If I was to ‘live as a man’ from tomorrow, what would I do?

[TheOGCCL]

I don’t pretend to be an expert in trans issues but I am fascinated by how society drives gendered behaviour.

I believe anyone wanting to change gender would normally ‘live’ as the opposite gender for a while, or even permanently. But what does that mean? What would I need to do to live as a man? I’m guessing use male facilities but anything else? Grow a beard? Plenty of men are clean shaven.

I don’t wear dresses or skirts or have long hair, so why do trans females sometimes think this is part of living as a woman?

IMO you would need to poo at work.

Every man I know seems happy to go for a long poo during work time with no embarrassment at all. Most of my female friends (and myself) are far more inhibited about this. I cannot imagine - in the absence of IBS or some kind of medical need - ever happily doing this.

Stop seeing dust, or mess, or laundry.
Stop hearing cranky kids.
Stop reading any sort of instruction manual.

Start taking 30 minute poos.
Start mansplaning.
Start tapping the top of any doorframe you walk through.

Unless you buy into stereotypes there's nothing, is there.

Get paid more?

Get a pay rise?

Fart more.

Change your body language to be more confident (definitely manspread)

I would get up and have a quick shower, whack on basically the same outfit every day and go to work.
How liberating vs having to wash and dry hair, apply makeup, dress in lots of different styles, accessorise etc. It’s such a bloody waste of brain power (and yet I do it every day)

In the same way that 'living like a women' has no real answer.
Unless you are looking for answers that are stereotypes, there is no answer.

Stop sitting with your knees together, particularly on public transport.

Scratch your crotch regularly and publicly?

Pee standing up
shave your beard?
can’t think of anything else
though in our house, you’d get to put the bins out 😁

Open your legs very wide when sitting on the tube. And get huffy at anyone sitting next to you who objects.

Apply for jobs and promotions you're totally unqualified for.

Develop an inflated sense of entitlement.

Give unsolicited opinions to women.

Talk over women.

Tell women to smile, they’d look so much prettier.

I don’t wear dresses or skirts or have long hair, so why do trans females sometimes think this is part of living as a woman?

For many years dressing in a stereotypically female way for a substantial period of time was required before trans women were allowed to get a gender recognition certificate. This was (is?) one of the ways that they needed to prove themselves to their psychologist. That might be one reason.

Lycra. Definitely Lycra.

Be gravely ill when your significant other happens to be ill.

Make sure everyone knows about it.

Also wear the dressing gown of doom to signify just how poorly you are.

Buy a road bike

I’m an actual woman and I’m happy to poo at work, so it isn’t that.

if I was to become a man I’d expect to be able to have a hobby without being made to feel guilty about it.

Get in to a hobby and don’t shut up about it

Relinquish yourself of any family mental load.

And get them!

Adjust your balls

On a family day out you’d need to not bother getting anyone but yourself dressed, don’t think about packing a bag with essentials for your children and then go and sit in the car impatiently moaning about why it’s taking everyone else so long to get ready to go.

Haha the poo thing ! What is with that! My partner says he likes to read on his phone but why do this when you’re having a shit ? Anyway, you would need to announce you are a man and do the male pronoun thing. Maybe change your name if you like. Then after that point all the suggestions in the thread are very helpful. Do keep in mind that if you fancy getting pregnant and having babies that is perfectly consistent with being a man and won’t in any way impede your “living as a man” for a year goal.

i would suggest you start random conversations with women in the street , cafes , bus stops , waiting areas. Just talk at them. Tell them to smile.