To Feel Really Saddened That DD's School can't say Daughter or Girl

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I went to a my DD's high performing Central London Girls school last night for an introduction to year 8 where they mainly talked about attendance.

We then had a talk by the form tutor in the classroom. I noticed that during the entire form tutor chat she was referring to the girls as children. This wasn't an accident because at one point she nearly said daughters but stopped herself. I've noticed my daughter talking about the girls in her class as "people". I've also seen her gender PHSE work from year 7 which says if you misgender someone it is an act of violence. Hmm what about obliteration of gender?

I am profoundly dismayed by this and feel that the school is complicit in the stripping of girls/women's identities. How can "inclusivity" mean that the females have no identity whatsoever?

Am finding this whole situation really really disconcerting. Something nefarious has penetrated the school system. How can fundamental biological/physiological fact be washed away by "lived experience".

But they don't, as group, need to be referred to as daughters, as in addressing a group of adults and saying "your daughters."

No one has said they shouldn't be called girls, the OP specifically raised the issue of a teacher who was going to say your daughters changing it to your children. They are children, they weren't being called anything offensive.

I also lost a parent as a child, my husband has no memory of his father as he was a babe in arms when his father died. If you were happy good for you, some children have issues that maybe you didn't.

The fact that years ago people were insensitive to the feelings and needs of vulnerable children doesn't mean it is OK.

I had a neighbour who was fostering a little girl with a very troubled background, when neighbour asked the school to be more sensitive guess what the response was? The Head paraded certain schools at assembly and announced, "Ali is different as his parents are from Pakistan, May is different as her family speak Polish at home, Annie is different because she can't live with her parents and Mrsx is her foster mother." He might as well have written a list of who to bully and yes bullying happened.

Not everyone at a school meeting is a parent, not every child is with a parent. Use appropriate language. Even the OP has agreed that daughters isn't the issue, her issue really is with girl.