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Are you put off booking a holiday in Scotland by the Marion Miller case and the Scottish police carping about stickers?

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ChristinaXYZ · 03/06/2021 16:54

I know that the chances of being harassed by the police on holiday are minimal but the whole atmosphere: law changes, the SNP attitude to women, the police tweeting about stickers etc - would you really want to holiday in such a pool of chilling effects? It is really changing how I feel about Scotland (in the sense of those currently running it - I'm not blaming the average Scot obviously) and I know if I went there it would be on my mind all the time. Chilling effects do not equal a holiday feeling is what I am saying I guess.

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BuffysBigSister · 22/08/2021 13:50

[quote MargaritaPie]Allegedly Marion Miller and friends had the police called on them last night at an establishment in Edinburgh to ask them to leave.

This is an archived tweet thread of the owner's perspective. Allegations include leaving Gender Critical material behind in bathrooms, shouting at staff, other customers complaining about the group and the group declining to leave. Marion appears to deny any wrongdoing on her Twitter.

web.archive.org/web/20210822100123/https%3A%2F%2Ftwitter.com%2Fmebisdead%2Fstatus%2F1429205870378995718%3Fs%3D21[/quote]
You're a bit late to the party Margarita. Seems like everyone here is up to speed on what happened.

MargaritaPie · 22/08/2021 13:51

Is there a thread on it?

littlbrowndog · 22/08/2021 13:53

It’s not trendy really. But next to the uni. Also in a very busy tourist area

yourhairiswinterfire · 22/08/2021 13:54

@MargaritaPie

Is there a thread on it?
Yes, you're on it.

Conversation on this starts on page 7.

littlbrowndog · 22/08/2021 13:54

Yeah margurita you are posting on it read back

Soberanne · 22/08/2021 13:56

@AnyOldPrion sorry i didn't realise the barman phoned the police on the basis he recognised her, i stupidly assumed there must be more to it as

This is actually very concerning. I 100% agree that woman should be able to live without fear, be able to wear what they want etc and feminists have the right to freedom of speech.

But i also feel that trans people deserve the same. It doesnt have to be one or the other.

Datun · 22/08/2021 14:03

[quote MargaritaPie]Allegedly Marion Miller and friends had the police called on them last night at an establishment in Edinburgh to ask them to leave.

This is an archived tweet thread of the owner's perspective. Allegations include leaving Gender Critical material behind in bathrooms, shouting at staff, other customers complaining about the group and the group declining to leave. Marion appears to deny any wrongdoing on her Twitter.

web.archive.org/web/20210822100123/https%3A%2F%2Ftwitter.com%2Fmebisdead%2Fstatus%2F1429205870378995718%3Fs%3D21[/quote]
All this aggressive man seems to be saying is that they made people feel uncomfortable and threatened. Although he alleges they shouted, he doesn't say anything about what they were shouting. No words. And when challenged about what they actually said, he just says they're cunts.

I don't believe for a single second that they said anything in the slightest bit threatening.

In fact they were having a meal which they had booked for. It was only when Marion showed up, and he recognised her that he kicked off.

Hopefully there will be CCTV footage.

NecessaryScene · 22/08/2021 14:17

But i also feel that trans people deserve the same. It doesnt have to be one or the other.

Indeed. I don't think any women here are demanding the right to throw trans people out of pubs for their beliefs.

We'd settle for no belief-based out-of-pub-throwing from either side.

KittenKong · 22/08/2021 14:22

[quote Soberanne]@KittenKong sorry i didn't realise that he called the police solely on just recognising her. I had assumed they must have been doing something to attract his attention, as people dont normally go around calling the police.

The more i am reading this thread the more shocked i am becoming.[/quote]
The person in question tweeted that they had recognised her in a group of customers, called her a few choice names and called the police. I read on a tweet that ‘they’ (the group) hasn’t clocked them (the bartender) but they (bartenders) decided to call the police anyways just in case (thoughts you know). I’d love to hear that recording...

PurgatoryOfPotholes · 22/08/2021 14:36

You should all read this thread for a perspective on what's happened. It's kind of what I was thinking, but I couldn't articulate it.

twitter.com/Nichivo_/status/1429379644583727105?s=19

PurgatoryOfPotholes · 22/08/2021 14:49

If Twitter is acting up for you, this is the twitter thread I just linked.

A perspective of the Edinburgh pub/Marion Millar fiasco from 2 experienced bar workers.

Firstly, the person putting themselves forward as the bar's manager has not been particularly specific about what it was that they were doing that was threatening.
(Not sharing screenshots cos I don't want to add oxygen to them, for their benefit: they seem to be a hyper-online person & that is part of the issue of what has happened - more on that in a bit.)
But anyway, "threatening" behaviour & making other guests feel uncomfortable are justifiable reasons to eject ppl.

But the only single action cited was "they left leaflets in the toilet." That's not ok, but in our experience, not something a smart bar manager would eject over.

