If people don't want Debbie Hayton on UK News discussing this, fine... then show me the other people who will talk about what's happening to our kids.
This is a very unfair statement. UK feminists have been battling to get mainstream media airtime, to do the very thing you want - talk about the damage the trans movement is doing to our children. Time and time again, they were excluded from mainstream media discussion in favour of panels consisting of all biological males, i.e. men who identify as men and transwomen. This happened as recently as last year, when BBC's Moral Maze discussed trans women in female sport. They did not bother asking a woman to participate, instead had 2 trans women with opposing views, Joanna Harper and the ubiquitous Debbie Hayton, who has no expertise of women and sport. In the same week, BBC Women's Hour chose to speak to only a trans woman (Jo Harper again) on Twin women's sport. Dr Emma Hilton (pretty much the expert on the matter) was on standby to speak to BBC Women's Hour on the same topic. She was not called, Emma also asked why Moral Maze had not asked her to speak IIRC. Likewise, the otherwise excellent Nolan Report series gave a prominent, whole episode discussion place to Debbie Hayton, which could have gone to any one of a large number of knowledgeable and keen to talk to the media feminists who would have been more representative of the GC side than Debbie, not to mention, the woman's side. When biological women have been interviewed by the mainstream, they were treated with extreme hostility, a treatment I have never heard Debbie Hayton receive. It is hard to get your message across when you are dealing with an interviewer who sounds like they have already pre judged you as a hateful, bigot and a hysterical pearl clutcher, and this is what female interviewees, got time and time again and are still getting (most recently, Maya Forstater on Woman's Hour last week, and Posie on LBC a few weeks ago). Now, times have changed a lot, and those strong women can more than hold their own when they get that kind of media treatment. Thanks to women not giving up, the public and politicians know what is going on and can see our side. But there was a point, about 4 years ago, when were screaming into the void. Women were relieved that Debbie was being given a fair hearing because we were not, and he gave us a "shield" against accusations of transphobia. Only in hindsight do I realise how crazy that relief was - I view it as a type of Stockholm Syndrome brought about by the sheer frustration and fear, that women were feeling at the time, of being either unheard or misunderstood.
As terryleather pointed out, Debbie Hayton is the person that wrote guidance recommending TW be honoured with pronoun usage and access to female toilets. That's not a friendly or even neutral position to take where your children are concerned. When higher education establishments adopt those sorts of trans friendly policies, it trickles downwards to the institutions that look after your children. We are battling the trans agenda in our schools where it is being used to indoctrinate our little children precisely because the Debbie Haytons of this world have normalised it in the adult world. People like him helped open the doors to a societal shift that you and other parents are struggling to now shield your children from. The TRA agenda is the AGP agenda, and DH has AGP, this is no secret. It's an agenda of validation and normalisation of an adult paraphilia amongst the young, and projecting that onto the feelings of vulnerable children to make them believe they are one and the same. I amazed that you are unable to see that.
Did you know that Stella O'Malley did a documentary featuring Debbie Hayton and his wife, Stephanie, a couple of years ago (2018ish)? Many of us were shocked by the piece, and moved by Stephanie, who seemed miserable. I was appalled by SO'M's interview (on GAWL) with DH at the end of last year, where SO'M basically did a hit piece on her own documentary, claiming it had been edited in such a way as to give the wrong impression to all us idiots who thought Stephanie was distressed, like so many of the trans widows we hear from on this board. I'll copy and paste what one commentator to that interview said, because it basically sums up how I feel on this:
There's quite a bit of defensiveness from you Stella, at the start of this when discussing the film. Apparently viewers misinterpreted how Stephanie felt about Debbie's transition, but that's just because the video was edited out of sequence to make it Stephanie look really sad. Why would you do that then? Isn't it a bit manipulative? I know this is down to the editors and director but you were at pains to point out that Debbie and Stephanie were both happy with the segment before it went out. [Indeed, DH in this interview was very complimentary about the original piece on him and Stephanie, both had been shown it and given their approval before it aired, and both felt like it was a fair reflection of their situation - so why did Stella then diss it?] We're not just basing our impressions on the short segment in your film, there was also the long interview that Debbie and Stephanie did for Straight Spouse Network. [Now called Our Path, where this interview can be heard] As I've said elsewhere, I have no problem with Debbie talking about his own experience, the problem comes when he inserts himself into the women's movement or speaks to the media on behalf of women. It's not an appropriate role for a man with a paraphilia and it makes it very difficult for trans widows or adult children of trans parents to participate if he's on the platform.
I have zero problem with Debbie Hayton having a voice in this game as Debbie Hayton, friendly AGP, who acknowledges his paraphilia and his maleness. That in itself is an important voice to counter the TWAW mantra and the ever expanding trans umbrella. But when Debbie Hayton's voice is substituted for that of a biological woman - as if the agenda of an AGP male can ever be the same as that of biological women - then that is a problem. I understand that you are thinking about your children so you are happy with any voice you feel supports you. We all are thinking about our children, as well as ourselves as women and the vulnerabilities that entails, and our female relatives, especially our elderly. But there is a wider picture. That's the defence of women's ability to speak freely, for ourselves, without deplatforming, and to be given an equal voice in a matter that negatively effects only us in the most fundamental ways. Take away women's right to speak and you may as well kiss your children's welfare goodbye. Women are the gatekeepers of children, that's why TRAs don't want us to have a voice. Every time Debbie Hayton purports to speak for us, one of us is being silenced.
And I have to say, UK women have been on this, talking about this and campaigning about this for years now, certainly the women who first took the Spartacus oath here 6 or so years ago and opened my eyes. That's why the UK is called Terf Island. Please don't lecture us about speaking out and there being no time. We have been. Half the women (and a notable number men) who are prominent in the news as GC commentators learned what they know from these pages. We have supported through donating to crowd funders, written to our MPs, filled out interminable surveys, challenged our schools, supported channels like Stella's and Glinners and spread the word about them, bought the books, tweeted until banned, worn the T-shirts, stood and protested, alienated ourselves from friends and families who think we are unkind terfs. Many brave women no longer sit behind pseudonyms and avatars and have put themselves out there, they and their families subject to threats and vilification. We have done our bit and then some and do so every day. We are allowed to have differences of opinion, we don't have to love everyone in the GC movement or everything they say and believe, and we are allowed to state our opinion without being troll hunted and labelled as TRAs.