“You can't choose your identity - you can only notice what it is.”
A person can’t choose how someone else identifies them, if someone is a victim of a crime and says the perpetrator was a 6ft 5” white male wearing a sari, but that male “identifies” as a 5ft 2” Indian woman, it would be unhelpful and inaccurate to describe that person how they would like to be perceived by others, or how they perceive them self. The fact is we notice what people are and identify them in ways that correspond to material reality.
“If they have a female identity, they are trans women, and if they are attracted to other women, they are lesbians. Heterosexual mean are something else.”
Words need to be based on material reality otherwise humans cannot communicate effectively, when someone invents an ideology that proposes words include their exact opposite in the definition, e.g. white can include black, female can include male, homosexual can include heterosexual, etc., then the words black, female and homosexual lose their original meaning. It becomes a nonsense, a white person who identifies as a black person is still really a white person in reality, a male who identifies as a female is still a male in reality, and a heterosexual male who identifies as a homosexual female (lesbian) is still a heterosexual male in reality. Some may believe they are being “kind” or “polite” by going along with a person’s claimed self identity, others will refuse as they consider it racist, sexist and homophobic and find it deeply offensive. I am one of those people who will not go along with it as I find it deeply offensive. Male’s who identify as women, females or lesbians are as sexist and homophobic as a white person who identifies as a black person is racist, in my opinion. Both are members of the privileged class trying to identify as a member of the disadvantaged class, and both are equally offensive to the people whose material realities they are appropriating. A boundary is a line that distinguishes one thing from another, as well as a line that must not be crossed, males who insist on identifying as women, females and lesbians are not respecting our boundaries. Males need to learn to accept and respect female’s and lesbian’s boundaries.