I'm confused why gender critical people would both criticise trans women for conforming to stereotypical views of what it means to be a woman. And criticise specific women like Alex Drummond, and Danielle early on in transition, who don't.
I can only answer this from my perspective. I have experienced male violence, and men really scare me. It's a fact that violence and harassment are commonplace and a natal woman was murdered every three days (equivalent to) through 2020.
I can't tell which men are predators because they come from all walks of life.
But if a person who looks like a man walks into a women's toilet, I would leave fast. I'm not going to give him the benefit of the doubt by dropping my knickers behind a flimsy door. I would immediately assume he had ulterior motives by being there, because he shouldn't be. It's a useful clue to intent.
I don't doubt hardcore male predators wouldn't try to pass as a woman to gain access to these spaces and, in fact, a friend of mine had that happen to her. However, if we say that people who look like men, but identify as women are ALLOWED to walk into loos (for example), it makes life very difficult and damn scary. It becomes EASY to hurt women.
I am not saying that "transgender people hurt woman" (although there are actually transgender people in jail for sex crimes against women and children, so that does happen).
But sex predators are sex predators, and ignoring male physical characteristics just makes it a LOT easier for them to be predators if women are accused of being transphobic when a man who looks like a man walk into safe places.
Without some kind of boundary, it creates a loophole for awful men to either hurt women, or just troll them for shits and giggles by piggybacking their abuse on the safety net afforded them by making it 'hateful' for a woman to respond to her fear by reacting to a male presence.
I don't understand why people don't get this? And it distresses me enormousness that no one seems to care.