I haven't read this thread yet so someone has probably already made this point but I am listening to the podcasts at the moment and I am finding the interview with the non binary person interesting.
They don't feel like they are a man or a woman, they don't feel like they have a gender identity. They just feel like themselves.
So they define as agender non-binary.
Whereas I don't feel like a man or a woman. Just myself. I don't feel like I have a gender identity.
So I kind of assume gender identity is bullshit.
And accept that my biological sex (female ) is relevant to some things (usually stuff to do with my body and society's treatment of women) and not others (usually regressive gender stereotypes).
It is interesting because I thought I had quite a lot in common with them, as someone who is attracted to people of both sexes but with more of an attraction to personality than physical attributes.
I am sure there are micro labels for me in this brave new world. But I'm fine with woman or bisexual woman. I am gender non conforming, but I don't know why I would need to label myself that as I never assumed that most women conform to most gender stereotypes not least because they are contradictory.
When my youngest was born in 2012 I was concerned about how pink versus blue all the kids stuff was, and supported the let toys be toys and clothes be clothes campaigns when they came out. My son is a boy with long hair. That doesn't make him a girl.
I wonder if as we stereotype kids play, clothes and interests less, the perceived need for all these labels will fade. I hope things go that way rather than labelling kids who play with the "wrong" stuff as trans.