Rather, we would bring them back to the group & tell them they can't leave it anywhere on the premises; not even anything to do with the content. We don't have other brands, campaigns or anything on display. It clutters the place up & ruins the atmo when ppl are wanting to relax.
This happens all the time, btw. Political leaflets, adverts for new rivals bars, charities, business cards. Some places might have a community board, or allow a local event poster on a toilet door. The bars & pubs I worked in, however, were no soliciting at all kind of places.

The bar manager doesn't specify any other action the group took that would be stepping over a line, however.

If they had been approaching other guests & handing out the leaflets, that would have been immediate grounds ejection.
As would have abusive or aggressive behaviour with the other guests, or (happened to me once) using the busy bar as an opportunity to give what is undoubtedly to their mind a rousing speech, & not shutting up when asked.
Obvious McObvious, but you need good reasons to eject guests.

The guests are there to spend money, you want them there.

Ejecting risks sacrificing the bill. It causes a ruckus, ruining the atmosphere. It upsets other guests, who will leave if they feel unsafe.
If there are a group of guests we don't like, who we detest, we still have to serve them. And you know what, it's not difficult to get over.

Guests won't be there long; a matter of minutes or hours, & then you will probably never see them again.
Police are another level of escalation you really don't want.

Guests are far more put off by a police presence than being solicited for a political cause. They'll leave for a quieter, safer bar. No other guest is going to walk through the door while the fuzz are there either.
Point being: you only eject when you have no choice than to immediately get your undesirable guests out & the short-term stress is worth it, which it barely ever is. The vast majority of the time, we wait out dickhead guests. Simple requests to them to cool it are enough.

Obvious examples where we eject: underage drinkers, people who get violent, people who are physically sick in the communal area, people who are clearly too drunk, people who are clearly high, people who steal others' drinks.
There's another thing about this that really bothers us too.

If I were at head office at @DoctorsBar or @belhaven_pubs, & I found out a worker at one of the units we were responsible for was boasting about ejecting a guest publicly on social media, I would shit.
Seriously. I would lose my fucking head. No anonymity, no caution, just roping our business & workers right into a highly contentious political debate, no qualms about how this will look to outsiders, no qualms about sparking reprisals? And then acting constantly aggressive?
Cannot emphasise this enough. Ejections need to be justified, quick, but most importantly discreet. They should be damage controlled as much as possible to stop ppl thinking you bar is anything other than a good place to have a nice time. You need guests cos they bring money.
It already sounded a shitshow with the police involved. Everyone in the pub would know what was going on, so that's between 30-300 (depending on the size) who have that impression of your bar now.

Tweeting it has upped that to literal millions.
Cannot get over how insanely bad it is to publicise this. It takes a lot for me to side against bar staff, but fucking hell.

It's so inadvisable, I wonder if the person claiming to be the manager, is the manager. Bc no one I know wld dream of posting about smthg like this.
Again, not going to share screenshots or anything, bc whether they really are the bar manager, or just claiming it, the only reason they would be acting as they currently are is bc they are one of those most unfortunate and lamentable people. You know what I mean.

The type who has spent so much time in their Twitter/Only Fans/whatever echo chamber, the principles and ideas of that echo chamber now outweighs their better, more practical & true to life-judgement. That is now drowned out, over the sounds of a few hundred "likes."

Who cares about what immediately makes sense in the moment, when you have those? Who cares about your place of work losing literally thousands in one night, & then 10s of 1000s in the coming months. You stuck it to the symbolic terror of your feeds, as they shuffled in for a g&t.

Neither of the two ppl who contributed to this thread (Oudemia & former colleague) were there last night, & who knows, maybe we would have made the same decision. But especially to call the police, & then post it on social media with mounting antagonism, is blowing our minds.
There is a very good chance that the people who work for publicity & media @belhaven_pubs will have had a panicky phone call on a Sunday, and are now having to figure out how to respond to this shitstorm instead of spending time with their family.
I feel so sorry for all the hospitality workers who are now having to cope with this blowout. It was entirely unnecessary, and so easily descalated, and now the whole fucking shenanigan is being held up for all to see.

KittenKong · 22/08/2021 14:59

I once worked with a complete drama Queen who thought the world revolves around her. Almost every day she would burst into the office late, making a dramatic entrance because some disaster had befallen her in the way to work. Our boss loved her for some reason h by it she really was insufferable. All day she just twittered on (usually about herself), bitches about everyone else or sang (loudly and badly). Oh she was a ‘mare.

AnyOldPrion · 22/08/2021 15:08

I 100% agree that woman should be able to live without fear, be able to wear what they want etc and feminists have the right to freedom of speech.

But i also feel that trans people deserve the same. It doesnt have to be one or the other.

I don’t think anyone here would disagree with you. The best way forward I can imagine is provision of additional spaces, alongside acceptance that women’s single sex spaces should be respected for what they are.

The current problem is largely being driven by those who claim that any man who says he’s a woman must be accepted as a woman, and that no distinction is acceptable. That doesn’t work for women, so a different solution must be sought that works for everybody.

Transactivism is very well funded. If the groups pushing for men to have women’s rights and be treated as women in every respect took a different pathway and acknowledged the differences and the differing needs of the groups, then I think progress could be rapid. I want everyone to be safe, but moving men into women’s spaces doesn’t achieve that for the women.

