The trouble with wanting your work place to be an extension of your youth work project for vulnerable teens, is that it requires a lot of youth workers running around behind you doing all the enabling and pandering and listening and praising and bolstering and facilitating. And the primary goal of that is your being supported to achieve your personal goals, your happiness with your needs being met, your expressed satisfaction with your youth worker's care and support of you - sounding familiar yet?
It's not compatible with providing a service to anyone else, or doing anything that involves something disliked, and definitely doesn't involve having to deal with boundaries and expectations. Call ofsted and report the youth worker, she's Not Doing It Right.