I suppose that is the difference between us. I just don't assume that most trans people are identifying as trans to be manipulative or predatory. That's why I would always use preferred pronouns etc
I don't assume all men are manipulative, predatory or violent but I know damn well that some are and they are indistinguishable from the men that aren't until it is too fucking late, the same applies to transwomen bearing in mind that they are male, they have to be male to qualify as transwomen it's the number one criteria.
All males, no matter how they identify, whatever they have done or not done to their bodies chemically, surgically or cosmetically must be kept out of all women's spaces and services FULL STOP, THE END. I care not one jot whether that upsets them or hurts their feelings, the majority of males manage not to cry into their beer about not being allowed into female single sex spaces and services, they accept it and in fact welcome it because they know full well what members of their sex can be like and they value the safety, privacy, dignity and comfort of women.
Not one male relative, male friend, male acquaintance or male colleague of mine has any problem accepting and sharing male sex segregated spaces and services with transwomen - not a single one and they are not unusual in this therefore the cries of transwomen aren't safe in male single sex spaces and services is just emotional bullshit and it's high time it was exposed as such.