MostlyNormalSometimesOdd · 22/08/2021 15:29

@Mojoj

What a complete and utter load of shite. Seriously? The level of ignorance in these posts about what is allegedly happening in nasty old Scotland is breathtaking😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
^ This. It would appear that you’ve garnered all your information from English based right wing media who scream SNP BAD at every opportunity. Come and visit (or don’t, we will not lose one seconds sleep if you choose to holiday elsewhere) and see for yourself there is little or no difference to anywhere in England other than our accents.
EsmaCannonball · 22/08/2021 15:40

I wouldn't be happy being managed by a male who described himself an an 'AGP porn-addict' and who considered himself trans because being 'submissive' and 'cumbrained' is how he thinks of women. The company are leaving themselves open to being sued in all sorts of different ways.

I hate that we've got to the situation where we risk being legally redefined as the most degrading porn-soaked fantasy of the very worst kinds of men.

ArabellaScott · 22/08/2021 16:11

I live here, MostlyNormal. I'm not surprised people don't want to visit. The country's infrastructure is crumbling, let alone what's happening to our democratic processes.

Soberanne · 22/08/2021 16:18

@NecessaryScene i was was actually replying to another poster. No where did I say anyone should be thrown anywhere For their beliefs. I agreed that what happened was shocking.

MostlyNormalSometimesOdd · 22/08/2021 16:23

I live here too, have done for all my 52 years, and I’m afraid I don’t understand what you mean by “what’s been done to our democratic process”.
The party who gain the most votes in democratically held elections have the majority in the Scottish Parliament, how can this be undemocratic?

PurgatoryOfPotholes · 22/08/2021 16:50

@NecessaryScene

But i also feel that trans people deserve the same. It doesnt have to be one or the other.

Indeed. I don't think any women here are demanding the right to throw trans people out of pubs for their beliefs.

We'd settle for no belief-based out-of-pub-throwing from either side.

Indeed. Like many people, I have worked in retail, and it would never occur to me to kick customers out for believing transwomen are women, any more than I would kick them out for believing in transubstantiation.
MargaritaPie · 22/08/2021 17:14

"I have family in Scotland and have always been really uncomfortable with some of their anti-English sentiments. There’s often an undertone of “poor Scotland, victimised by England”"

I know the independence thing is a little off-topic here but my view on this are rather than "Scotland is victimised by England" I think Scotland benefits from being part of the union and sharing England's stuff and other perks. England is bigger and richer than Scotland is, and at a push you could almost say Scotland is leeching off England.

eg if Scotland was independent then Scottish pilots wouldn't be part of the RAF anymore, Scotland would have its own air-force and only be able to use its own aircraft. And Scotland certainly doesn't have any top-of-the-range fighter jets or anything like that.

My views on Scottish independence? It would be bad for Scotland but good for England.

"I have the read the case regarding marion but cant see anywhere what she actually tweeted."

Media articles say there were multiple tweets (one article I think said there were 6) from 2019-20 that formed her charges. Marion has deleted everything on her twitter before Jan 1st 2021 so it's unknown what the tweets were.

"Whichever way you cut it up a woman was thrown out of a bar for her legally protected beliefs."

The bar owner did say the group were shouting at the staff and declining to leave when asked. Each side seems to be giving a different story so it seems to be one of those things only the people present knew exactly what happened.

TabbyStar · 22/08/2021 17:56

@MostlyNormalSometimesOdd

I live here too, have done for all my 52 years, and I’m afraid I don’t understand what you mean by “what’s been done to our democratic process”. The party who gain the most votes in democratically held elections have the majority in the Scottish Parliament, how can this be undemocratic?
It's not just about voting, it's that women (and a few men) have been intimidated into silence so cannot take part in legitimate debate because of threats of violence, losing work, and criminal proceedings.
ArabellaScott · 22/08/2021 18:06

MostlyNormal, I'm talking about corruption including financial 'irregularities', Sturgeon's 'presidential' leadership style, the blurring of what should be a completely apolitical civil service with a political agenda, the pushing through of a 'Hate Crime Bill' that was opposed by so many religious, press, police and legal groups I can't even begin to list them - amongst various other things.

Women are liable to be visited by the Police, arrested, face court and jail for - let me see: wearing a Tshirt that says 'No thank you'; posting a picture of ribbons on Twitter; writing chalk graffiti. Women are specifically excluded from that Hate Crime Bill, of course. Handy.

(Also, FWIW, the SNP have held a minority government since 2016.)

MostlyNormalSometimesOdd · 22/08/2021 18:07

“It would be bad for Scotland but good for England”

With that comment you betray your la know knowledge.

If Scotland is such a burden on the state Westminster would have got shot of us long ago

ArabellaScott · 22/08/2021 18:08
  • so yes, as Tabby says, democratic processes encompasses more than just elections.
ScreamingMeMe · 22/08/2021 18:14

@VeryLittleOwl

Marion Millar's tweet - sorry, this is a screenshot of a retweet of someone quoting it.
That's a very different story from the bar manager's, isn't it? Hmmmnnn...