Women's rights general conversations

[Kucingsparkles]

This is an experimental thread, all input much appreciated!

There is so much excellent information and so many active discussions on FWR that I wondered if it would be useful to have a thread to sort of "cross-fertilise" between them - airing little thoughts or vignettes that wouldn't themselves merit their own thread, to highlight other posts/threads of particular interest or to point to notable developments on fast-moving threads so that casual observers know where to look.

(For example, "the X thread has meandered onto a fascinating discussion of Y" or "Poster P's amazing analysis on thread Z might have relevance to the scenario in thread W" or even "Random bloke asked me to smile while I was choosing onions, grr"- that sort of thing).

Right, bring on the flames or flowers! <cowers>

@Kucingsparkles , don't tell anyone our ages. I've not mentioned it...

That. Married men and single women are the happiest.

Tipping my cynical hat to you all this afternoon, I think it's because it's true what we often hear, that marriage is more advantageous to men than women.

Heh! I think not a few are looking to get looked after.

@MavisMcMinty What did you say to the mother?

I share the general lack of enthusiasm for re-coupling if my lovely other half was gone. I do have some very good male friends who do seem like decent sorts which makes me hope that there are other good sorts out there, but I don’t know that I would think finding one or t

Such stupid fat fingers.

I’m not finding one of them is important enough to me to try, rather than just stay single.

I can tell you that mine came out of the blue. I met him very briefly at a GUT meet-up and then again quite casually (on my part but not his) three months later when he offered to show me around a city I was visiting, and it all took off from there.

We all experience grief differently of course, but I do wonder at the new wife being so happy to marry someone whose previous wife died only 6 months previously.

it would be a red flag to me to be honest, I’d be concerned about his state of mind and any unresolved grief and family issues and the impact on our relationship. But then I’m older than 31 and in the hopefully unlikely event that something untoward and untimely happens to DH, I would also consider myself done with dating/men etc. And build a new single life.

I'd seek out the women at the Fila conference above and harass them to be my new besties and set up a older single lady commune. Imagine how cool that would be? Friends with the old school feminists! Amazing!

There's an FWR thread about this now, you might want to link to the academics board thread one on there?

Universities legal obligation new report by David Renton www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/4693942-universities-legal-obligation-new-report-by-david-renton

Good idea.

A downside of being single is the single income of course. But even if I were in a relationship I’d want to ensure I was financially secure enough to go it alone so I wasn’t trapped. Very difficult for single people to get on the housing ladder if they don’t have the help of family money.

Being older helps there, too. We had it good. Maybe the best lives of people who have ever lived/will ever live.

I'd like this as a tee shirt!

Get one made, DameMaud! I'd like one too.

Need copyright from Mavis! 😂

It’s yours, with my blessing. x

Break out the printing kit, Maud!

@CyanCyan What did you say to the mother?

Not much, probably, my job was to listen, and to reassure her that no feelings/emotions are unreasonable.

@funnelfanjo I do wonder at the new wife being so happy to marry someone whose previous wife died only 6 months previously. It would be a red flag to me to be honest

Young widowers with adorable children seem to be a magnet for some women, when I doubt young widows with adorable children would be quite so attractive to men. But I’m probably being sweepingly stereotypical here.

@Britinme Wow, I remember your husband dying suddenly, and can’t believe it’s been 20-odd years already. xx

Great! That's Christmas sorted😉

Sorry. Posting time delay!

I had a girlfriend many years ago, probably 25 years ago, so before porn culture became quite so omnipresent. She wanted me to treat her roughly, pull her hair etc, but choking was never even thought of. I wouldn't do what she wanted as I knew she'd had a roughish upbringing and expressed regret at how promiscuous she was in her teenage year (her words).

I did wonder whether I was denying her agency, but couldn't bring myself to act that way, not least because I'd get no enjoyment from it.I know what pain is like and I don't see the fun in it ( I had a brief fling some years later where my partner bit me on the testicles).

@MavisMcMinty - amazing how long some of us have known each other online! Husband died February 2001, I remarried August 2002.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-europe-63863088

Just started a thread about this - women being fitted with contraceptive devices without their knowledge or consent.

Bloody hell, that's outrageous. How many women has this happened to?