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Can I be forced to use pronouns?

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nationallampoons · 31/12/2022 14:38

Hi all.

I work in hospitality and my company have recently taken on some new recruits.

One is non-binary and uses they/them pronouns but is considering she/her pronouns. He was born male. He looks male. He had the same uniform as you would expect, neon hair, piercings, multiple badges on his uniform stating his pronouns, he's vegan, free Palestine, f Boris etc.. (I'm not against freeing Palestine or vegans) but you can imagine the type. Everyone's a "facist" etc.. it's draining at times.

Here is my problem, I don't want to use they/them pronouns. It feels unnatural when talking and I struggle with it anyway. I just don't want to do it, I don't care if that makes me rude. I'm just sick of it. I'm sick of being moaned at for misgendering. He just doesn't shut up about it.

Now he's saying he believes he may be a woman and is asking questions about "women hood" and all that bs, I've told him I'm not comfortable talking to him about it and I was called a boomer, a Karen and a gammon?? He is considering changing his pronouns in the new year.

Here is my question. Legally, can I be forced to use his preferred pronouns? Not arsed about losing my job, but I don't want to get into any criminal trouble

I just want to go to work, earn my living and go home. I don't have the time or energy or willingness to go along with this bullshit

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NeighbourhoodWatchPotholeDivision · 09/01/2023 21:28

NeighbourhoodWatchPotholeDivision · 31/12/2022 23:37

SantaCarlaCalifornia

The female musician Halsey has requested she/her and they/them, and demands that publications interviewing her alternate between using she/her and they/them in the copy.

Further to the discussion about Halsey's requirements, this is travelling around social media.

Can I be forced to use pronouns?
NeighbourhoodWatchPotholeDivision · 09/01/2023 21:29

Image finally posted!

ClitoralViolence · 09/01/2023 21:31

NeighbourhoodWatchPotholeDivision · 09/01/2023 21:28

Further to the discussion about Halsey's requirements, this is travelling around social media.

Oh dear. Its going to be like trying to create a 7 strand french plait.

Hmm which pronoun do I use next? Her, they, zie, fae, per, it or cuntself?

Difficult choice.

Boiledbeetle · 09/01/2023 21:36

ClitoralViolence · 09/01/2023 21:31

Oh dear. Its going to be like trying to create a 7 strand french plait.

Hmm which pronoun do I use next? Her, they, zie, fae, per, it or cuntself?

Difficult choice.

Given that mouthful probably...oh fuck

AtrociousCircumstance · 09/01/2023 22:20

Narcissists forcing compelled speech. They become the oppressors, in one fell swoop.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 09/01/2023 23:36

The female musician Halsey has requested she/her and they/them, and demands that publications interviewing her alternate between using she/her and they/them in the copy.

She/They's been watching too much Ted & Ralph from The Fast Show - and that fruit & veg game that Ted plays with his mates down the pub!

WinterSnowing · 10/01/2023 00:36

Honestly I think I am more concerned about real human rights abuses such as in Iran, than getting someone’s pronouns right. One is harm, another is just someone’s preference so I know where my energy lies.

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