https://www.youtube.com/live/qKvpwpfX7-g?feature=share

Watch from 9.40 in particular

Before you continue to YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/live/qKvpwpfX7-g?feature=share

hazeleyednerd · 27/03/2023 07:08

PriOn1 · 27/03/2023 05:41

”We still very much have single sex spaces and those aren't going anywhere. There have been expansions to make some spaces more inclusive. But we can still find women only spaces, all over the place.”

Single sex women’s spaces would be spaces only used by the female sex. If men who claim they are women are entitled to use them, then no, you do not have single sex spaces. They are now mixed sex, albeit with only a few men.

What are these expansions you mention @hazeleyednerd

I suspect you have the same as I have in Norway: mixed sex spaces that are largely still used by women, with the number of men using them still being so small that it is largely invisible. Which means the majority of women won’t even notice.

Unfortunately, for those who do notice, for example the Norwegian woman who found a fully intact naked man in the communal “women’s” changing room she was using, the situation is pretty unpleasant as such women no longer have the right to remove these men.

Of course, the worst affected women are those with the least power. Women who have been affected by domestic abuse can no longer access women’s refuges that are guaranteed free of men. Raped women can no longer be guaranteed help in a women-only environment. And women in prison might find themselves interacting daily with male people, including in the showers. Those women, some of the most vulnerable, who have often been abused by men outside prison are now incarcerated with men, including rapists and murderers.

So if you accept that men who claim they are women, are actually women, and should have access to all women’s spaces, then that is what you are supporting. It might be largely invisible to you, but there will be women less fortunate than you, whose lives will be profoundly affected. My life has been unaffected so far, but I cannot support the legal changes that have been made.

I'm not going to list all of the inclusions but I can say there are some easily noticeable and some that are very much there, but maybe not so noticeable.

A big change thats been happening quietly, but noticeably is that many publicly accessible toilets now have 3 options. his. hers. theirs. and often just theirs. All seperated rooms, one toilet per room.

There are most definitely spaces that are women only, especially in the rape and refuge spaces. There are also spaces that welcome transwomen into them. And the users of these spaces have choices. And to be honest if a transwoman passes so well that I cannot tell she's not biologically female? Then she is welcome to that space. I've had reason to use these services and I can confirm that it was clarified with me which scenario I would be comfortable with and my need at that time to be nowhere near any biological men was respected.

I have had need of medical, therapeutic, police and court spaces throughout a horrendous few years, and ongoing, and I can confirm that I have been able to access female only spaces. There were many times when I was asked if I would be comfortable sharing a space and when I declined this wasn't an issue and I was able to access the service I needed without issue, and without being made to feel bad. The times when I didn't decline I was still treated respectfully.

I've also observed it from the other side, helping support friends who are LGBTQI+ and also transpeople, to access services and they have been provided with similar options. It's not as black and white as the media (social and mainstream) like to portray.

Communal changing spaces there aren't any issues here at the moment. Our changing rooms tend to have a lot of cubicles to use as well, and we tend to be on the shy side when getting changed anyway.

Prisons? No doubt it will happen one day. However at the moment due to severe shortages in guard staff the prisons are actually really easily able to manage segregating groups as they can only supervise so many at a time.

There are government working groups looking at all of the options for addressing all of these sorts of issues at present. It's not an easy fix and yes there will be issues, but overall, we are ok. We are safe. And the transpeople are safe as well.

We haven't had the scale of legal changes you have as at this stage, and hopefully we won't. Hopefully any changes made here will be more thought out and reflective of the entire nation.

There is a very small but vocal minority who just like to protest and get violent and often join protests and events just because they can. That does not mean they stand for the LGBTQI+ community, or even agree with the side they stood on. They just like to agitate. The Wellington parliamentary protests same thing occured.

sashh · 27/03/2023 07:09

@suggestionsplease1

Saying some men are creepy isn't what I would call hate speech. Could you quote because maybe I'm not seeing what you are.

Oh and the 'racist hand gesture' was her pulling the zip on her top.

suggestionsplease1 · 27/03/2023 07:14

sashh · 27/03/2023 07:09

@suggestionsplease1

Saying some men are creepy isn't what I would call hate speech. Could you quote because maybe I'm not seeing what you are.

Oh and the 'racist hand gesture' was her pulling the zip on her top.

That video clip is the very definition of hate speech.

I'm sorry you are unable to see it.

Mummyoflittledragon · 27/03/2023 07:15

Mamaneedsadrink · 27/03/2023 05:44

This comment is nuts.
I live in NZ and I'm a woman and it's great. I'm sure statistically it's safer than the UK.
Also she wasn't welcome here because she was spreading hate, borderline between free speech and hate speech, and its unfortunate a few people made it violent. Stop the hysteria 🙄

Please watch this news report. I mean really watch it with a critical eye. The bias of this media report is shocking. I mean truly dreadful. Probably even worse than the US media bias.

The report focuses almost exclusively on the people, who’ve arrived to protest against KJK, because they’ve been told she’s anti trans. Just suspend the thought for a moment that maybe she isn’t anti trans and ask what the thousands upon thousands, who arrived to demonstrate against the current status quo in NZ?

