36 year old, liberal, university educated person here.
It's so fucking patronising and insulting.
Of all the things that annoy me the most about gender ideology, the claims that it is "progressive" are right up there.
No, it does not "make sense" to say that trans women are women if you have spent more than two minutes thinking about what a woman actually is. If you remove biological sex from the equation, all you've got left is stereotypes.
Gender is nothing more than the regressive, sexist cultural baggage that generations of humans have chosen to attach to being male or female. Take having a female reproductive system out of the equation and what you've got left is basically: be kind; become a nurse, not a doctor; be ladylike; don't ask for a pay rise; get married before you're "on the shelf"; take your husband's surname; have babies; be a stay at home mum; don't be a stay at home mum, go out and work for less money than your male colleagues, but make sure you stay on top of the childcare and housework because that's your job; wear makeup and heels because you need to look pretty; shave your legs and armpits and get your pubic hair waxed; wear sexy clothes but try not to get raped because if you do people will say you were asking for it, or alternatively, wear a burkha but try not to get raped because if you do you'll be stoned to death for adultery.
Now there is absolutely nothing wrong with becoming a nurse rather than a doctor, or taking your husband's surname, or wearing makeup, or shaving your body hair if that's what you choose to do. But let's get real here. Gender just means the bullshit expectations which are placed on people because of their sex. The expectations placed on women are generally restrictive, whilst the expectations placed on men are generally liberating, although the weight of these expectations can be negative for men too.
So what on earth is a trans woman identifying with? Liking the colour pink and wearing dresses? That doesn't make you a woman and the idea that it does is regressive and insulting. Eddie Izzard was far more progressive when he considered himself a man who liked pink and wearing dresses. That's breaking gendered stereotypes. Claiming that you are a woman because you like pink and wearing dresses isn't defying stereotypes, it's reinforcing them.
Now of course I accept that a small number of people have debilitating dysphoria and feel very strongly that they were born in the wrong body and should have been the opposite sex. And for some of those people, cross sex hormones and surgery may help to alleviate their discomfort.
But the idea that we need to redefine what a woman is to accommodate not just these people - many of whom are not even asking us to redefine what a woman is for their sake but just want to live their lives in the way that makes the most sense to them - but also people who don't have genuine dysphoria but just want to have access to women's spaces and/or to be part of a special class of people who can do no wrong, is just absurd.
Especially when we're no longer just talking about pronouns, but about male inmates in women's prisons, male athletes in women's sports, male patients on women's hospital wards and women no longer having access to single sex support after they've been raped.
These woke young idiots who work for the BBC and think trans people are the most oppressed of all haven't given a moment's thought to people like Cheryle Kempton who was assaulted in prison by Karen White, because she's just not on their young, educated, middle class radar.
I think it's very telling that the issue which is finally making a few more young, educated, affluent people sit up and say "hey, that's not very fair" is women's sport. I mean, yeah, it's not fair, and whatever it takes to make people wake up, I guess. But it's because young, wholesome, female athletes are sexier and more relatable than immigrant women who don't speak any English seeking refuge from domestic violence, or practising Muslims who need single sex changing spaces due to their religious beliefs, or women in prison for stealing to buy drugs.