Letter to the mother who bought my daughter a binder

[MnaWoman]

Did you do the research that I did when I told her no?
The research that shows that 97% of women who wear binders go on to have at least one negative complication. Did you believe her when she said she’d wear it correctly? Did the 97% also promise that they would wear out correctly?

Will you also buy her puberty blockers as she wants those too?
Will you take her to a doctor when she develops osteoporosis in her 20s? I developed it in my 40s after having a normal puberty. It’s part of my family’s medical history. When she develops one of the common side effects of puberty blockers like depression will you tell her that this odd what she wanted?

Will you buy her cross sex hormones as she wants those too?
And when she needs a prophylactic hysterectomy on her 20s in order to mitigate against the increased risk of cancer will you look after her while she recovers? And when she has a painful sex like due to vaginal atrophy will you tell her that you were just doing what she asked?

My daughter is 13.

I’m broken today

She needs investigating.

you must be livid. I'm so sorry.

Blimey. Who does something like that? Have you told her what you've written here?

That’s horrendous. I’m so very sorry, I feel your pain and anger. Is this a friends mother or a stranger? If it is someone you know, then please do send her your letter.

Oh gosh, OP.
Who the hell did this??
I am so sorry.
We are here to support you.

That's shocking and a massive overstep.

Child abuse.

What relation does this mother have to your daughter?

I have no idea what to say to you that will help with your emotions today but want you to know that when your anger takes over I will be here to hear you and to respond to you so that you know that you are not alone, not unreasonable, not losing your mind.

And to help you make that woman wholly aware that she has acted in a gobsmackingly poor manner and to appreciate the full consequences of her actions.

Meanwhile I hope that you and your daughter can talk and can work through this safely and sensibly together

So sorry to read you're going through this. Breathtaking audacity and stupidity - and from another mother no less. It would make you really despair. Feel very angry on your behalf.

:-/

Bloody hell I'm so sorry

To me it's the same as if she had provided your child with supplies for foot binding.

Is this someone you have to have in your life, do they have a position of authority in your daughter's life?

I think you should send her your letter.

I would be furious.
Does she know you?

That's just not on.

Send her the letter.

Can I ask what a binder is please, genuinely never heard of it

That's horrendous. How fucking dare she. So sorry you are going through this.

Honestly, get the thing and destroy it and bin it. You're her mother

She’s 13 FFS of course she hates her breasts most of us did. Binders weren’t a thing in my day thank god.

Call the NSPCC and ask what you can do about an adult sending your minor child inappropriate gifts without your consent.

Who the hell was this woman?

Oh god op

Absolutely shocking behaviour on the part of this person.
OP, I’m so sorry, I hope that you are able to sort things out with your daughter, and yes, do send the letter, this woman is not the mother of your daughter, and needs to apologise. Abuse of a minor?