My trans M2F friend may have male sexual organs but she is not male in her mind.
What is a “male mind” if it isn’t a mind (whatever that is) in a male body? A thought in the head of a male person is a male thought. Even if his thoughts are telling him he isn’t male, that is a male thought.
How can you know what’s in someone’s head? How can a man know what it feels like to be a woman? It’s literally something he cannot experience.
Your friend may be lovely. You may feel perfectly safe.
But single sex spaces were fought for and there was a reason for that. It’s partly based on a desire for privacy and dignity, but also because of the enormous and consistent difference in criminal behaviour patterns and strength between men and women.
Those things do not go away when a man claims he is a woman. The only study to examine criminal offending concluded men continued to offend in a male pattern, including violent offending, even after a meaningful medical transition.
That should have been a red flag for all those gaily signing away women’s rights. As an absolute minimum, women’s safety should have been a consideration when moving men into their spaces was discussed. It wasn’t.
And now here we are in this impossible situation, where even some women put the feelings of their male friends over those of every other woman and child that might be using that space.
Third spaces are a viable way and should have been implemented as soon as men started to demand access to women’s spaces, or started to use them without permission. A society that does not recognise the importance of women’s rights and doesn’t even consider women when they are principally affected is a deeply misogynistic society.