Hi my teenage daughter has told me there is a boy who identifies as a girl changing with the girls in their communal changing room. I have emailed the school who have confirmed this and stated that cases are dealt with individually but in most cases “trans students would have access to the changing room or toilet that corresponds to their gender identity. This approach is supported by the equality act 2010” None of the parents have been informed. Some of the girls are uncomfortable but do not feel they can say anything as they are afraid of being accused of transphobia.
My other daughter in year 9 has 3 girls in her class now identifying as boys (changed name and pronouns). Surely if they want to change in the boys changing rooms they will be allowed to too?
I’ve contacted safe schools alliance and I intend to challenge this policy. My question is, is this the norm? What is your schools policy on transgender kids and changing rooms and has anyone been in a similar position where you challenged this policy and what was the outcome?
Feminism: Sex & gender discussions
School allowing boy to change in girls changing room secondary school
Saffy6 · 23/04/2022 11:43
Whatwouldscullydo · 30/04/2022 12:49
The wrong body is no longer a thing you realise that?
Its transphobic to say kids are in the wrong body.
Whatwouldscullydo · 30/04/2022 12:54
So if someone is telling them they are in the wrong body then they are lying yes?
Teachers shouldn't be using thay term or telling kids they are in the wrong body.
So any reference to a lady/girl brain is a lie and so what's it all based on then?
What is female about this male child that means they are a girl and belong in with the girls?
Whatwouldscullydo · 30/04/2022 14:31
Its exactly the point though.
That they deem this male child a girl but no one agrees what a girl is.
And in your desperation to disagree with us we so far have - this child male child deserves privacy but you don't understand why we need single sex facilities.
Teachers will lose their job for telling kids they aren't in the wrong body but you concede that there's no such thing as the wrong body as quoted by the experts themselves.
You think enforcing a legal right to a single sex space is favouring girls over boys even though the boys have a single sex space too.
The girls striking is unkind and unnecessary and if they are half with lesbians I the changing room.they should be OK with a male.
You claim.to know or work with trans people but cannot define.trans or gender identity ajd cabt explain why this child should be in with the girls.
Whether or not you think we think we are right at least we can define terms .
MrsOvertonsWindow · 30/04/2022 14:54
If you actually look at comments that stopwaitingforpermissiontobeyou has contributed to this thread, it's very revealing:
(I had a bored moment & c & pd some of their comments):
"It's good to know you just hate men and 12 year old boys are copping for it. Sad, really.
It must be fun living in MN world where trans people are not real people.
same old argument of women and girls trumping everyone else,
no need for your hysteria about forcing
What I object to is the instant up in arms when it comes to women
Pathetic.
Is there a word for people who hate men? I mean I know there's misogyny, but are you just so superior as a woman you've deleted that as well?
Oh wait. You didn't give her advice. you just jumped straight on to make 12 year old boys collateral i your war against big horrible men.
If OP's child was a son, would you be here? no
I asked you to prove where a boy being in a girls changing room in PE statistically is a danger.
You've jumped in on a discussion with your sexist ways and thought you were clever. You're not.
How many of the above posts are OK with lesbian pupils in the changing rooms with the girls?
What is the problem with the boy being in the changing room? In case a girl sees a penis? give me strength.
Okay. So they're fine with someone who might fancy them and look at them but not someone who might have zero interest in them but has gasp a penis."
Whatwouldscullydo · 30/04/2022 14:42
But you don't understand why we have them?
So which is it?
And you said this child is in.all.other respect s a girl but you haven't told us what a girl is.
Nellodee · 30/04/2022 19:29
How interesting that compiling a list of quite aggressive posts is seen to be bullying.
stopwaitingforpermissiontobeyou · 30/04/2022 19:25
Copying qnd pasting comments from numerous pages of my quotes to numerous posters (cherry picking quotes) in order to incite a pile on is pretty foul behaviour. .
All that is revealing here is that you are a bully.
MrsOvertonsWindow · 30/04/2022 14:54
If you actually look at comments that stopwaitingforpermissiontobeyou has contributed to this thread, it's very revealing:
(I had a bored moment & c & pd some of their comments):
"It's good to know you just hate men and 12 year old boys are copping for it. Sad, really.
It must be fun living in MN world where trans people are not real people.
same old argument of women and girls trumping everyone else,
no need for your hysteria about forcing
What I object to is the instant up in arms when it comes to women
Pathetic.
Is there a word for people who hate men? I mean I know there's misogyny, but are you just so superior as a woman you've deleted that as well?
Oh wait. You didn't give her advice. you just jumped straight on to make 12 year old boys collateral i your war against big horrible men.
If OP's child was a son, would you be here? no
I asked you to prove where a boy being in a girls changing room in PE statistically is a danger.
You've jumped in on a discussion with your sexist ways and thought you were clever. You're not.
How many of the above posts are OK with lesbian pupils in the changing rooms with the girls?
What is the problem with the boy being in the changing room? In case a girl sees a penis? give me strength.
Okay. So they're fine with someone who might fancy them and look at them but not someone who might have zero interest in them but has gasp a penis."
OnlyFoolsnMothers · 23/04/2022 11:49
Awful and i would be telling every parent and telling my child to not to PE until the matter is resolved correctly- I would not let this go
Bewaldeth · 30/04/2022 21:20
I find a lot of posts from this one poster very aggressive.
MrsOvertonsWindow · 30/04/2022 19:52
I will leave it to posters to judge for themselves whether your responses to women in your numerous posts on this thread encourage respectful debate or not. I hope nobody will "pile on" you. MNHQ allow open and rigorous discussions but will always clamp down on bullying.
The rights of our daughters to single sex spaces are very important and hopefully this thread can get back on track when the OP reports back on the responses she gets from the school.
stopwaitingforpermissiontobeyou · 30/04/2022 19:25
Copying qnd pasting comments from numerous pages of my quotes to numerous posters (cherry picking quotes) in order to incite a pile on is pretty foul behaviour. .
All that is revealing here is that you are a bully.
MrsOvertonsWindow · 30/04/2022 14:54
If you actually look at comments that stopwaitingforpermissiontobeyou has contributed to this thread, it's very revealing:
(I had a bored moment & c & pd some of their comments):
"It's good to know you just hate men and 12 year old boys are copping for it. Sad, really.
It must be fun living in MN world where trans people are not real people.
same old argument of women and girls trumping everyone else,
no need for your hysteria about forcing
What I object to is the instant up in arms when it comes to women
Pathetic.
Is there a word for people who hate men? I mean I know there's misogyny, but are you just so superior as a woman you've deleted that as well?
Oh wait. You didn't give her advice. you just jumped straight on to make 12 year old boys collateral i your war against big horrible men.
If OP's child was a son, would you be here? no
I asked you to prove where a boy being in a girls changing room in PE statistically is a danger.
You've jumped in on a discussion with your sexist ways and thought you were clever. You're not.
How many of the above posts are OK with lesbian pupils in the changing rooms with the girls?
What is the problem with the boy being in the changing room? In case a girl sees a penis? give me strength.
Okay. So they're fine with someone who might fancy them and look at them but not someone who might have zero interest in them but has gasp a penis."
Bewaldeth · 30/04/2022 23:13
Aggressive and self pitying. I won't be engaging further, thank you, there seems little point.
There is no witch hunt, just people calling out poor behaviour.
Having said that, I'm pleased you're reflecting. We love a good robust debate on here and I for one would be happy to engage in that if I felt it was being done in good faith.
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