I am so fed up of "ooh the debate has become so toxic" said by anyone who wants to sit on the fence and pretend that it's just some kind of cat fight between two equally unreasonable sides.
Of course women are going to get angry when men are saying they can BE them and have everything that's set aside for them. And yet the TRA side is by far the more aggressive, threatening, mendacious and illegal in its behaviour while the feminist side's "toxicity" mainly amounts to stating facts.
If I say I identify as you and therefore genuinely am the same as you and should be able to come in your house at will and help myself to your stuff, and so should anyone at all who simply says they're you, you're going to object and be upset and angry I think.