The reporter doesn’t even once bother, not once, to interview any of those thousands upon thousands of protesters, who’ve arrived holding banners, marching for KJK’s presence, because they want to protect children. Look, really look, at how little time the coverage is of those people. No zooming in at all or even getting close enough to read their banners. Then contrast that with the people protesting against her presence.

The only thing we see close up is a group of men dancing the Hakka. Is this to make the NZ population think it’s only Māori men, who are objecting to what is happening in your country? I’m wondering what showing these men is supposed to represent from the media perspective. I can’t come up with anything positive because for me, based on history, it’s a bad look.

At some stage, the reporter gabbles the words super fast (blink and you’ll miss it) they’re there to protest the sexualisation of children (which incidentally is what’s printed on all those banners). It’s obvious the reporter doesn’t believe or understand this issue at all and hasn’t even tried. She’s very young and her inexperience shows.

KJK wasn’t there as a colonising force and to tell your country what to think, neither is she anti trans as described. She was invited there by Kiwis to let NZ women speak to give THEM a platform to tell all of YOU what is going on in YOUR country.

KJK has been portrayed as pro Nazi and inviting ultra right wing males to attend. This is categorically untrue and she has denied this. She didn’t invite them, in the same way she didn’t invite those, who launched massive demonstration against her presence.

If this is news report is representative of what New Zealanders are being fed, I’m not surprised so many New Zealanders are A OK with what just happened. Your country appears to be sleep walking into a disaster for women and children. Perhaps you’re not aware of this, but some of those children in western countries have now grown up and are starting to realise just what was done to them as children.

Watch: Anti-trans activist aborts Auckland rally amid counter-protesters | nzherald.co.nz

Thousands of counter-protesters see British anti-trans activist Kellie-Jay Keen-Minshull abort her central Auckland rally. Full story: https://bit.ly/3FQx6xa...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NQtHwBAdunA&t=6s

suggestionsplease1 · 27/03/2023 07:18

"hate speech, speech or expression that denigrates a person or persons on the basis of (alleged) membership in a social group identified by attributes such as race, ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation, religion, age, physical or mental disability, and others."

https://www.britannica.com/topic/hate-speech

Hate speech

hate speech, speech or expression that denigrates a person or persons on the basis of (alleged) membership in a social group identified by attributes such as race, ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation, religion, age, physical or mental disability, an...

https://www.britannica.com/topic/hate-speech

Bananice · 27/03/2023 07:18

This isn't the 1940s: the UK can't get all colonial on us and tell us how to think. Someone called kiwis smug upthread: how bloody smug is it to tell us how to live in our country? We are free thinkers and will make up our own mind... and that mind resoundedly told Posey Parker to take her transphobic ideas and go home.

You forget that a decent proportion of us have lived in the UK and know exactly what it's like: I spent ten years there and was back last year. I doubt that many of you could say the same about New Zealand.

Telling us you're ahead of the curve over there and one day we'll wake up to what you're saying? Okay, coloniser 🙄

LittleFingerStrength · 27/03/2023 07:22

Let women speak! It is quite simple, application is provided along with a youtube channel to enable any NZ women speak to the world about their experiences there and they were silenced.

NZ should be ashamed.

LittleFingerStrength · 27/03/2023 07:22

Amplification is provided

hazeleyednerd · 27/03/2023 07:22

Clymene · 27/03/2023 06:06

You're sure statistically it's safer than the U.K. @Mamaneedsadrink? Worst rate of domestic violence out of all OPEC countries.

I've seen at least two women assaulted in broad daylight, and as far as I know, no arrests have been made. One of the perpetrators has even done interviews laughing about the assault.

So, no I don't think it's safer. I think it's a country where MVAW is state sanctioned.

The arrests will happen. Unfortunately it can seem like NZ Police take their time with these things, but the arrests will happen. They tend to review all sources of information available to them, including media, and social media to gain a clear image of the situation first. But they do act.

They should have acted much quicker in general at the event, but they weren't prepared for the scale of what happened.

magicthree · 27/03/2023 07:24

Bananice · 27/03/2023 07:18

This isn't the 1940s: the UK can't get all colonial on us and tell us how to think. Someone called kiwis smug upthread: how bloody smug is it to tell us how to live in our country? We are free thinkers and will make up our own mind... and that mind resoundedly told Posey Parker to take her transphobic ideas and go home.

You forget that a decent proportion of us have lived in the UK and know exactly what it's like: I spent ten years there and was back last year. I doubt that many of you could say the same about New Zealand.

Telling us you're ahead of the curve over there and one day we'll wake up to what you're saying? Okay, coloniser 🙄

Well said!

Bubblesoffun · 27/03/2023 07:26

Boycott UK and their superiority complex over the rest of the world.
you lot must be bored, we had a us bashing the other week. NZs turn now. Australia must be next.
get over yourselves. Yeah you are smug, at least I can walk alone at night in my big Australian city.

MarshaBradyo · 27/03/2023 07:28

3littlebeans · 27/03/2023 06:13

Gosh it's like Turkeys voting for Christmas.

To see Posie assaulted and strand by as if this is okay?! And to watch sex based rights erode without even caring 😔

I don’t know how they’re ok with it.

TRA punching a 70 year old woman, the mob rule, and they care about not letting women speak more.

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