"If she genuinely wanted a conversation, there are plenty of ways to go about it. 100 percent bs she wanted to speak and let others speak. She wanted chaos. She wanted headlines. She phones ahead asking for police protection knowing full well she would be rarking up vulnerable communities."
If she asked for police protection, that's maybe because she knows how aggressive the other side can be?
And how could she have this conversation without people accusing her of, "attacking vulnerable communities" as you have done?
It isn't like you could be more gentle about it, and you would have a perfectly polite discussion. No, you say the slightest thing, and you will have a mob that wants to shut you down.
"She chooses a very open and public space."
Which would be normal for an event like this? What's wrong with holding a speaking event in a public space?
Anyway, even if it's only a small issue in New Zealand, (any polling evidence that protecting single sex spaces isn't seen as important?), that hardly means you shouldn't campaign over it if you wish.